Ukwati ndi maubwenzi apabanja - izi ndi zovuta kwambiri za anthu amasiku ano. Malinga ndi ziŵerengero za boma, mabanja oposa theka la maukwati amalembedwa. Zimakhala zovuta kutchula mavuto ena achibale-ukwati, pambuyo pa zonse, monga mukudziwa, aliyense ali ndi chifukwa chake cha kusagwirizana.
Mitundu ya chiyanjano cha banja
Malingana ndi mtundu wanji wa banja-mgwirizano waukwati umakhazikitsidwa pakati pa okwatiranawo, wina akhoza kuweruza chomwe chitukuko cha banja chidzakhala, ndi nthawi yayitali bwanji anthu adzakhala pamodzi. Masiku ano, mawu akuti "kusudzulana" saopanso, monga kale, ndipo chiŵerengero cha anthu omwe akulowa muukwati chikuwonjezeka kwambiri.
Kotero, tiyeni tiwone mitundu ya maubwenzi m'banja:
1. Pothandiza mabanja:
- Anthu okwatirana kumene - anthu omwe ali pachibwenzi pambuyo pa ukwatiwo ndipo samakhulupirira kuti angathe kuthana ndi mavuto;
- Banja laling'ono - anthu omwe adziwa kale kuti chikondi ichi sichikwanira, tikusowa chisamaliro chochuluka, kumvetsetsa ndi kudalira ;
- banja pokonzekera mwana - kusintha kwakukulu mu ubale, kukula kwa njira yatsopano ya moyo;
- banja la zaka zapakati (zaka khumi palimodzi) - kutuluka kwa nthawi zonse, kusamvana, ndikofunikira kubwezeretsa njira ya moyo ndikuonjezerapo chidwi zatsopano;
- banja la achikulire okwatirana - zofunikanso, kukwanitsa kukambirana kumabwera kutsogolo;
- Banja la okalamba omwe ali ndi zaka zakubadwa (kukhala ndi zidzukulu) - mpweya watsopano, chidwi cha zidzukulu.
2. Ndi chiwerengero cha ana:
- opanda ana (mabanja 16%);
- mabanja osakwatira (mabanja 50%);
- ana omwe ali ndi ana ochepa (1-2 ana);
- Kukhala ndi ana ambiri (ana atatu kapena ochuluka, kusudzulana sikukhalapo).
3. Makhalidwe abwino m'banja:
- chosatha;
- kukonda;
- mikangano;
- chovuta;
- kusagwirizana ndi anthu.
Ndipotu, mabanja akhoza kusankhidwa ndi ziwerengero zopanda malire. Ndipotu, kupatula mabanja omwe ana amakulira ndi amayi ndi abambo, palinso mabanja osakwanira, kumene makolo awo sali. Musaiwale kuti chitukuko cha ubale wa banja ndi udindo wa onse awiri.
Zinthu zomwe zimawononga ukwati ndi mabanja
Monga lamulo, vuto la banja-mgwirizano wa banja limakhalapo panthawi zingapo: 1 chaka, zaka zitatu, zaka zisanu, zaka 7, zaka 10, zaka 20 komanso zaka 10 zilizonse. Pakadali pano, zinthu zomwe zimapangitsa kuti athetse banja , ndi izi:
- kusudzulana kapena mkangano pakati pa makolo a mmodzi wa okwatirana (kapena onse);
- mgwirizano wokhala mu malo amoyo omwe ali nawo;
- Kusokonezeka kwa makolo mu chiyanjano cha okwatirana;
- kugwiritsiridwa ntchito ndi okwatirana kapena imodzi mwa iwo mowa ndi mankhwala;
- kusakhulupirika m'banja, kusowa chikhulupiriro;
- Zizoloŵezi zilizonse zoipa zomwe wina kapena onse awiriwa (kutchova njuga, chisangalalo, etc.);
- kukakamizidwa kulekanitsidwa kwa okwatirana (kuyendetsa bizinesi, njira yogwira ntchito, etc.);
- ntchito yapamwamba ya akazi (izi zimatchedwa "banja la bicarier");
- Mofulumira kwambiri kapena msinkhu wokalamba waukwati;
- mimba isanakwatirane (izi zimatchedwa "kukakamizidwa") maukwati;
- kubadwa kwa mwana m'zaka 1-2 zoyambirira zaukwati;
- mkangano waukulu pakati pa onse awiri;
- kusabereka, kusowa kukhala ndi ana a mmodzi mwa okwatirana;
- kulemetsa kapena kutopa thupi pamapeto pa ntchito kapena kuphunzira;
- kudzikonda kwa mmodzi kapena onse awiri;
- zoyembekezera zosatheka.
Pofuna kuteteza maubwenzi, ndibwino kuti tiwafotokozere: kugawira ntchito, kukhazikitsa "zotheka" ndi "osati", ndipo, chofunika kwambiri, kuti musamawaphatikize anthu ena. Zimakhulupirira kuti mavuto akakhala m'banja, amayamba kugwa mofulumira.