Mwa kuyankhula kwina, zolakwitsa za kugonana ndi zolakwika zogonana mu khalidwe laumunthu. Chimene chimapitirira kuposa miyambo yokhudzana ndi kugonana. Ngakhale kuti m'madera onse, nthawi inayake, zikhalidwe izi zinali zosiyana, tingathe kuzindikira mitundu yayikulu ya zoperewera, zomwe zimaganiziridwabe ngati mitundu yovuta ya maganizo.
Mndandanda wa zolakwika zogonana ndi izi:
- fetishism. Munthu amakhudzidwa ndi kugonana ndi kukhutira akaona mbali iliyonse ya thupi, zovala, chinthu, chomwe chikuyimira wokondedwa;
- transvestism. Pankhaniyi, tikukamba za kukhutiritsa zilakolako za kugonana povala zovala za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha;
- zoonetsa. Mwamuna amakhutira ndi kugonana pamene akuwonetsa ziwalo zake zamkati kwa osadziwika;
- Voyeurism. Chikhumbo kuti akazonde kugonana, anthu amaliseche. Baibulo lake limakonda kwambiri zolaula;
- pedophilia. Imodzi mwa mitundu yoopsa kwambiri ndi yoopsa ya kupotoka kwa kugonana. Zimaphatikizapo kugonana kwa ana;
- sadomasochism. Kupeza chisangalalo poyambitsa ndikumva ululu, chilakolako chogonjera mnzanu kapena udindo wapansi.
Kusiyanitsa kugonana kwa achinyamata ovuta kumakhala kofala kwambiri masiku ano. Kukula msanga muunyamata kumakhala kovuta osati kokha kusintha kwa thupi, komanso ndi maganizo. Kusakwanira kwa chidziwitso cha kugonana kumayambitsa kugonana kosakwanira komanso kotchuka. Pachifukwa ichi, mwayi wotsutsana ndi kugonana ndi wapamwamba kwambiri. M'madera ena omwe ali ndi chiopsezo chapadera pali ana omwe msinkhu wawo wautali ukugwedezekapo, kapena, mosiyana, umakula mofulumira kwambiri.
Kusiyanitsa kugonana kwa achinyamata kumadalira mwachindunji pa zochitikazo ndipo ndi zazing'ono. Ndili ndi zaka, zovuta zofanana zofanana zimatha kudutsa. Ambiri mwa awa ndi awa:
- Voyeurism (kuyang'ana pa zamaliseche, kuwona zolaula);
- chiwonetsero;
- chidwi chochuluka kwa ziwalo zoberekera za ana aang'ono kapena zinyama.
Pazifukwa ndi njira zamankhwala
Kusiyanitsa kugonana si matenda. Chithandizo chamankhwala n'chofunika kokha ngati zolepheretsa zotero zimapangitsa munthu kusokonekera maganizo ndi mavuto. Otsatira angabwere chifukwa cha chiwonongeko cha malamulo olakwika (pedophilia, cruelism cruelism).
Kuchita zolakwika zogonana kumagwiritsa ntchito njira zosiyanasiyana zamaganizo. Kuwonjezera pa kuchepetsa chilakolako chachiwerewere chosachiritsika, chithandizo chili ndi cholinga chothandizira kulandira munthu monga momwe alili. Nthawi imene chizoloŵezi chimawopsyeza anthu, njira iliyonse yothetsera matenda opatsirana pogonana imagwiritsidwa ntchito. Kuphatikiza pa chithandizo chodzidzimutsa chokhazikika pamlandu walamulo.
Nchiyani chimayambitsa zolepheretsa chotero? Zomwe zimayambitsa zolakwika zogonana zingadziwike motere:
- chibadwa chobadwa;
- kupwetekedwa kwa ubongo ndipo, motero, kusokonezeka maganizo;
- kulephera kwa mahomoni;
- kuphulika kosiyanasiyana pa chitukuko cha psyche yaumunthu;
- kuphwanya kugonana;
- mtundu wa maphunziro a kugonana.
Chifukwa chachikulu chimene chiyenera kuzindikiridwa mosiyana ndi kusokonezeka maganizo kwa mwana ali mwana. Izi zikhoza kuchitiridwa nkhanza kwa anthu akuluakulu, zochitika zosawonongeka za chiwawa chogonana kapena kugonana kosayenera, ndi zina zotero. Choncho, pokhala ndi mwana, munthu ayenera kukumbukira udindo umene umakhala nawo ndi makolo ake.
Tetezani thanzi labwino komanso mwana wamwamuna.