Posachedwapa, amayi akudandaula kuti amuna ndi ofooka kuposa akazi. Ndipo sikutheka kupereka yankho lomveka bwino kaya likuleredwa mu maphunziro, zamakono zamasiku ano kapena ndizochitika zaka makumi atatu zokha. Pozindikira zambiri za kugonana kwabwino, munthu wofooka ndi munthu yemwe sangathe kuthana ndi mavuto omwe amakumana nawo ndikuwasintha kwa ena. Komanso, palibe cholinga pamoyo, maganizo ake ndipo amafunikira kusamalidwa ndi kusamalidwa nthawi zonse. Kodi okwatirana ofooka amawoneka bwanji mmaganizo a akatswiri?
Amuna omwe amawoneka ngati ofooka amatha kupatulidwa mu mitundu yosiyanasiyana:
- "Mwana wa Amayi". Monga lamulo, amakulira m'banja losakwanira ndi chisamaliro chokwanira cha amayi kapena m'banja lonse lokhala ndi amayi achilendo, omwe banja lonse liri pansi. Mtundu wa munthu wofooka ndi woyenera mkazi wolamulira amene amagwiritsidwa ntchito kulamulira ndi kupanga zisankho.
- Mumasuke. Amadziyerekezera kukhala ofooka kuti asatenge udindo. Ndipotu, amatha kuchita zambiri. Mukhoza kuchita, kotero munthu wofookayu adzakhazikika ndi kutsimikiza ngati mutasiya kudzitengera zonse. Koma pali chiopsezo kuti munthu adzalandira wina yemwe adzakokera mavuto ambiri monga momwe munkachitira.
- Zosamala. Amuna ofooka a gulu ili amapezeka nthawi zambiri pakati pa anthu opanga. Iwo ndi ofatsa, okondana, akuzindikira mozama zomwe zikuchitika, koma sakufuna.
- Osakayikira. Amanyalanyaza kupanga zosankha zirizonse, makamaka pokhudzana ndi moyo waumwini, choncho sizingakonzedwe kuti azigwirizana ndi iwo.
Zizindikiro za munthu wofooka:
- kudzimvera chisoni;
- zifukwa zambiri za kusachita kwawo;
- amafunikira chisamaliro cha wina;
- osati kuthetsa ndalama;
- kudalira pa masewera a pakompyuta;
- ngakhale kuzinthu zopepuka kwambiri zomwe iye amazitenga mozama, pamene akusankha kudandaula, kuti asachitire;
- mosakayikira agawanika ndi zida zakale.
Malo osalimba ali mwa anthu onse. Aliyense ali ndi zake zokha, koma palinso ziwerengero zambiri za mantha omwe ali nawo ambiri:
- oimira anthu otchedwa kugonana amphamvu:
- mantha a kutayika ndi mbali yofooka ya amuna ambiri;
- kuwopa kusabisa;
- mantha olephera kugonana;
- Mfundo yofooka ya anthu ndikuopa kupanga zolakwa;
- mantha a kusintha, nthawi zambiri amakula ndi ukalamba;
- mantha a kulephera;
- zimaoneka ngati zopusa kapena zosakwanira.
Mkazi wamphamvu ndi chithandizo cha munthu wofooka ndipo mgwirizano uwu ukhoza kukhala wogwirizana kwambiri. Koma ngati akufuna kuti adzibweretsere mtanda wake payekha ndi funso lotseguka.