Mwinamwake, amayi ambiri analota za munthu wankhanza, poganizira mtundu wa munthu wogonana. Koma lero, anthu amasiku ano amaimira njira yabwino yothetsera kugonana - kugonana kosagonana.
Ameneyu ndi ndani?
Mawuwa amachokera ku Latin sapio, ndiko kuti, wochenjera komanso wochenjera. Tanthauzo la kayendetsedwe kano - nzeru ingakhalenso kugonana. Iwo ankaganiziridwa kuti akhale mamembala a banja la Sacher-Masoch. Kwa anthu oterowo, chisangalalo chabwino chimaonedwa kuti ndikulankhulana. Koma bwanji za mawu otchuka akuti: "Kumbuyo kwake, ngati khoma lamwala," kodi izi siziri zothandiza lero?
Kodi chimachitika n'chiyani pakati pa kugonana ndi malingaliro?
Kuyambira nthawi zakale anthu akakumana ndi kulankhulana amamvetsera kukulingalira kwaumunthu kwa anthu, koma sankaganiziridwa kuti sapioexuals. Chifukwa pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa mfundo yakuti iwe ngati anthu anzeru ndikusangalala nawo. Choncho, ngati mukufuna kukambirana ndi anthu anzeru, koma osakhala ndi zizindikiro zokhudzana ndi kugonana, simukuyenera kudziyesa nokha kuti ndinu osakwatirana. Koma ngati mawu ena atsopano monga "kunyansidwa" amachititsa chibowo kumbuyo kwanu, tikukuthokozani mmodzi wa iwo.
Kodi iwo anafika bwanji?
Kodi ndi liti ndipo zinatheka bwanji kuti aluntha abwere m'malo mwa anyamata okongola komanso olemekezeka? Pa nthawiyi, pali malingaliro ambiri:
- Chisinthiko. Nthawi imene anthu ankasaka ndi kutengera chakudya cha banja lawo, adutsa, chifukwa cha ichi amadza ndi misampha yosiyanasiyana, motero amamasula nthawi yambiri yaulere. Kalekale, akazi adasankha amuna aamuna a alpha, chifukwa adayimilira pakati pa ena ofunafuna mtima wawo. M'dziko lamakono lino, mphamvu imodzi yokhala ndi moyo wosangalala imasoweka. Inde, ndipo akazi asintha, akhala ochenjera komanso okhudzidwa ndi iwo eni komanso ena. Zowonjezera, ndi chifukwa cha izi kuti zofunika patsogolo zidasinthidwa kwa amuna anzeru.
- Malingaliro a Freud. Kuwoneka kwa anyamata osakwatirana ndi zotsatira za ubwana woipa, ndiko kuti, abambo a mtsikanayo sanali wopusa ndipo sanamvere mwana wake, tsopano, pamene anakulira, akuyesera kupeza munthu yemwe angakhale wosiyana ndi chithunzichi. Kwa iye, zoyenera ndi nthumwi ya kugonana amphamvu omwe adzatha kupambana pa malo oyankhulana bwino.
- Maganizo a akatswiri a maganizo. Chiphunzitso ichi chimagwirizira kuti zonse zomwe zili padziko lapansi ndizokhazikika, ndichifukwa chake uzimu ndi nzeru zinabwera m'malo mwa kusokoneza bongo ndi kugonana. Anthu omwe amadziona ngati sapioeksualalami, amalumikizana m'magulu ndipo amanyansidwa mwakachetechete osaphunzira ndi osaphunzira. Chifukwa cha izi, amadzikuza, ndipo ndizosatheka kulowa nawo.
Ubale muwiri
Sapioexuals ndi anthu a m'badwo watsopanowo omwe samvetsera za chiwerewere, zaka, maonekedwe, ndi zina zotero, kwa iwo, zosangalatsa za kugonana ndilo buku labwino komanso wophunzira wabwino. Pamene abambo ndi amai ndi aluntha weniweni, sikuyenera kuyembekezera kuti azikhala bwino, popeza sangathe kukangana pazovala zosasamba, koma maganizo osiyana pa bukhuli angapangitse kukhumudwa kwenikweni. Komanso, mabanja oterewa angakhale ndi mavuto ndi kugonana, chifukwa akhoza kusiyana
Kutsiliza
Munthu aliyense ndiyekha ndipo amamukopa kwenikweni kumbali ina - ubongo kapena minofu kuti athetsere. Ndipo mfundo yakuti nzeru zimapangitsa munthu kukhala wachigololo, zinkamveka nthawi yayitali asanakhazikitsidwe. Choncho, mukhoza kudziganizira nokha ndi sapioeksualam, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo mutaya mwamuna wabwino yemwe mwachitsanzo, sakonda kuwerenga mabuku a Chirasha, choncho mvetserani choyamba mmoyo mwanu osati maganizo anu.