Kodi mungakhululukire bwanji?

Funso la momwe mungakhululukire kusakhulupirika ndi lovuta kwambiri komanso ziwiri, chifukwa nthawi zonse limamva: "Kodi ndikoyenera kukhululukira?" Mkhalidwe ndi wosiyana, choncho ndi kovuta kunena motsimikizika kuti njira yomwe mungathere kuti mukhale yoona.

Kodi ndiyenera kukhululukira kusakhulupirika?

Funsoli ndi lopangidwa bwino, ndipo kuti likhale losavuta kutsutsana, tidzakambirana malo ochepetsetsa - kodi wina angakhululukire kugulitsidwa kwa mwamuna? Kawirikawiri mu nkhaniyi, zikutanthawuza kusamvera. Komabe, m'mbali iliyonse, chirichonse chiri chokha payekha:

• ngati mupeza kuti mwamuna amanyengerera pa inu, ndipo ali ndi banja lachiwiri kapena chikondi kumbali, ndikofunika kukhululukira kusakhulupirika? Kuchita kwa munthu kumakhala ndi zotsatira zovuta kwa onse omwe ali nawo mkhalidwewo.
• ngati zikutanthauza kuti mwamuna wanu weniweni wa kristalo nthawi ina analakwitsa muzoledzeretsa, ndi bwino kuganizira ngati n'kotheka kukhululukira. Ngati mukutsimikiza kuti izi sizidzachitikanso, ndi bwino kuti tisiye kutero;
• ngati mupeza kuti mwamuna wanu akudwala donjuan yovuta ndipo nthawi zonse amayamba akazi atsopanowo, ayimire ndikuganiza za kukhululukidwa? Pakadali pano zikuonekeratu kuti munthu sangakwanitse kukhulupirika konse.

Ngati kuli kovuta kwa inu, mumamva kuti mukuphwanyika ndikuzindikira kuti simudzaiwalika ntchitoyi - kusakhulupirika sikungakhululukidwe. Mudzavutika kokha pambali pake, ndikupha kudzidalira kwanu ndikutaya mwayi wokhala osangalala. Koma ngati mukumvetsa kuti popanda izo mudzakhala oipitsitsa kusiyana ndi iye, palibe chifukwa chosiya kugonana.

Kodi mungakhululukire bwanji kuperekedwa kwa mwamuna, mayi, chibwenzi?

Chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi chakuti muyenera kuphunzira: kukhululukirana ndi kuiwala. Ngati mutasankha kupitiliza ubale umenewu, simungabwererenso kumbuyo ndipo kumbukirani nthawiyi pamakangano onse. Pambuyo pake, njira iyi yobwezeretsanso malo abwino mu banja sizingatheke, ndipo palibe lingaliro lopitirizira ubalewo nkomwe.

Musathamangire ku funso la momwe mungakhululukire kuperekedwa kwa wokondedwa wanu. Imeneyi ndi njira yayitali, yomwe mungatengeko kwa miyezi yambiri. Yesani kuchotsa chilichonse chomwe chidzakumbutseni za izi. Zomwezo zikugwiranso ntchito kwa anthu ena apamtima - mwachitsanzo, mayi kapena chibwenzi. Ngati mumasankha kukhululukira munthu, khalani owona pa chisankho chanu ndipo musatchulepo nkhaniyi m'malingaliro kapena kukambirana.

Ndizofunika kusintha zinthu, zithetsa, dzizisamalire. Musayese kuti muyanjane mwamsanga ndi munthu amene anakuperekani mwa mphamvu - izi sizidzapereka zotsatira zabwino, koma zidzangowonjezera mkhalidwe wovuta kale.