Tsopano mawu otchuka otchuka akuti "abwino leftistist amalimbitsa ukwati." Komabe, zingakhale zovuta kupeza banja limodzi, zomwe zidachitika ndi chiwembu zikanakondweretsa. Mosiyana ndi zimenezo, nthawi zonse zimakhala zosalekeza, zonyansa, zovuta komanso zosawonongeka. Ndipo komabe, kodi pali moyo pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika?
Moyo wa banja pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika
Monga lamulo, chenicheni cha kusakhulupirika kwa chiyanjano sichingasinthe, ngakhale chiyanjano chifukwa cha izi chikuzizira kwambiri. Vuto limakhalapo, monga lamulo, panthawi yomwe theka lachiwiri likudziŵa za chochitika ichi.
Zilibe kanthu kuti ndani anasintha - mwamuna kapena mkazi. Ndikofunika kuti ukhale mgwirizano - mwinamwake kudutsa, komanso mwina chikondi chachikulu, chomwe chimaopseza kuthekera kwa kupitiriza chiyanjano.
Mulimonsemo, sipadzakhala kanthu panjira yakale. Monga lamulo, pa chigawo chilichonse mbali yowonongeka imatuluka ngati wopambana: pambuyo pake, munthu uyu tsopano ali ndi kutsutsana kwakukulu. Komabe, kusonyeza "kukoma mtima" kwanu ndi kukhululukirana ndi njira yokhalira kuyima: motero mkhalidwewo udzabwerera pang'onopang'ono m'mbuyomu. Idzapweteka aliyense.
Moyo wa banja pambuyo pa kuperekedwa kwa mwamuna wake
Pambuyo pake, kuzindikira koyamba kwa nkhaniyi kudzabwera, yesetsani kudzikweza nokha ndi kuyeza zonse. Kaya kunyada sikunenedwa kwa inu, muyenera kumvetserabe mtima wanu: ngati ziribe kanthu chomwe munthuyu ali wokondedwa kwa inu, palibe chifukwa chosiya icho mwa mphamvu. Ndipo mosiyana, ngati mwanyansidwa kwambiri, ndipo malingaliro anu apita, ndi mwayi wokhala ndi nthawi yokwanira, ndipo ngati n'kotheka, nthawi imodzi. Ngati izi sizingatheke, yesetsani kulankhulana pang'ono, kuti maganizo anu athetsedwe.
Moyo pambuyo pa kugulitsidwa kwa mwamuna wake nthawi zonse zimapita malinga ndi chimodzi mwa zochitika zingapo: kaya mumachoka, kapena mumakhala, ndipo mumakonza, kapena mumakhalabe, ndipo akupitiliza ntchito zake kumanzere.
Kukhululukira ndiko kuiwala ndi kusakumbukira konse. Zomwe zapitazo, simungachite bwino kwa wina aliyense. Moyo pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika umasinthidwa pang'onopang'ono, ndipo kutchula pang'ono zochitikazo, ndikosavuta.
Ngati banja lili ndi ana, yankho labwino kwambiri ndikuteteza iwo ku chidziwitso ichi. Ubwenzi pakati pa amayi ndi abambo si ubale wa kholo ndi mwana, ndipo sikoyenera kuyendetsa aang'ono pa mwamuna. Izi zidzathetsa mavuto ambiri m'maganizo awo m'tsogolomu.