Ubale wopanda zopereka

Lero, nthawi zambiri mumatha kumva kuchokera kwa anthu okwatirana "tili ndi ubale wopanda ntchito." Mawuwo ndi osangalatsa, ndikanamvetsetsanso zomwe zimatanthauza: kusowa kwa maudindo a kutaya zinyalala kapena ubale umene agogo athu amatha kuwatcha kuti ndiwafupikitsa koma osatanthauzira mawu osamveka?

Ubale wopanda zopereka - kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani?

Kodi mungamvetse bwanji mawu akuti "ubale wopanda ntchito"? Yankho la mzere umodzi silingaperekedwe pano, ndilo tanthauzo losiyana kwambiri kuyika anthu osiyana mu lingaliro la "ubale waulere".

1. Mwachitsanzo, amuna nthawi zambiri amawopa udindo mu maubwenzi, choncho amafuna ufulu. Komanso, ufulu umenewu ndi wofunikira kwa iwo m'magulu osiyanasiyana a moyo, izi zikuphatikizapo moyo ndi kugonana. Eya, ubalewu ulibe udindo, mutha kukhala ndi zibwenzi zambiri monga mukufunira, ndipo mbali inayo sitinganene chilichonse, chifukwa mgwirizanowo.
2. Koma vuto la kusaweruzika limakhudza hafu yokha yaumunthu. Kawirikawiri, atsikana amadziwa bwino ntchito za mchibwenzi, akuiwala za iwo okha, ndipo n'zosadabwitsa kuti amayi oterewa amalandira zopereka zaufulu. Kuphatikiza apo, amayi omwe amamasulidwa, omwe atsimikiza mtima kupanga ntchito yabwino, amakhulupirira moona mtima kuti alibe nthawi yoti azitha kusinthana ndi banja lawo. Pazochitikazi, woyambitsa ubale waulere ndi mkazi, ndipo sakwatira chifukwa chakuti palibe amene amapereka, koma chifukwa sakufuna.
3. Chitsanzo chachiyanjano cha ubale wopanda ntchito ndi katatu wachikondi. Pali banja, ndipo chifukwa cha zosangalatsa pali wokondedwa (mbuye), kodi pali udindo wotani?
4. Kawirikawiri, maubwenzi opanda maudindo amasankhidwa ndi amuna ndi akazi omwe atha. Maudindo apabanja omwe atsala kale, amafuna ufulu ndi chikondi. Chilakolako chokhalira moyo wosasangalatsa ndi chachibadwa, koma kawirikawiri maubwenzi oterewa satenga nthawi yaitali - osudzulana amafuna kutentha ndi kumvetsetsa, zomwe mu ubale popanda maudindo sangakhale oposa magulu ena onse.

Kuchokera pa zonsezi, zikhoza kutheka kuti magulu osiyanasiyana a anthu amakonda chiyanjano popanda maudindo, koma onse amakhala ndi cholinga chimodzi - ufulu. Ngakhale, akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti kawirikawiri pa chibwenzi chotero, anthu amabisa kutetezeka kwawo ndi mantha a udindo. Ndipo chikhalidwe chachikulu cha ubale waufulu ndi mgwirizano wosagwiritsidwe ntchito, mwambo umene uli woyenera kwa onse awiri. Mfundo zazikuluzikulu za mgwirizano umenewu ndi ndondomeko yomwe amavomerezana ya misonkhano yachisangalalo chosangalatsa komanso kusakhala kovuta pa ufulu wa wokondedwa wawo.

Ntchito za amuna ndi akazi mu ubale

Pano timanena kuti: Ubale waulere ndi kusowa kwa udindo ndi maudindo kwa wokondedwa. Ndipo ndi mantha ati omwe akutsatira maubwenzi opanda ntchito, ndi nthawi ziti zomwe zimawavutitsa nzika zokonda ufuluwu? Awa ndi maudindo omwe amaperekedwa kwa abambo ndi amai mu ubale weniweni.

Ntchito za amuna ndizopatsa banja chitetezo chosiyanasiyana - zakuthupi, zamalingaliro, zachuma ndi zauzimu. Chowonadi, palibe vumbulutso kuno, tikufuna kuona munthu wotetezeka mwa munthuyo, ndipo anthu akhala akumuuza kuti ali ndi udindo umenewu.

Udindo wa amayi ndi wodalirika kwambiri - kuthandizira mwamuna, osati kufunafuna zambiri kuchokera kwa iye, kumvera, kukonzekera bwino ndi kukhala wokhulupirika kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu. Ndipo pano zonse zomwezo zimakhala zosautsa kwambiri, kuchokera kwa iwo ndipo ndithudi inu mukufuna kwenikweni kuthawa, chifukwa izo zikutembenuzidwa kuti malo opita kwa akazi potumikira mwamuna wake. Ndipo izi ndi za mkazi wamakono - ngati mpeni wakuthwa. Kotero inu mukhoza kumvetsa okonda ubale waulere, ngati osati kwa mphindi imodzi. Masiku ano, kusunga malamulowa sikuvomerezedwanso (agogo aamuna omwe ali pa benchi angathe, ndipo adzatsutsa, ndipo palibe wina adzakhalepo), mkazi akhoza kupereka banja, ndi mwamuna kukhala mkazi wa nyumba. Bungwe la Family Code limalankhula za kusiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi, kotero palibe chifukwa chapadera chobisala kuzinthu zaufulu.