Makolo akamapereka makhalidwe angapo omwe ali abwino kwambiri kwa ana awo, amati: "Kodi anabadwira ndani?" Ana omwe ali ndi chithunzi ichi amakula, malo awo amayamba kupachika chizindikiro china - khalidwe loipa. Koma ngati timakhulupirira kuti dziko limapeza mitundu yokha chifukwa timapaka maonekedwe athu, ndiye kuti khalidweli likhoza kukhala loipa kapena labwino?
Ndizotheka kulankhula nthawi zonse za khalidwe loipa, pakuti aliyense wa ife ali ndi mndandanda wa zikhalidwe zoopsa kwambiri zomwe zimayanjananso ndi khalidwe loipa.
Koma kaŵirikaŵiri, anthu omwe ali ndi malowa amakhala ovuta kwambiri, kuchoka ku "kusanthula maganizo" kulikonse kumeneku, kumangokhalira kunyoza ndi kukuwa. Iwo sangakhoze kuyankhulidwa ndi iwo, iwo amangowopsyeza - momwe anganeneratu pamene kupasuka kotere kudzachitika.
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Akatswiri a zamaganizo omwe amamvetsetsa chodabwitsa ichi, samangopereka tanthawuzo la zomwe zimatanthauza chikhalidwe choipa, komanso amavumbulutsira zomwe zimachitika. Pamene chinachokera "chobadwa" sichiri mwangozi. Zoona, mwanayo sali wobadwa ndi chikhalidwe choipa, chomwe chimatengedwa kuti chimafalitsidwa ndi zikhulupiliro, koma amachikoka pakukula ndi chitukuko.
Choncho, ana omwe anali ndi mwayi wokwanira kubadwa m'mabanja osayenera, kumene makolo nthawi zonse amanyansidwa, kukangana, kumvetsa ubale, ndipo pamapeto pake, amasiyana, adzakhala eni ake a khalidwe loipa.
Choyamba, chifukwa chake ndi chakuti muunyamata, pamene dongosolo lamanjenje likukula, mwana sangathe kumangokhalira kukangana. Amawatengera pamtima, zomwe zimawachitikira ndipo amachepetsa nkhawa.
M'tsogolomu, ndondomeko yotopa yotereyi idzadziwonetsera mwa kusadziletsa, kukwiya, kusamvana kwa munthuyo.
Chachiwiri, ana akuyesera kuti azindikire yemwe ali ndi mlandu. Ndipo makolo osudzulana (kapena osasudzulana) amangoonjezera zonse, kuika mwanayo ndi nkhani "Chomwe bambo anu ndi choipa osati chabwino. Inu simudzakhala mwanjira imeneyo pamene inu mukula? " Pamapeto pake, mmodzi wa makolo pamaso mwa mwanayo ndi amene amachititsa kuti mwanayo abwerere, ndipo mwanayo wabisa chinyengo chambiri chimene chidzakhala moyo wake wonse wa moyo.
Ndipo, chachitatu, ana omwe akukhala nawo pafupi amakhala ngati "zitsanzo zawo"
Kawirikawiri makolo, osadziŵa zolakwa zawo, akung'ung'udza ubongo wawo momwe angamvetsere chikhalidwe choipa cha mwana. Koma kwenikweni, khalidwe limeneli silidzadziwonetsera yekha ngati sizinali zofuna zawo kuti apeze yemwe ali ndi vuto mnyumbamo.
Limbani ndi khalidwe loipa lomwe mungathe. Muyenera kuphunzira kupumula, kupita ku maphunziro a maganizo, magulu a magulu, kusisita , kudzipangitsa kukhala okondweretsa, ndipo motero umakhala wothandizira anthu ena.