Nthenda yamisala yomwe akazi amakono amakumana nawo, kupsyinjika ndi chikhumbo chochita zonse m'kupita kwa nthawi, kungachititse zero zikhumbo zathu zonse. Ambiri omwe amaimira zachiwerewere pofunafuna chuma ndi ntchito samaganiza kuti mpikisano umenewu ndi wopanda malire komanso umapitirirabe, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuchokapo. Zoonadi, izi zimakhudzanso moyo wa kugonana kwa mkazi.
Malinga ndi kafukufuku amene akatswiri a ku Britain anapeza, amayi 15% amavutika chifukwa chakuti safuna kugonana. Poyamba, iwo samvetsera pa izi, koma posakhalitsa vuto liyamba kudziyankhulira lokha. Ngati mkazi alibe chilakolako chogonana, sakusangalala ndi njirayi. Ndipo chisangalalo cha kugonana chimakhudza thupi lathu kutali ndi njira yabwino.
Azimayi omwe amagwera muzochitika zoterezi, ayambe kudzifunsa funso lakuti "Chifukwa chiyani sindifuna kugonana?". Pachifukwa ichi, ndikofunikira kuzindikira chifukwa chomwe simukufunira kugonana, ndipo yesetsani kuthetsa. Taganizirani zochitika zambiri.
- "Sindikufuna mwamuna wanga - ndichite chiyani?". Mkhalidwe womwewo ukhoza kuwuka ngakhale mu mgwirizano wamphamvu wa banja. Pamene mgwirizano pakati pa okwatirana ukhale wolemekezeka ndi wodalirika, ndipo simukufuna kugonana, muyenera kusankha mwamsanga zomwe mungachite. Moyo wokhudzana ndi kugonana ungasinthe kwambiri pamene chikondi chimasiyidwa kale ndipo okwatirana amadziwana bwino. Kawirikawiri, mayiyo amafunanso zowawa komanso zovuta, monga zomwe adakumana nazo pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wake. Koma chikhalidwe chimakonzedwa mwakuti chikondi sichikhala kosatha - malingalirowa amatha ndi nthawi ndipo ubale umapita ku siteji yatsopano ya chitukuko. Pachifukwa ichi, kusowa chilakolako cha kugonana kawirikawiri kumayambitsidwa ndi maganizo. Kubwereranso ku kugonana, kuwala koyambirira kungathe kumaliza kukonzanso ndi kuvomereza dongosolo latsopano la zinthu ndi mkazi. Akatswiri amalangiza kuti ayambirenso masiku okondana, mphatso ndi zodabwitsa kwa wina ndi mzake, mlungu uliwonse kuti apatse tsiku limene awiriwa amapatulira. Ndiponso, maulendo ophatikizana ndi othandiza kwambiri.
- "Sindikufuna kugonana ndi mwamuna wanga atabala - ndiyenera kuchita chiyani?". Kubeleka ndi gawo lofunika komanso lofunika kwambiri pamoyo wa mkazi aliyense. Kubadwa kwa mwana kumatha kusintha kwambiri mayi wamng'ono. Nthawi zambiri, kusintha kumeneku kumakhudza moyo wa kugonana pakati pa makolo achichepere. Mahomoni a mkazi sakhala osasunthika, choncho ngati atatha kubala chilakolako cha kugonana kapena, nthawi zina, pali chilakolako chogonana nthawi zonse - izi ndi zachilendo. Chinthu china, ngati kubadwa sikukufuna kugonana kwa nthawi yaitali -
kuyambira miyezi 6. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kuganizira za kupuma kwathunthu ndi kugona. Kawirikawiri ndikutopa kumene kumayambitsa chidwi. - "Sindikufuna kugonana - kukana kwathunthu kugonana." Kulakalaka kugonana mu thupi la mkazi kumakomana ndi testosterone ya hormoni, yomwe imapangidwa m'mimba mwake. Pamene kwambiri testosterone ikukula, chilakolako champhamvu chogonana chimapezeka mwa amayi. Kupanga testosterone mwa amayi, monga mwa amuna, kumachepa ndi zaka. Komanso, njira zothandizira kulera zapakhomo zimakhudza kuwonetsetsa kwa mahomoni kwa amayi. Malingana ndi kafukufuku waposachedwapa, apeza kuti kayendedwe kawo ka nthawi yayitali kamalimbikitsa kupanga thupi m'thupi lomwe silingathetsetu testosterone. Ndipo ngati mthupi la chilakolako cha kugonana sichiwonekera, ndiye kuti mungamvetse bwanji kuti mukufuna kugonana? Choncho, ngati chilakolako chogonana chitayika, muyenera kusiya nthawi yomweyo kutenga mapiritsi oletsa kubereka.
Mayi aliyense ayenera kudzimva yekha ndi kupeza vuto lomwe limayambitsa kusowa kwa kugonana. Ngati simungathe kuwongolera nokha, muyenera kuonana ndi katswiri.