Malo ake ndi mtunda umene munthu angathe kuyankhulana bwino ndi anthu ena. Kuletsedwa kwa malire a malo omwe munthu ali nawo kumadziwoneka kuti ndiwonetseratu zachiwawa, choncho ndi zosasangalatsa kuti munthu akhale m'gulu la anthu (basi pa nthawi yofulumira). Odziwika bwino ndi oyankhulana, ang'onoang'ono akhoza kukhala pakati pawo. Koma ndi chiyani chimene chikhoza kuyandikana kwambiri kuposa chiyanjano cha okwatirana, kutuluka kwa malo omwe tingathe kunena pano?
Malo apadera mu chiyanjano ndi chofunikira?
Muukwati, malire a malo anu ali osowa, ena samvetsa chifukwa chake mwamuna (mwamuna) ayenera kukhala ndi nthawi yokha, malo omwe mungakhale nokha ndi inu nokha. Ndipo zotsatira zake, zoyenera zimayamba kunena za miniti iliyonse yosachoka panyumba, kufufuza mafoni, makalata ndi makangano okhudzana ndi vutoli. Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti mu chiyanjano chomwe chimakwiyitsa osati kungowononga malo enieni, komanso kuphwanya malire a gawoli. Malire amenewa ayenera kulemekezedwa, popeza onse awiri ali ndi ufulu wachinsinsi, ndipo kutaya kwathunthu ufulu kumakhala kovuta kwambiri ndipo potsirizira pake, kumapangitsa kuti awonongeke.
Mwa kuyang'ana malire a malo athu, timatanthawuza kusagwira ntchito pa tebulo, ntchito zathu, kulemekeza zizolowezi za gawo lathu lachiwiri, mtundu wa chikhalidwe ndi zikhalidwe za thupi la thupi (sikulibe ntchito kufunafuna "owl" ya ntchito yosautsa mmawa). Kwa gulu lachiwiri la zinthu lomwe liyenera kukhala losasinthika, mukhoza kukhala ndi nthawi yocheza, mwayi woyankhulana ndi abwenzi ndi kudzidzimangira nokha. Choncho, mkaziyo, akufuna kuti mwamuna wake asiye nsomba ndikusiya kuyang'ana mpira ndi abwenzi, amanyengerera mwachangu malo ake a munthu, zomwe sizingakhoze koma zimayambitsa kukana mwamphamvu.
Psychology imanena kuti malire a malo anu ayenera kulemekezedwa mulimonsemo. Musaganize kuti malire awa akhoza kuthetsa okwatirana wina ndi mnzake ndikuwononga banja. Izi siziri choncho, mmalo mwake, ulemu (osati kusokonezeka ndi osayanjanitsika) ku zosowa za wina ndi mnzake umapangitsa banja kukhala lolimba. Ngati mukuyesera kudzaza ndi moyo wonse wa mnzako, ndiye kuti "mumamunyamula" ndi chikondi chanu. Kodi mungakonde kupereka lipoti kwa wina aliyense pazinthu zanu, mukuganiza kuti mukuchitidwa ngati mwana wosafuna kuchita?
Kodi chimachititsa kukula kwa chigawo cha malo ake enieni?
Kuti ubale ukhale wogwirizana, m'pofunika kudziwa malire a malo anu enieni. Kwa anthu onse, ndi osiyana, ndipo amadalira zinthu zambiri. Nthawi zofunikira kwambiri zomwe zimakhudza kukula kwa chigawo cha malo, timatha kutchula zotsatirazi.
- Mtundu wa khalidwe. Otsatira amafunika kukhala osungulumwa, kuswa kochepa kwa malire a malo awo omwe angapangitse kungachititse kuti munthu asamachite bwino komanso ngakhale kusokonezeka kwa mantha. Zowonjezera sizikhala ndi malire omveka a malo awo ndipo samvetsa chifukwa chake ena amakana kuwalola iwo kuzinthu zonse za moyo.
- Malo okhala ndi dziko. Anthu okhala m'midzi yayikulu kuyambira kubadwa alibe malo akuluakulu, kotero kuti kukhala mumtsinje wochulukirapo kumawathandiza kuti asawonongeke mofanana ndi anthu okhala m'chigawochi.
- Kudzidalira nokha. Munthu wosachepera amakhala ndi chidaliro pa luso lake, makamaka
Malo omwe iye amawafuna, ndipo mzere womwe umamangidwa ndi iye. - Miyambo ya banja. Ngati munthu akuzoloŵera kuti makalata, kukambirana kwa telefoni si chinsinsi kwa munthu aliyense m'banja, ndiye kuti ayamba kumanga ubale wawo, adzafunanso kufanana ndi mnzakeyo.
- Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti malingaliro anu ndi malo omwe mukukhala nawo sakugwirizana nawo, ndiye kuti kukambirana momasuka ndi kofunika. Muyenera kufotokoza chifukwa chake zinthu zina ndi zofunika kwambiri kwa inu, ndipo zina sizilibe kanthu ndipo kumvetsetsa kumakhudza zofuna za mnzanuyo.