Kwa amayi ena, palibe chophweka kusiyana ndi kunyenga mwamuna wokwatiwa, ndi momwe amachitira, njira zomwe amagwiritsa ntchito, tidzakambirana lero.
Kodi mungapusitse bwanji bwana wokwatirana, mnzanu kapena mnzanu?
Atsikana omwe amatha kunyenga anyamata amanena kuti banja lawo ndilophwando losavuta, chifukwa nthawi zambiri sakhala ndi chidwi choyambirira ndi kukondwa kwa mkazi, amalota chilakolako chosalekerera ndi zooneka bwino, koma sangathe kuzikwatira. Kuphatikizanso, pali njira zosavuta komanso zowonetsera momwe munganyengere mnyamata wokwatiwa:
- Tsindikani ukazi wanu ndi kugonana . Amuna amawona okwatirana awo panyumba pawo, kumene kuli kosavuta ndi kosasangalatsa kuyenda mozungulira miketi yaing'ono kapena airy negligee, ndipo, monga momwe akudziwira, anyamata amakonda maso. Mwinamwake kuti chinthu chokhumba chanu chakhala chikutopa kwambiri ndi mtundu wa mkazi mu masewero a masewera kapena zovala zosavuta ndizokulu kwambiri, choncho muzisewera mosiyana.
- Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yambiri pamodzi, ziribe kanthu zomwe mumatanganidwa nazo, kukambirana za polojekitiyo, kapena kukambirana momasuka nthawi ya chakudya chamadzulo, chofunika kwambiri, muyenera kupeza mwayi womusonyeza munthuyo kuti mumamukonda, mum'patse chidwi, chimene iye samasowa. Atsikana ambiri samvetsetsa bwino kuti anyamatawa amafunika kukhala ozindikira, olimba mtima, otsimikizika ndi okhumba, kutamanda mwamuna, mumamukakamiza mobwerezabwereza kuti atsimikizire kuti ndizo zomwe mumamuwona. Njirayi imathandizira, kupusitsa mnzanu wokwatirana, ndi kukhala mbuye wa bwenzi lakale, pafupifupi aliyense yemwe ali ndi chilakolako chogonana pambuyo poyamika nthawi zonse safuna kuti asiye kuyamikira, ndipo adzafuna kuti apitirize kuyankhulana.
- Musadzipangire nokha, mnyamata ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti ndi wokongola, ndipo simukuletsa kugonana ndi iye, mwinamwake iye adzapitiriza kukuzindikira ngati mnzanu kapena mnzanu. Osangopitirira, kumbukirani kuti chithunzi ndi zopereka siziri zofanana, kukopana , koma osanena zonse molunjika.
- Muzimuthandiza kumvetsetsa mmene mumamvera ponena za kusakhulupirika, kunena kuti akazi ambiri ndi omwe amachititsa kuti chilakolako chawo chiwonongeke komanso kuti anzawo akugona ndi ena, kuti asamufunse mwamuna kuti achoke m'banja kapena kumuuza mkazi wake zonse. Ambiri samatsutsana ndi zovuta, koma mantha omwe amafunikira kuvomereza izi ndi kudziletsa zimalepheretsa kupanga chisankho chomaliza. Asananyengere mwamuna wokwatira wokhulupirika, ayenera kuthana ndi mantha ake ndikumulimbikitsa kuti asintha yekha chifukwa cha khalidwe la mkazi wake, yemwe sakufuna kumupatsa zomwe akuyenerera - kuyamikira, kudzikonda kwake komanso kumvetsetsa kwake.
- Mowa ndi bwenzi lanu, koma mowa wambiri, vinyo pang'ono amathetsa mavuto ndipo amachepetsa kuyang'anira khalidwe lake.