Titha kukhala ndi achibale ambiri, koma ana ndi amodzi kuposa onse, choncho imfa yawo imamva nthawi zina kusiyana ndi kugawidwa ndi munthu wina wapafupi. Chimodzi choganiza kuti ndikofunika kupulumuka imfa ya mwana wakhanda, monga mpeni, imatsegula mtima. Amayi ambiri amene adutsa mayesero amenewa amanena kuti iwo angapereke miyoyo yawo, ngati mwanayo ali bwino. Koma patapita nthawi, maganizo amatha , ndipo banja limasankha mwana watsopano, kupeza chitonthozo mmenemo. Choncho, nthawi yovuta kwambiri idzakhala chaka choyamba pambuyo pachisoni, pamene maganizo onse akuwonjezereka, ndipo chikumbutso chilichonse cha imfa chitayidwa ndi ululu waukulu.
Kodi makolo angapulumutse bwanji imfa ya mwana?
Mwa ana timawona kupitiriza kwathu, timalota za tsogolo lawo, kotero imfa ya mwana imawonedwa ngati kutayika kwa gawo lathu, sizivuta kuti makolo onse apulumuke. Chiyeso choterocho chingathe kusiyanitsa banja lonse mpaka kalekale, koma ngati okwatirana amachidutsa pamodzi, sangathe kugawanitsa chifukwa cha kuchepa kwazing'ono. Mwina mfundo zotsatirazi zingakuthandizeni kulimbana ndi chisoni.
- Musakane zakukhosi kwanu, aliyense wa iwo adzakhala wolungama. Palibe cholakwika ndikumva chisoni, mantha, kudziimba mlandu komanso mkwiyo. Ankaganiza kuti pali magawo angapo omwe munthu amatha kudutsa, kutaya imfa ya okondedwa ake, ndipo pa gawo lililonse maganizo ena amakhalapo. Koma nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti malingaliro sakugonjera nthawi iliyonse, choncho musayese kusanthula kalikonse, ingolandizani malingaliro anu onse. Kumbukirani kuti amalira zonse mwa njira zosiyanasiyana, choncho musanene kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akuchita zomwezo mosiyana ndi inu. Aloleni afotokoze mmene akumvera.
- Podziwa ndi kuvomereza maganizo omwe ali ovuta, yesetsani kuchotseratu anthu osayenerera omwe sathandiza kupulumuka chisoni, koma khalani ndi mphamvu zatsopano. Uku ndikumverera kwachidziwitso kapena kupsa mtima (pawekha, mnzanu kapena madokotala, omwe sanachite mokwanira). Ndikhulupirire, iwe unachita bwino, ngati ukanakhala ndi njira yotulukira, iwe ukawupeza.
- Pambuyo popanikizika kwambiri maganizo , nthawi yachisokonezo ikhoza kubwera pamene munthu sakufuna chirichonse, ndipo chirichonse chikuchitika ngati kuti mu loto. Musawope mantha oterewa, mwachibadwa pambuyo pa mayesero onse omwe akugwera, ndipo nthawi ikadutsa, thupi lokha limasowa nthawi kuti lipeze.
- Pitani kukagwira ntchito ndi mutu wanu kapena kutenga tchuthi, taganizirani kuti njira yabwino yothandizira inu pang'ono kusokoneza pang'ono kuvutika. Koma musamangopita kuntchito chifukwa cha lingaliro, popeza kuti zolephera zambiri ndizokulu, zomwe zidzakulepheretsani kukhumudwa.
- Ngati ndinu munthu wachipembedzo, yesetsani kupeza chilimbikitso mu chikhulupiriro chanu. Zoonadi, zovuta zoterozo zingagwedeze maganizo anu achipembedzo, koma mwinamwake kuchita miyambo yachikhalidwe kudzakuthandizani. Ngati mulibe mphamvu kuti muumirire ku chipembedzo chanu, musamadzikakamize, mutenge phindu. Ndipo musaganize kuti khalidwe ili ndi kusakhulupirika, palibe amene angakutsutseni chifukwa cha zochita zoterezi.
- Chaka choyamba mutayika kwambiri, choncho yesetsani nthawiyi kuti musasankhe zosangalatsa, dikirani mpaka mutha kukambiranso.
- Yesetsani kusaiwala nokha: kugona mokwanira, kudya moyenera, kumwa madzi ambiri, osamwa mowa mopitirira muyeso, ndipo musamamwe mankhwala omwe simunapereke kwa dokotala wanu.
- Amayi amavutika kwambiri kuti apulumutsidwe ndi imfa ya mwana wakhanda popanda thandizo lothandiza ngati kulankhula ndi achibale ndi abwenzi. Koma mungaganize kuti sangathe kumvetsa ululu wanu, kotero kuyankhula nawo sikubweretsa mpumulo. Pambuyo pa kutsegulira kotero, musadzitenge nokha, funsani anthu ena oganiza bwino, kupatula mwamuna yemwe akugawana nanu chisoni. Tumizani ku maofesi ndi malo apadera, kumene anthu amapeza chitonthozo, ogwirizana ndi chisoni chimodzi.
- Pezani njira yoyenera kukumbukira kukumbukira kwa mwana wanu. Pangani albamu ndi zithunzi zake, mukhale wotsutsa gulu, ndikuthandizani ana omwe ali ndi mavuto ofanana ndi omwe amachititsa imfa ya mwana wanu. Kanizani kandulo kukumbukira mwana wanu ndi ana onse akufa.
- Sikuti aliyense amatha kuyendetsa yekhayekha, choncho musazengereze kuonana ndi wodwalayo kuti awathandize, omwe angafunse katswiri,
momwe angapulumukire imfa ya mwana. Mwina ndi amene angapeze mawu omwe angakupatseni mwayi wotuluka mu nthawi yakulira.
Sitikudziwa kuti zimakhala zovuta kupulumuka masautso omwewo kapena kuona momwe amwenye ndi okondedwa amavutikira. Mwatsoka, palibe njira zambiri zopulumutsira imfa ya mwana wamng'ono. Titha kukhala wothandizana bwino kwambiri amene ali wokonzeka kugawira ululu wa imfa. Inde, n'kotheka kulangiza chinthu (mwachitsanzo, kukaonana ndi katswiri), koma izi ziyenera kuchitidwa mosamala kwambiri, chifukwa munthu yemwe akulira sangathe kuganiza mozama, ndipo amachitira zowawa.