Ngati tiganizira za moyo waumunthu kuchokera pamalingaliro abwino ndi olakwika, ndiye kuti chiwerengero cha anthuwa chidzalamulira. Izi zimachitika chifukwa chokhumudwitsa ndizofunikira kuti munthu amutsogolere munthu m'njira yoyenera, koma kuti asamulamulire. Koma, nthawi zambiri, m'moyo pali kusiyana. Anthu nthawi zambiri amatenga maganizo oipa, zomwe zimabweretsa mavuto aakulu, kwa munthu onse komanso kwa chilengedwe chake.
Nthaŵi zambiri, malingaliro abwino ndi oipa amayamba mwa njira zosiyanasiyana. N'zosavuta kumva zinthu zolakwika, kukwiya chifukwa cha zinthu zina, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mukhale wosangalala. Chovuta kwambiri, pokhala wovutika maganizo, pezani chifukwa chokhalira kumwetulira moona mtima. Chodabwitsa kwambiri, koma ndi champhamvu mwachilengedwe, anthu. Anthu awa ali okhoza, pakati pa zolakwika, kupeza zinthu zabwino, potero amakopa anthu omwe ali ndi chiyembekezo ku miyoyo yawo.
Kuchotsa malingaliro okhumudwa kungaoneke poyamba poyamba mtundu wina wa zovuta. Pambuyo pake, choipa, monga chithaphwi, chingakhoze kuyamwa, kuwononga munthuyo. Salola munthu kufufuza zomwe zikuchitika ndikupeza njira yabwino yothetsera vutoli.
Kugwira ntchito ndi maganizo olakwika kumakhudzana ndi ntchito za malo ogwira mtima komanso zamaganizo. Kuphulika kwa ntchito zawo kumabweretsa maonekedwe a anthu opanda pake pa chirichonse. Choyamba, tiyeni tiyesetse kumvetsetsa chiwembu chomwe chimakhumudwitsa.
- Chithunzi - chingakhale zosiyana, zochitika, kapena munthu amene mumamvetsera.
- Kufufuza ndi malo a malingaliro anu kuti adziwe mbali yeniyeni, yomwe chidwi chanu chimapangidwira. Icho chimachokera pa chidziwitso chimene mumachipeza mu moyo wanu wonse.
- Zotsatira zake ndi zotsatira za kuyesa ndikuchita monga momwe mumachitira panja kapena mkati mwathu mukuyang'ana kutsogolo.
Popeza kuti kuyesa kwanu kuli kolakwika, ndiye kuti zotsatira zake zimapangidwa mofanana. Chitukuko cha alangizi chimapangitsa kufufuza, komanso malo oponderezana - zomwe zimachitika. Kuti mumvetsetse momwe mungachotsere malingaliro oipa, muyenera kusintha kusintha kwanu pa zomwe zikuchitika, zomwe kawirikawiri zimakupangitsani inu kukhumudwa, zolakwika.
Kuti musinthe kusintha kwanu, muyenera kugwira ntchito tsiku ndi tsiku kuti mukhale ndi maganizo abwino. Monga mukudziwira, malingaliro aumunthu, chidziwitso ndi njira yomwe ingakonzedwe mosavuta ndi chithandizo cha maganizo oyenera.
Kodi mungatani kuti musamakhumudwe?
- Zosintha. Dziwani zonse za vuto lanu. Ngakhale zachilendo zingamveke, koma pang'onopang'ono pamakhala malingaliro okhumudwitsa, yambani kuwanyengerera, ndi kuwachotsa ku njovu. Yesani kuthetsa vutoli kuti inu nokha mukhale amanyazi. Patapita kanthawi mudzazindikira kuti zopusa ndi zopusa zimakhumudwitsidwa ndikukumana ndi mavuto.
- Maganizo a maganizo. Zimadziwika kuti kusamvetsetsana, mikangano ndi nkhani zoipa m'dera lanu zimakhudza thanzi lanu, maganizo anu. Mmawa uliwonse, tidziwenso zowonjezera monga: "Ndili bwino," "Ndikhoza kuchita chirichonse." Posachedwa mudzazindikira mmene mungapiririre maganizo anu olakwika. Dzipatseni malo abwino tsiku lililonse.
- Kusintha. Bweretsani zinthu zoipa zomwe zimakukhudzani ndi zabwino. Kutaya maganizo oipa, kumvetsetsa kuti ndiwe
kuwononga, m'malo mwa iwo ndi zabwino. Dziwani kuti munthu akhoza kusintha moyo wake ndi chithandizo cha maganizo. - Kulankhulana ndi chirengedwe. Tengani nthawi yopumula. Osachepera kamodzi pamlungu, khalani chete, chikhalidwe. Tengani nthawi yanu, nokha "I".
Kotero, moyo wanu udzadzazidwa ndi chimwemwe ndi mgwirizano, pamene mudzazindikira kuti ndi zopanda pake kuti mukhale ndi maganizo olakwika. Koma, ngati zakhala zikuwoneka ngati zikuphulika, tulukani mu mpweya wabwino, phulani mbale kapena kumenya mtolo. Musadzisunge nokha ndipo yesetsani kuika maganizo anu pa zabwino.