Amayi ambiri, omwe ali panjira adakumana ndi munthu wotsekedwa, akuganiza momwe angamvetsere munthu wotsegulira. Munthu uyu sakonda zokambirana zadziko, samakambirana ndi ena zakukumana kwake ndi zomwe akumana nazo, amagwira ntchito bwino yekha. Sikuti mkazi aliyense amatha kupeza njira kwa munthu woteroyo.
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Chiwongoladzanja chimapanga pafupifupi 30 peresenti ya anthu padziko lapansi. Munthuyu ndi woyang'anira, amakonda pamene chirichonse chimapita molingana ndi dongosolo lomwe analinganiza. Osalankhulana, amasankha zosangalatsa zapanyumba ndipo salekerera makampani osangalala. Ndikofunika kuti apitirize kukhala yekha payekha. Kawirikawiri munthu wotero ndi munthu wamodzi. Iye samayankhula mofulumira, samangokhalira kucheza, koma amakhala ndi zosangalatsa zina zomwe zimamupangitsa kuti azikhala yekha yekha.
Mmene mungayankhulire ndi munthu wotsegulidwa?
Funso la momwe mungapambulitsire mwamuna wolonjezera lili ndi yankho limodzi lokha: muyenera kumupatsa nthawi yokwanira. Kungolandira izo momwe zilili, ndipo musayese kuzibwezeretsanso nokha - zidzakondwera nazo.
Kokha ngati muli wokonza nyumba komanso osakonda maphwando a phokoso, mudzapeza kumvetsetsa ndi iye. Mawu alionse amayezedwa, kotero sakonda kuyankhula kosakwanira. Amalavulira pa maziko komanso malamulo, amakhala ndi zake zokha. Ndi bwino kupatsa munthu wotere ufulu wosankha, osati kumuyendetsa mulimonse.
Khalani okonzekera kuti chikondi cha mwamuna wolumala ndi chikondi chenicheni, momwe anthu awiri akhoza kukhala pamodzi popanda kulankhulana wina ndi mzake. Sikoyenera kufotokozera anthu akuluakulu payekha ndikumuzunza ndi mafunso, chifukwa sangakupatseni mayankho omveka bwino. Zimangokhala zopanda phindu ngati kumfulumizitsa - samangoyendayenda paliponse ndipo salekerera kukangana. Kodi mumavomereza chiyanjano choterocho? Kodi adzakutsatani? Pokhapokha mutha kukhala wokondwa ndi munthu wotsegulidwa.