Kuyambira ali mwana, atsikana amauzidwa nthano, pomwe mapeto okondweretsa, monga lamulo, amadziwika ndi ukwati wopambana. Zachilengedwe kuti maloto a kalonga wokongola, diresi yoyera ndi malumbiro a chikondi chosatha amakula pamodzi ndi akazi aang'ono. Choncho, funso lakuti "Kodi ndidzakwatirana?" Sinditha konse kufunika kwake.
Anthu amasiku ano omwe ali ndi ufulu wodzisankhira satsimikiziranso kuti munthu amene mumakhala naye pachibwenzi, ayambitsa moyo wothandizira, ndipo mwinamwake, kuyambitsa ana, adzakonza zokhumba. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zimachitika? Yankho lake ndi lodziwikiratu. Ngati munkakhala pamodzi simungapangitse ena kutsutsidwa, zinkatheka kokha pambuyo paukwati, tsopano ochulukirapo ambiri akuyang'ana momwe akumverera, kaya atha kupirira moyo. Choyamba, iwo amakonda kuchita popanda zofunikira zosafunikira, ndi bwino kudziwana wina ndi mzake, osadziwa kuchuluka kwa izi.
Kutchuka kwaukwati wa boma kumabweretsa mfundo yakuti abambo ambiri akusiyidwa popanda mpira wawo ndipo amakakamizika kuganiza kosatha: "Kodi ndidzakwatiranapo?" Ndipo fufuzani zifukwa zomwe zimachititsa kuti tchuthi likhale losavuta.
Maphunziro a banja lachinyamata amathandiza kwambiri m'banja. Pambuyo pa zonse, kuwonjezera pa atsikana omwe akulota za ukwatiwo ndi kuthamanga pafupi ndi aphunzitsi ndi funso lakuti: "Ndikwatiranji?", Pali ena amene amalengeza poyera kuti: "Ndipo sindikufuna kukwatira!". Chidaliro choyamba cha chidaliro m'tsogolo, ndipo omaliza akudandaula za ufulu wawo.
Tsopano tiyeni tiyerekeze momwe zinthu ziliri pa ukwatiwo. Muli ndi wokondedwa, mumakhala nthawi yambiri ndi iye, mwinamwake mumakhala limodzi. Ndi nkhani ziti zokhudzana ndiukwati zomwe mungakonde nazo?
Ndidzakwatirana bwanji posachedwa?
Kuti muyankhe funsoli, ganizirani za momwe mwakhalira limodzi, momwe ubale wanu uliri, momwe osankhidwa anu alili ndi chikwati (si chinsinsi chimene ena amachiwona kuti ndichabechabe komanso kutaya ndalama), muli nawo mapulani Mtsogolo, mukukonzekera kukhala ndi ana. Kodi mwakambirana nkhanizi ndi mnzanuyo? Mwachabe. Lankhulani momasuka naye. Musayambe amatsenga pa mutu wakuti "Ndikufuna kukwatira," koma modzichepetsa funsani momwe akuyimira moyo wake zaka zitatu.
Ngati sakaganizira ngakhale za banja, koma amangonena za kusunthira pamsinkhu wa ntchito, mwinamwake ichi si chifukwa chokhumudwitsa. Tsopano amuna ambiri amasankha kupeza ufulu wodzilamulira ndipo kenako amakhala ndi banja. Komanso, wina akhoza kufunsa za malo ake m'moyo wake, motero amasonyeza kuti mukukonzekera kukhala pafupi ndi kumuthandiza pazochita zonse. Kukambirana kumeneku kumveketsa mfundo zingapo zofunika.
Poyankha, yankho la funso lakuti "Ndidzakwatirana bwanji posachedwa?" Ndizokwanira: Mukangokonzekera sitepeyi mutangoyamba kumene.
Kodi ndine wokonzeka kukwatira?
Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti ukhale woonamtima ndi wekha ndikudziwa kuti mumadziwa bwino mnzanuyo, mumamukhulupirira ndi chirichonse, mumatsimikiza kuti sangathenso kuthawa, akukumana ndi mavuto oyambirira.
Ndipo kodi amakopeka bwanji m'banja? Ngati uwu ndi mwayi wokha kuyitana abwenzi onse kuti "Ndikumangika msanga!", Kukambirana kwam'mbuyomu ndi chikondwererochi, munthu ayenera kuganizira zomwe zidzachitike pambuyo paukwati. Kodi mwakonzeka kusuntha kuchokera m'masiku achikondi kupita kuzinthu za tsiku ndi tsiku. Taganizirani nthawi yochuluka yomwe mungadzipereke nokha, ndipo ntchito zambiri zapanyumba zidzakula bwanji. Zoonadi, nthano zonse zimathera ndi ukwati, koma ndikufuna kuti zikhale zamuyaya. Koma m'moyo pamodzi palinso ubwino wambiri. Ndipo ziri mmalo mwake kuti chikondi chofunda ndi chidziwitso chidzabwera m'malo mwa chikondi chosokonezeka. Ndipotu, banja lidzakwaniritsa udindo wa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti mungathe kukonzekera bwino ana ndikupeza katundu wolimba.
Sindidzakwatira!
Mawu olimbikirawa tsopano akhoza kumveka kuchokera ku kugonana kwabwino kwa mibadwo yonse. Ndipo, ngakhale kuti anthu akupita patsogolo, nthawi zambiri amadziwika ndi chidani. Koma ndi bwino kulingalira chifukwa chake chisankho ichi chinapangidwa. Mwina msungwanayo anakhumudwitsidwa kwambiri ndi abambo (osati chifukwa chake), koma akhoza kukhala wokhutira mokwanira kuti apite molimba mtima pamoyo yekha, osasowa thandizo la wina, ndipo safuna kugawana nthawi yake ndi wina. Mulimonsemo, munthu aliyense ali ndi udindo wopanga chisangalalo chake, choncho ali ndi ufulu wodzisankhira. Komabe, ngati ali ndi zowawa zomwe zimawachitikira, kuwongolera maganizo ndikofunikira.