Mawu othandizira panthawi zovuta

Moyo suli ndi maholide okha, mavuto amachitikira aliyense, ndipo ndikofunikira kumva mawu abwino othandizidwa kuchokera kwa achibale mu nthawi yovuta. Ndipo ziribe kanthu kuchuluka kwa momwe amanenera kuti "amuna samalira," nthawi zambiri amafunikira thandizo lathu.

Kodi mungamuthandize bwanji munthu wokondedwa?

1. Kawirikawiri mkazi, powona kusintha kwa maganizo a mwamuna wake, saganizira momwe angamuthandizire. Ndipo sizimva za mkazi, ambiri a ife timangoyamba kuganiza kuti ndi munthu wamwano, osakayikira nthawi yomwe pangakhale zifukwa zambiri za khalidwe lake lachilendo. Choncho, wina sayenera kupanga zopanda pake ndikudandaula pogwiritsa ntchito zifukwa, koma mofatsa ndi unobtrusively apeze zomwe zinachitika.
2. Pamene zonse zili pakhomo bwino, zimakhala zovuta kupirira mavuto a moyo. Choncho, mu nthawi zovuta munthu, monga kale, adzathandizira kunyumba chitonthozo. Musakhale waulesi kuti mugwiritse ntchito zakudya zomwe amakonda, pempherani kusambira ndi mafuta odzola ndi kusisita. Mukhozanso kumupatsira kuyenda kumalo omwe mumawakonda kapena kupanga mphatso yomwe wakhala akufuna kwa nthawi yayitali. Kotero bamboyo amvetsetsa kuti mumamuganizira ndi zomwe zimachitika, muli pafupi. Kuwongolera mulandu nthawi zambiri kumafikira chidziwitso cha amuna kuposa mau.
3. Konzekerani kuthetsa vutoli. Mwamuna wanu sangathe kuona njira yomwe mungapezere. Choncho, funsani za chirichonse kuti mufotokoze ndi kulingalira momwe mungasinthire mkhalidwewo, mwinamwake malangizo anu anzeru omwe angathandize mwamuna wanu kuthana ndi mavuto.

Mawu othandizira okondedwa pa nthawi yovuta

Chikhumbo chimodzi chothandizira munthu, pang'ono, mukufunikirabe mawu abwino othandizira wokondedwa wanu. Chifukwa mawu osasamala, ngakhale atchulidwa ndi zolinga zabwino, akhoza kupanga zotsatira zosiyana.

1. Amuna samakonda pamene amayi akukwera ndi uphungu wawo pamene palibe amene akufunsa. Zomwezo zimaphatikizapo chifundo. Mwamuna sangazindikire izi monga zovuta, koma ngati chisoni (ndiko kuti, ali wokhumudwa m'maso mwanu). Ndipo lidzagunda molimba pa kunyada kwa amuna ndi zopanda pake. Choncho, sikuti mumangokhalira kumuthandiza mwamuna wanu, komanso mumamupweteketsa. Kotero, mu nthawi yovuta kunena "osauka anga, osauka" sikuli choncho. Kulankhulana bwino kuti mumakhulupirira mwa iye, mukudziwa kuti akhoza kuthana nazo zonse, chifukwa ndi wanzeru, waluso, wochenjera, mwachindunji, omwe-kwambiri. Musati muumirire nkhani yatsatanetsatane ndi yowonjezera ya mavuto ake, funsani mosagwirizana, ndipo ndikwanira. Pamene iye akufuna_iye azidziuza yekha.
2. Wokondedwa wamkazi chizolowezi - kumudzudzula mwamuna, kumupatsa "uphungu wamtengo wapatali" pa nthawi imene sakufunsa. Amuna amakonda kuganiza kuti akhoza kuthetsa chirichonse paokha, ndikofunikira kuti iwo akhale abwino kwambiri. Ndipo mukamapereka uphungu wosavomerezeka, ndiye kuti mumayesayesa kudzidalira nokha. N'zosadabwitsa kuti khalidwe ngatilo ndilo anthu okwiya kwambiri. Ndipo ngati iyeyo ali ndi mavuto, ndiye chifukwa cha mawu ake osayenera inu mumakwiyitsa ndithu kunyoza. Ngati mukuganiza kuti munthu akulakwitsa, ndi bwino kumuuza momveka bwino za izo ("Ndikufuna kuti zikhale chomwecho"). Ndipo perekani uphungu pamene mupemphedwa kuti muchite zimenezo.
3. Pali mawu oterewa, omwe mu nthawi yovuta adzatonthoza munthu aliyense. Ndilo mawu akuti "simuli ndi mlandu." Amuna amagwiritsidwa ntchito polamulira chilichonse m'miyoyo yawo, amadzimva kuti ali ndi udindo pa chilichonse chomwe chimachitika. Choncho, ndi zachilendo kwa iwo kuti azidzitsutsa nokha muzovuta zawo zonse. Koma ndi zochitika zingati zomwe timangotchula mwadzidzidzi? Muzochitika zoterozo, aliyense amakhala ndi mlandu, ndipo zonse ziri zolondola. Ndikofunika kufotokozera izi kwa munthu wanu, kunena kuti kulakwitsa kwake sikuchitika. Izi zimamuthandiza kusiya kudzimba yekha ndikuyamba kuthetsa vutoli.