Yambani kulumphira palmu, kutsekedwa kwa mtima, mumamva pakamwa, mutu umayamba kuvulaza - mukudziwa zizindikiro zonsezi? Ambiri a iwo munthu aliyense amawonapo kamodzi m'miyoyo yawo. Zizindikiro izi zimawoneka pamene tikukumana ndi mantha okha.
Tonsefe tikuyesera kumvetsetsa momwe tingasiyire mantha, kuchotsa zofooka zanu, zomwe zimabweretsa kusintha kosangalatsa m'miyoyo yathu. Koma choyamba, muyenera kuphunzira kuti mumvetse bwino mmene mumamvera mumtima mwanu mumantha, kuyesetsa kuti mutenge kachiwiri kuti muthetse. Pokhala pa chizoloŵezi chathu kwa ife, timvetsetsa izi, tikuzindikira kuti kuopa chinachake ndichabechabe, koma pamene wina ali ndi chifukwa cha mantha, malingaliro amapereka njira kumtima. Ndipo nthawi zina mumalonjeza nokha kuti mudzaphunzira kuphunzira kuti musamachite mantha.
Kodi mungasiye bwanji mantha?
"Chitani zimene mumachita mukaphedwa ndi mantha - ndi izi mudzapha mantha enieni" (Raol'd Waldo Emerson). Mmawu awa a filosofi wodziwika kwambiri, yankho la funso la momwe sitiyenera kuopa chirichonse chiri gawo.
Ena amachititsa mantha ena, chifukwa ena angakhale opanda pake. Pamene mantha atikwanira, zikutanthauza kuti ife sitinatulukidwe. Ife timayamba kuchita mantha. Tikufunsa mafunso ambiri. Ndikofunika kudziwa chomwe chimakupangitsani inu kuchoka kumalo anu otonthoza, mantha amtundu wanji omwe amakulepheretsani kuti mukwaniritse cholinga kapena chinachake chatsopano. Onetsetsani nokha.
Pamene mantha amawopsa, timakhala ndi mantha kwambiri. Choncho, pofuna kuthetsa mantha, muyenera:
- Kupuma molondola. Kuti muchepetse, kuti muyambe kuimitsa maganizo anu, muzingoganizira kupuma. Pitirizani kupuma, kuchepetsani kutuluka.
- Yambani kukumbukira kupambana kwanu konse. Choncho, yambani kudzikhulupirira nokha kuti ndinu munthu wopambana ndipo mutha kulimbana ndi zomwe mumaopa.
- Konzani chomwe chimakupangitsani mantha. Muziwonetseratu zochitika, kukhala ndi makhalidwe abwino, kuti mudzakumana ndi zomwe mukuwopa, konzekerani, khalani chete.
Anthu ambiri amaopa zomwe muli. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amati chinthu chofala kwambiri ndi mantha oyankhula ndi anthu ena. Anthu amangoopa kulankhula ndi kulankhulana ndi ena.
Kodi simuyenera kuopa kulankhula?
Poyamba, mkati, mumayamba kukana izi, koma yambani kuchotsa mantha awa, mwachitsanzo, mutapempha wopemphayo kuti aime. Pangani luso lanu loyankhulana. Lankhulani ndi alangizi m'masitolo. Zochita zonsezi zing'onozing'ono zingakuthandizeni kuthetsa mantha anu pang'onopang'ono. Lowani ku gulu la zisudzo. Vomerezani kulankhula pa misonkhano. Nthawi zambiri mukakumana ndi mantha anu, mumatha kuligonjetsa.
Zimakhalanso kuti anthu amapewa ena, kudzipatula okha, kutaya mwayi waukulu wophunzira dziko lapansi kudzera kuyankhulana ndi anthu ena. Muzochitika zoterezi, nkofunika kudzikakamiza kuti mupeze njira zothandizira kupeza yankho la momwe mungasiye kuopa anthu.
Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zokhudzana ndi anthu ena ndi kudzidandaula kapena kudzikuza. Yesetsani kufufuza mosamala zomwe mukuchita nthawi zambiri, osasankha zochepa. Yang'anani nokha kuchokera kumbali ina, monga munthu yemwe ali ndi zambiri
Kodi simuyenera kuchita mantha bwanji?
Moyo uli pano komanso pano. Ndi zopusa kuziwotcha ndi mawu akuti "Ndidzachita mawa". Kudzinyenga tokha ndi mawu amenewa, timangotsala kamphindi komwe sikudzabwereranso. Yang'anani pa moyo wanu kuchokera pa momwe mumadzionera nokha m'tsogolo. Kodi mukufuna chiyani, kuti mukukumbukira lero? Kodi mukufuna kuti m'badwo wanu wam'tsogolo udzikuze ndi kuyamikira moyo wanu, zochita zanu? Onetsetsani kuti muyankhe mafunso awa. Moyo wanu uli mmanja mwanu. Lekani kuchita mantha. Yambani kukhala ndi moyo tsopano.