Lingaliro lakuti pafupifupi afilosofi onse, akatswiri a maganizo, akatswiri a zachikhalidwe cha anthu ndi ogulitsa mizinda akutsatira lero - kukhazikitsidwa kwa chikhalidwe cha munthu payekha - ndikofunikira kwa chilengedwe.
Chikhalidwe ndi chitukuko cha makhalidwe
Tiyerekeze kuti mukutsutsana ndi mdani. Nthendayi imakhudza ngati ndi zachilendo kukhala m'dera lomwe umoyo wabwino wa banja umatsimikizira momwe anawo adzakhalire olemera kuchokera m'banja lino. Mwinamwake, mukuganiza kuti mukulondola, koma woyimilira wanu akulakwitsa. Koma akuti akulakwitsa. Kotero, inu nonse mukuganiza kuti pangakhale ufulu umodzi wokha.
Pakalipano, kusagwirizana kwa makhalidwe abwino sikukutanthauza kuti ena mwazinthu izi ndi "zolakwika." Onse a Socialists ndi a mfumu amakhalanso olondola, amakhala ndi malingaliro osiyana.
Mu malingaliro a anthu ambiri, "chikhalidwe cha chikhalidwe" ndi chofanana ndi chikwapu cha maganizo, chomwe chingasungidwe "mkati" mwa iwo omwe amachita "zosayenera." Koma makamaka chikhalidwe ndicho choyamba kukhala ndi luso lotha kugwiritsira ntchito chithandizo. (Ganizirani za mawu akuti "chizolowezi chodya", "chikhalidwe cha chitukuko cha thupi"). Makhalidwe abwino oyankhulana, mwachitsanzo, sikuti azigawana zokhazokha za chilengedwe ndikutsatira malamulo ovomerezeka m'deralo. Kuphatikizanso kuwalola ena kukhala ndi malingaliro awo ndi makhalidwe awo . Pambuyo pake, izi sizongopeka; anthu ena ndi anthu ena amakhalanso ndi mbiri yawo, zomwe zinawatsogolera kumaganizo ena. Midzi ndi anthu omwe ali ndi maganizo odzivulaza amakhala ndi mbiri yochepa kwambiri, kotero simusowa kuchita nawo.
Kupanga chikhalidwe cha makhalidwe
Zomwe mungasankhe, ngati aliyense akulondola, koma nthawi yomweyo amadzinenera mosiyana? - mumapempha.
Miyambo yosiyana ndi midzi ndizokhala ndi malo osiyanasiyana komanso malo ochezeka. Izi ndizo makhalidwe abwino kwambiri: kudera nkhawa anthu omwe ali ofooka m'dera lanu, kudera nkhawa zam'tsogolo, kukhala ndi maganizo oyenera pa zomwe zakhazikitsidwa kale. Kulankhulana kulikonse pa zomwe ndizovomerezeka ndi zosavomerezeka, zingakhalebe zokambirana zabwino, ngati mutapita nthawi kukumbukira kuti maphwando amakangana ali ndi zolinga zofanana.
Inde, pali ziwonetsero zomwe sizikuphatirana; otsogolera awo sangathe kugwirizana pazochitika zosiyanasiyana. Koma chizoloŵezi cha makhalidwe abwino cha munthu ndicho kungolora wina kuti akhale moyo wake monga momwe amawona kuti ndi woyenera ndikuganizira kwambiri za moyo wake.
Zili kale zochepa zokwanira kuti zisawononge nthawi pa mikangano yoipa komanso yopanda pake.
Makhalidwe apamwamba a chikhalidwe cha chikhalidwe, chogwirizana ndi kuzindikira kuti malingaliro ake ndi zikhulupiliro sizowona zokhazokha. Tiyenera kuyesetsa kuonetsetsa kuti miyezo yathu ya makhalidwe abwino imapangitsa moyo wathu kukhala wangwiro komanso wosangalala. Koma tiyenera kukumbukira kuti zabwino sizingatheke, chifukwa malamulo omwewo sangagwiritsidwe ntchito pazochitika zonse.
Kukhoza kusintha malingaliro a munthu, kuyesa mkhalidwe wonsewo, kuti azindikire pang'ono kusiyana ndi zomwe akuganiza kuti ndi mbali yofunikira ya chikhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe chomwe chiyenera kuphunzitsidwa payekha ndi ana awo.