Ambiri adamva kuti munthu sayenera kukondwerera tsiku lake lakubadwa kwa makumi anai, koma ngati n'zotheka kukondwerera zaka 40 kwa mkazi, sadziwa onse. Kuti timvetsetse nkhaniyi, tiyeni titembenukire ku zizindikiro, ziwone ngati zingatheke kukondwerera zaka 40 kwa mkazi kapena bwino kupewa kuchita chikondwerero.
Kodi n'zosatheka kukondwerera zaka 40 kwa amayi?
Maziko a chikhulupiliro chakuti abambo ndi amai akhoza kusangalalira tsiku lawo lakubadwa la makumi anai ndi zochitika zambiri zozizwitsa zokhudzana ndi chiwerengero cha 40. Iyo inali nthawi yomwe Chigumula cha Padziko lonse chinapitilira, kwa masiku ambiri Ayuda ankayenda m'chipululu, nthawiyi msungwana mu mpingo sayenera kuonekera kubwezeretsedwanso. Zipembedzo zambiri zimatchula chiwerengero cha 40 ndi zovuta, zolephera, mayesero, ndi zochitika zina zosasangalatsa ndi zosautsa, kotero anthu ambiri amakhulupirira kusakondwerera masiku makumi anayi a kubadwa, poopa kuti adzabweretsa mavuto m'miyoyo yawo.
Atsogoleri a mpingo, komabe ali ndi lingaliro losiyana, amakhulupirira kuti mukhoza kusangalala zaka 40, chifukwa kukhulupirira zamatsenga ndi tchimo lalikulu. Iwo amanena kuti wina sayenera kukhulupirira kuti sizikuwonekera bwino, Tchalitchi cha Orthodox, Lutheranism ndi Chikatolika sichiletsa kulemba tsiku lawo lobadwa, mosasamala kuti zaka zingati zimachitidwa ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi. Ansembe amachenjeza kuti, motsogoleredwa ndi zikhulupiliro zosiyanasiyana, anthu samadziteteza okha, koma mosiyana, amakopera mphamvu zakuda, zomwe zimakhudza thanzi lathu ndi moyo wathu.
Maganizo a anthu ndi malingaliro awo
- Kulimbana . Ngati mumayang'ana nkhani kuchokera ku maofolomu osiyanasiyana, komwe anthu amagawana zochitika pamoyo wawo komanso nkhani za achibale awo ndi mabwenzi awo, amatha kupanga maganizo osaganizira - amuna ndi akazi ambiri amasankha kusakondwerera zaka makumi anayi. Mutatha kuwerenga nkhani, mutha kukonza imodzi yokha, mutangomaliza chikondwerero cha tsiku lino, anthu anayamba kutsanulira zovuta. Ngakhale chikondwererochi chikachitika m'banja, zovuta ndi zisoni zidakalipobeza tsiku lakubadwa, gulu la zolephera linatha, monga lamulo, osati kale kuposa chaka chimodzi. Ndi nkhanizi zomwe zimalongosola momveka bwino chifukwa chake sizomwe zikondwerere zaka makumi anayi zazimayi kapena mwamuna, ngakhale udindo wa tchalitchi.
- Kwa . Anthu ena, komabe, amatsatira mbali yosiyana. Iwo amati pakadali zaka makumi anayi, iwo sanaone kusintha kulikonse m'miyoyo yawo, kuphatikizapo zoipa. Malingana ndi iwo, chisangalalo chimapezeka ndi okhawo omwe amakhulupirira zowona, chifukwa anthu amatha kusintha ndi kukwaniritsa bwino, komanso chifukwa cha zovuta ndi zolephera. Choncho, motsogoleredwa ndi zikhulupiliro, ifeyo timakopeka zonse chimwemwe ndi mavuto.
Choncho chikondwerero kapena ayi?
Zomwe mwaziwonazo ndi zolondola, ndi zovuta kuweruza, ndipo palibe amene anganene molondola zomwe zingatichitikire pambuyo pa chikondwerero cha makumi anayi. Koma chinthu chimodzi chimveka bwino, ngati mumakhulupirira zizindikiro za anthu osiyanasiyana, amatsogoleredwa ndi zikhulupiliro ndipo akuwopa zotsutsana, simukusowa chikondwerero. Simungasangalale ndi holideyi, koma ndiye kuti mudzadikira nthawi zonse. Ngati mukufunadi chikondwerero, khalani ndi chakudya chamadzulo cha banja, musakhale alendo pa tebulo, theka lanu lachiwiri, ana ndi makolo, muvomereze, madzulo oterewa sangabweretse chimwemwe. Mwa njira, anthu ambiri samalangizanso kupereka mphatso lero, ndi bwino kugula chinthu chomwecho chomwe chinakopa munthu wobadwa tsiku lotsatira, kotero kuti mumadzipulumutsa nokha ndi okondedwa anu ku zovuta, makamaka, ndikulimbikitseni kuti muchite mogwirizana ndi zikhulupiriro zambiri .