Akazi amakono akuyenera kuchitapo kanthu, ndipo ziribe kanthu ntchito kapena chikondi. Kutenga gawo loyamba ku chiyanjano ndi mwamuna lero likukhala chochitika chofala kwa theka labwino. Komabe, pakupambana osankhidwa, amayi ambiri amalakwitsa ndipo, mmalo mwa kukwaniritsa malo ake, amakwaniritsa zokhazokha pa adiresi yawo. Ndicho chifukwa chake atsikana ambiri amafuna kudziwa momwe angagwirizane ndi mnyamata ndipo amamugonjetsa ndi kumukhulupirira.
Kodi mungapambane bwanji ndi mnyamata?
Kotero, pali njira zosavuta zomwe zingakuthandizeni kukondana ndi mnyamata:
- Yang'anani maonekedwe anu . Amuna makamaka amamvetsera kuoneka kwa mkazi, kuvala ndi kulawa, koma osati molakwika.
- Kudzikonda . Ngati mukufuna kukondana kwambiri, kumbukirani, amuna samakonda "dummy", choncho yesetsani kukhala mnzanu wa erudite.
- Onetsani chidwi mwa mwamuna . Mnyamata adzayamikira kwambiri ngati akuwona kuti mumakonda chidwi chake, ntchito, ndi zina zotero.
- Musakhalepo . Ngati tsiku loyamba limatha pa bedi, ndiye kuti mwinamwake chidwi cha mnyamatayo chimatha, koma ngati simungalole kuti mumaikonda kwambiri, ndiye kuti mumamukonda.
- Khalani bwenzi lodalirika . Pokhala bwenzi lenileni la mwamuna, yemwe amamumvetsa, amamuganizira, ali wokonzeka kuthandizira uphungu ndi kumvetsera, ngati kuli kotheka, mudzapambana ndi chikhulupiliro chake, kukhala munthu wapafupi, ndipo pomwepo pali zibwenzi zowonjezereka zingakulire zambiri.
Mwa njirayi, atsikana omwe ali ndi chidwi chofuna kupambana ndi munthu wakale, malangizowa angakuthandizenso, ngati mumudziwa bwino bwino mwamunayo, zomwe amakonda, khalidwe , zokonda, ndi zina zotero. Chinthu chachikulu sichiyenera kukhala chowombera ndi kuyembekezera kwa kanthawi, chifukwa mutatha kupatukana muyenera "kupumula" pang'ono kuchokera kwa wina ndi mnzake. Patatha mwezi umodzi kapena pang'ono mungathe kuchita.