Mu moyo wathu, mavuto ambiri amachitika, ang'onoang'ono osati omwe, amadzikundikira, amakwiya, amawakakamiza kuti asiye amuna awo ndikufuula pamphaka omwe aponderezedwa. Ndiye pakubwera nthawi yong'onong'ono, imene ife timayima, kutemberera mawu otsiriza a kupsinjika nthawi zonse. Ndipo panthawi ino sitikuganiza kuti popanda mantha, munthu sangathe kukhala ndi moyo. Tiyeni tione chimene chimatsindika kuti tikuyenera kuopa, ndi zomwe tiyenera kuyamika chifukwa cha mwayi wopanga.
Lingaliro la kupanikizika ndi kupsinjika mu maganizo
Kodi nkhawa ndi chiyani? Kuchokera kumbali ya munthu wotsutsana, izi ndizochititsa mantha zomwe zimatitsogolera ife, ndipo tiyenera kuzipewa. Koma changucho chimakhalanso chovuta, nanga bwanji za kusiya chikondi, kuyenda ndi nyimbo zabwino kuti musataye mtendere wamumtima wamtengo wapatali? Mwachiwonekere, lingaliro limeneli linayenderanso m'maganizo a asayansi, ndipo monga zotsatira za kafukufuku anafika kumapeto kuti sizinthu zonse zopanikizika zili zovulaza. Kwa nthawi yoyamba mfundo imeneyi inafotokozedwa ndi sayansi ya Hans Selye mu 1936, ndipo adaifotokoza kuti ndikumangika chifukwa chofuna kutero. Izi ndizo, kupanikizika ndi chilengedwe, zomwe zimapangitsa munthu kusintha momwe moyo umasinthira. Zili choncho kuti sikofunika kulimbana ndi vutoli, mwinamwake - imfa kuchokera kusintha pang'ono kokha kumbali yozungulira. Koma bwanji pangakhale mantha owonjezera omwe amatsogolera ku zotsatira zovuta zosiyana? Selye anatha kupeza yankho la funso ili, akuyesa mitundu iwiri ya nkhawa: eustress ndi mavuto. Pachiyambi choyamba, tikukamba za momwe thupi lathuli limakhalire mwachilengedwe kuti tikhale ndi moyo. Koma zowawa ndi zofanana kwambiri zomwe zimachitika chifukwa cha zovuta zambiri.
Psycholoji yamakono yowonjezera lingaliro la kupanikizika ndi kupsinjika, kuti mudziwe nthawi yomwe chithandizo chothandiza chimasintha kukhala mkhalidwe wovuta. Akatswiri a zamaganizo a ku America apanga mikhalidwe yambiri yosautsa, pomwe chochitika chilichonse chofunika chikupezeka mu mfundo. Ngati kwa chaka chaka chiwerengero cha 300 chikufika, ndiye tikhoza kukambirana za kuopsa kwa thanzi lathu. Ndizodabwitsa kuti panthawi imeneyi, zochitika zokondweretsa zimakhala zolemetsa kwambiri, mwachitsanzo, ukwati ndi kubadwa kwa mwana zimayesedwa pazigawo 50 ndi 39. Choncho, ngakhale chaka chikadzawonjezereka ndi zochitika zokondweretsa, msinkhu wamanjenje wamantha uyamba kutha. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, kuyesera kuti muthetse mtima mutatha kukhumudwa kwambiri, musaiwale za zomwe zikuchitika bwino.