Wina akamanena kuti mtsikanayo ali wokondweretsa, amatha kufotokoza malingaliro ake. Komabe, mulimonsemo, wokamba nkhani amatanthauza kusiyana kwa mtundu wina.
Mmene mungakhalire msungwana wabwino komanso wokondweretsa ena?
Kuti izi zitheke, muyenera kukhala ndi makhalidwe ambiri:
- khalani omvetsera mokwanira kwa ena, koma osati mwachangu;
- Kulankhulana ndi anthu - ochezeka ndi okoma mtima;
- ngati akufunika, athe kuthandiza zokambirana pa nkhani zosiyanasiyana, kusonyeza chidziwitso chawo pazosiyana siyana;
- sungani nokha ndi ulemu, osachititsa manyazi ena.
Ngati mulibe makhalidwe amphamvu a mtsogoleri, ndikumangokhalira kumangokhalira kusangalala, koma mukuda nkhawa ndi funso la momwe mungakhalire msungwana wokondweretsa, muyenera kudziyesa nokha:
- phunzirani kumvetsera ndi kumva zomwe siziri zofanana;
- kuletsa mtima wawo, osati zoipa zokha, komanso zabwino;
- Samalani maonekedwe anu, kuti mukhale okongola komanso oyambirira, koma osasokoneza.
Musasowe kudzizunza nokha ndi funso la momwe mungakhalire okondweretsa kwa amuna, ngati mkaziyo si wokongola, koma ndi wochenjera. Izi zikutanthauza kutenga nawo mbali pazokambirana nawo pamtunda wofanana, osaiwala kuti asiye nthawi, komanso osagwirizana ndi mikangano yaitali komanso yowopsya pa izi kapena vuto - amuna samakonda. Chilichonse chiyenera kukhala mochepetsetsa: kukwapula, kukhumudwa , kulankhulana momasuka. Kuphatikizana mumodzi ndi kumbali ina kuli koopsa.
Momwe mungasangalatse mwamuna?
Koma ndi chinthu chimodzi chodzutsa chidwi cha anzanu kuntchito, abwenzi, oyandikana nawo. Enanso ndiyenera kukondweretsa mwamuna wanu. Izi zimafuna zambiri, ndi pang'ono panthawi yomweyo:
- kumbukirani kuti simuli mtsogoleri, koma mwamuna sali woyang'anira wanu;
- Dziwani za zokondweretsa ndi zosangalatsa za mnzanuyo ndipo musamulepheretse kuchita zomwe akufuna;
- kukhala ndi chidwi ndi mavuto a mwamuna wake ndi kusonyeza chikhumbo chomuthandiza kapena, kumvetsera, ndi kumumvera;
- Dziwani zomwe mwamuna ali nazo chidwi ndikumvetsetsa pang'ono, ndikuthandizira zokambiranazo.