Kukhazikitsa ubale pakati pa anthu kumapangidwa malinga ndi malamulo odziwika bwino - kupereka moni pamsonkhano, kukondweretsa zochitika kuchokera kwa anzako, koma palibe malamulo a vowel - sakunenedwa, koma amakhala ogwirizana kwambiri ndi khalidwe la munthu m'dera. Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kunama, osati kuvulaza ena, osasintha malingaliro awo phindu?
Nchifukwa chiyani anthu amanama wina ndi mnzake?
Dziko lapansi silinapangidwe ndi ife - limakhalabe kumvera malamulo ndi kumanga maubwenzi, nthawizina, m'malo mwa choonadi ndi mabodza. Imodzi mwa mayankho a funsoli, chifukwa chake anthu amanama - wokanayo sali wokonzeka kumva choonadi, zoona zowonjezera zingawonongeke. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amapanga zifukwa zingapo zomwe zimawapangitsa iwo kunama:
- kugwirizana pakati pa achibale ndi abwenzi;
- chitetezo cha zofuna zako;
- kusowa kudzidalira - zovuta;
- Kukokomeza zochitika zenizeni;
- kutchula zosiyana ndi zomwe zili m'nkhaniyo.
Ngati kholo liwuza mwana wamng'ono kuti chithunzi chake ndi chopanda pake komanso chosangalatsa - chidzakhala nkhanza, ngakhale chiri chowonadi. Kuwuza munthu wodwala za matenda aakulu kumapha kukhulupilira kuti akuchiritsidwa pamzu, komanso nkhanza. Kulongosola malingaliro ake okhudzana ndi bwana, kuntchito, ndi kosavuta, ngati ali katswiri komanso munthu wabwino, koma ngati malingaliro okhudza iye ali osiyana, ndiye kuti - kutaya ntchito yake. Njira yothetsera vutoli ndi kubodza mosavuta.
Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kunama?
Kukhala ndi moyo, monga mtundu wa mtundu, sizingatheke kukhala magawo awiri - mabodza ndi choonadi. Makolo ena amaphunzitsa ana kuyambira ubwana - kuti azinena zoipa, kotero kuti simungathe kuchita, ndipo ena mosiyana ndi iwo, amaphunzitsa kuti zofuna zawo zili pamwamba pa malamulo onse. Momwe mungaphunzire kunama kapena osalongosola malingaliro anu kuvulaza zokonda zanu:
- Kukambirana kwakukulu ndi kosasokonezeka kuyambira patali - kumangoyang'ana ming'onoting'ono, kuyambitsa zofanana;
- Mwina woyimilirayo angaganize zomwe akunenedwa, kuti wapatsidwa "zowona", koma sayenera kumva chitsogozo chenicheni kuchokera m'kamwa mwa wolemba;
- Kusadziŵa pazinthu zina kungakhale kukangana kwakukulu, ngati wolemba nkhani akuwululidwa, sikuyenera kuvomera kulakwa.
Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji ku bodza lokondweretsa?
Malingaliro angapo momwe mungaphunzirire kupewera, koma musagwere mumsampha womwewo. Maphunziro ake akuyenga ayenera kuyamba pamaso pa galasi, akuyang'ana nkhope yake, muyenera kuyang'ana ngati mukufunikira - mwachisoni komanso mopusa, koma mogwiritsitsa. Kuwoneka wekha kuchokera kunja, kukhulupirira mu nkhani yonyenga yokha. Kuwonjezeka kwa mawu, kapena kupsinjika maganizo m'maganizo otere sikuvomerezeka.
Uzani omvetsera "choonadi chake", kuyembekezera kuti, ngati sakukhulupirira, musamangokhalira kukakamiza, kupereka mwayi woganiza, kupereka ndemanga yeniyeni yoganizira, kwezani kufanana kwake - kumbukirani zochitika pamene zolakwa zake zatsogolera zotsatira zoipa. Mfundo zabodza ziyenera kubisika potsindika mawu akuti "choonadi" ndi "zenizeni," osati kutsimikizira, koma kufotokozera. Osati kufotokozera zofuna zanu kuwonetsero, musawope kuwoneka ngati wophweka pamaso pa munthu wina.
Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kunama?
Ngati munthu amadziwika ndi mabodza pazinthu zenizeni, ndi bwino kuzindikira zolakwika zing'onozing'ono ndipo osagwirizana ndi mfundo zochepa kwambiri ndi zenizeni. Munthu wokwanira amadziwa kuti sangathe kuthandizira pakadali pano ndipo amadziwa kuti sakudziwa, zomwe zimamukakamiza kuchita zimenezo. Momwe mungaphunzire kunama mwaluso - pokambirana ndi mnzanu pa nkhani yopanda ndale, muyenera kutembenuka ndikuyang'ana mokweza, ngati ngati mnzanu akudutsa, ngati munthu akuyang'ana mmbuyo, zikutanthawuza - iye amakhulupirira, zowonadi, adasanduka nthabwala.
Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kunama komanso osati kunyoza?
Kukana bodza monga chowonadi n'zosatheka, nthawi zina, zifukwa zimayenera - palibe chosowa chowonadi, sikoyenera tsopano. Kugwiritsa ntchito mabodza ngati mankhwala okhazikika pa mavuto - tsiku lililonse siliyenera. Kuchokera pa zochitika zawo, munthu aliyense akhoza kutenga nkhani ndichinyengo, ndipo ngati wina atanena kuti samanama - akunama. Momwe mungaphunzire momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito zabodza - muzichita nthawi zonse. Zifukwa zopanda pake ndi mwayi wogwiritsa ntchito chinyengo pang'ono, phunzirani zambiri. Asayansi atsimikizira kuti chinyengo chozindikira chimawonjezera kuchuluka kwa adrenaline m'mwazi wa wonyenga, kotero ndikofunika kuphunzira panthawi izi:
- kuti asakhale wamanjenje;
- musaganizire;
- yongolani mapewa anu;
- sungani thupi lotetezeka;
- Musamangidwe kayendedwe;
- kulankhula mawu sizangufulumira;
- musagwiritse ntchito mawu a zowononga;
- Musakakamizedwe kuti kumwetulira;
- Ndikofunika kugawana mbali ya choonadi m'nkhaniyi.