Kodi mungabwezere bwanji chidwi cha munthu?

Ubale uliwonse poyamba umawoneka ngati nthano, koma patapita zaka zingapo osakwatirana amacheza akuwonana ndi mtima wawo wokondana kwambiri. Izi zikutsimikiziridwa osati ndi mkazi mmodzi. Kuti abwerere kwa iye mwini chidwi cha munthu wokondedwa, mochititsa chidwi, mosavuta. Chinthu chofunikira kukumbukira za nzeru zazimayi ndizochinyengo zomwe zimakhala mwa aliyense wa ife.

Kodi mungabwezere bwanji chidwi cha mwamuna wake?

Pofuna kubwezeretsa chikondi chomwe kale, amalingaliro a maganizo amakulimbikitsani kuti muchotse zolakwa, khululukirani wokondedwa wanu. Ubale uyenera kusintha nthawi zonse, ndipo kusintha kulikonse kosatheka sikungatheke ngati, pamodzi ndi iwo, atanyamula nawo mawu onyoza, mawu osalankhula, kuwawa ndi chisoni.

Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti tsiku loyamba pamene mwazindikira kuti ndi iye yekha amene mukufuna kugawana nawo mphindi iliyonse yachisangalalo ndi nyengo yoipa. Khalani mmbuyo, yang'anani maso anu ndipo yesani kuganizira pa nthawi imeneyo. Yesani kuyankha mafunso otsatirawa:

• Ndinali chiyani ndiye?
• bwanji ndinamukoka?
• Kodi ndingabweretse khalidwe ili la khalidwe , khalidwe ndi zina zotero?
• Kodi ndine wokonzeka kusintha kuti ubale wathu ukhale ndi chikondi chachichepere ndi nthawi zosakumbukika za chimwemwe?

Ndikofunika kukhala mkazi yemwe palibe munthu akufuna kuchoka. Ndipo sizinthu za anthu omwe amafuna kuti aziwakonda pansi pa chidendene, madzulo onse, kukonzekera masewero a nsanje ndi mitundu yonse ya mawonedwe osafunika.

Sizingakhale zodabwitsa kunena kuti amayi ambiri omwe analandira sitampu pasipoti yawo, asiye kusamalira okha, penyani mawonekedwe awo. Monga mukudziwira, amuna ngati maso ndi nkhaniyi ndi akale ngati dziko lapansi, koma anthu ambiri amaiwala za izo.

Choncho, ndikofunika kukhala mmodzi yemwe adzaopa kutaya. Ndipo, Ngati simukusowa kusintha maonekedwe anu, komanso kugwirizanitsa ndi makhalidwe ena, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti kusintha kumeneku kumachokera pa chikondi chanu, ndipo pokhapokha-kwa mwamuna wake. Nchifukwa chiani kuti mubwezeretse chidwi cha mnzanuyo, mosasamala kanthu kuti wokondeka kwambiri, mnzanuyo, mumasowa, mutangodzikonda nokha? Mwachidule chifukwa ngati mumayika poyamba, mumasungunuka mwa munthuyu, kutaya mwapadera, anu "I", ndipo izi, mwatsoka, ndizolakwa za akazi ambiri.

Ndikofunika kuphunzira kubisala malingaliro anu pang'ono, osati kumutumizira uthenga mauthenga. Chilichonse chiyenera kukhala chokhazikika ndipo izi siziyenera kuiwalika.