Chipepala choyamba, chipepala chachiwiri, kapena zaka khumi zomwe zadutsa kuyambira tsiku limene okondedwa awiri alowa m'banja lalamulo, akuphatikizidwa mosungiramo zochitika zazikulu zomwe zimafuna gulu la holide yabwino. Momwe ziti zidzakhalire: phokoso, ndi chiwerengero chochuluka cha oitanidwa kapena odekha ndi osakanikirana - maanja amadzipangira okha. Komabe, pakukonzekera kukonzekera phwando lalikulu kwenikweni, pang'ono chabe mpaka tsiku losaiŵalika, mwamuna ndi mkazi akuyesera kubwera ndi chinachake chokondweretsa osati okha, koma alendo onse adasonkhana. Inde, pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana komanso zosawerengeka, koma palibe aliyense amene angachite popanda mikwingwirima yosangalatsa, yosangalatsa komanso yowala kwambiri pa tsiku la ukwati.
Chaka chachisangalalo cha ukwati: zidzasangalatsa aliyense
Inde, pali chinachake chophiphiritsa pa izi. Kunena zoona, nthawi ina yapitayi, anthu omwe anali atangokwatirana kumene omwe anali asanakhale ogwirizana ndi moyo wamba, mavuto ndi chimwemwe anali nawo nawo mayesero, ndipo lero, kuyambira zaka zambiri pamodzi kapena chaka chimodzi chokha chokondweretsa, amayamba nawo mpikisano wokonzekera ukwati wawo ndikuitana abwenzi ndi achibale kuti azigwiritsa ntchito nthawi yabwino. Kotero, ntchito zosangalatsa izi zingakhale zogawidwa m'magulu angapo, ndi:
- zochitika za ophunzira: okhawo olakwira, onse oitanidwa, akazi okha, amuna okha, ana;
- mapulogalamu: ndi zizindikilo zina ndipo popanda iwo;
- chilengedwe: chogwira ntchito, chosasamala;
- mawonekedwe: gulu, osakwatiwa.
Mwina chophweka, mwa dongosolo, ndizo mpikisano wa ukwati wa ana. Popeza ochepetsedwa kwambiri ndi omwe amakhala osasangalatsa kwambiri pa phwando, akhoza kupereka zosangalatsa ndi mipira yokhala ndi mipira yomwe imayenera kuphulika kapena kudziyesa okha ngati ojambula omwe ali ndi bandeji womangidwa patsogolo pawo. Kawirikawiri, mafoni ndi zosangalatsa zimakhala zosangalatsa kwa ana, zambiri zimakhala zosangalatsa komanso chimwemwe.
Oitanidwa akuluakulu adzakhalanso okondwa ngati ana aang'ono ngati iwo akuwakonzekera iwo monga zodabwitsa masewera achiwerewere pa tsiku la ukwati. Choncho, mwamuna ndi mkazi wake ali ndi fungo lokhazika mtima pansi amatha kuona momwe mwamunayo waphunzirira zomwe mkaziyo amakonda, komanso kuti mkaziyo ali ndi nthawi yoti azikumbukira za zizoloŵezi za mwamuna wake, kutenga nawo mpikisano pogwiritsa ntchito mafunso-mayankho ndi kubwezera. Ponena za alendo, changu chawo chidzakhala chopanda malire ngati atapereka zosangalatsa zachikhalidwe ndi mipando, kumachita mogwirizana ndi mfundoyi: Ndani angayambe kumvetsera nyimbo, kapena mpikisano wapachiyambi momwe magulu awiri amachitira nawo. Zinthu zake ndi zophweka: alendo amayang'ana mmwamba ndipo mtsogoleri amauza munthu woyamba wa gulu lirilonse motsatira mawu omwe membala aliyense amasonyezera kumbuyo kwa womphatikiza ndi kalata imodzi. Gululo likupambana, lomwe pamapeto pa maseweralo lidzakhala loyamba kufotokozera zomwe woyang'anira masewero adanena.
Chikumbutso cha ukwatiwo mumatsutsano ndi zodabwitsa
Ponena za achinyamata, kukondwerera tsiku loyamba la thonje laukwati, zidzakhala zosangalatsa kubwereza chinachake kuchokera pachikondwerero chaka chatha ndikuyerekezera zotsatira. Choncho, mpikisano wokonzekera tsiku loyamba laukwatiwo idzakhala yosangalatsa kwa okwatirana kumene, ndipo mwinamwake ngakhale abwenzi ndi abambo odabwitsidwa.
Zochitika zokhudzana ndi zomwe alendo akuyenera kukwaniritsa cholinga, nthawi yoti asonkhanitse zinthu zina, kuyambitsa ndondomeko ya nthano za ana, kufotokozera lingaliro lopangidwa ndi manja, osagwiritsa ntchito mawu, kuimba nyimbo kapena kuyankha mafunso odabwitsa a mafunso oyambirira - masewera achidwi ku chikondwerero cha ukwati salola kuti anthu omwe ali ndi chibwibwi ndipo tisiyenipo malingaliro abwino okha a chochitika chofunikira.