Munthu ndi wosiyana ndi munthu. Palibe anthu ofanana, palibe "abwino" kapena "oipa". Komabe, mmalo mwathu mungathe kumva zambiri monga "Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukhala munthu wabwino", kapena "Chabwino, khalani mwamuna!". Ndipo momwe mungakhalire munthu wabwino ndikutanthauza kukhala munthu weniweni - pamene anthu ayankha mafunso amenewa anthu atayika. Iwo sakudziwa. Kapena iwo akudziwa, koma iwo amakhala chete chete!
Kwa ine, ndine wabwino kwambiri
Munthu ndi mitundu yamoyo, yomwe ili ndi makhalidwe ena (manja, mapazi, mutu) ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu (chikhalidwe, chikhalidwe cha kulankhulana, kuyang'ana zamtengo wapatali). Malinga ndi tanthawuzoli, mutha kuyamika - tonse ndife "anthu". Ndipo n'chiyani chimapangitsa munthu kukhala "wabwino"? Yankho ndi losavuta - maganizo athu. Maganizo athu kwa ife eni, ndi malingaliro a ena, mchitidwe wofufuza.
Kukhala munthu wabwino kwa inu nokha ndizochita mogwirizana ndi maganizo athu a chikhalidwe ndi maganizo. Aliyense wa ife ali ndi masomphenya ake enieni, malamulo ake, mfundo zake ndi makhalidwe ake. Kodi ndizoyenera kufotokozera kuti zitsogoleredwa ndizo - timazitenga kuti zikhale zofanana. Malingaliro athu, malingaliro, zochita, ndizoyendera, ndi zabwino kwa ife patokha, koma kwa munthu wina izi zikhoza kukhala zosavomerezeka, zolakwika, ndi zina zotero. Timadzipereka tokha ndi zikhalidwe zina zomwe zimagwirizana ndi maonekedwe athu. Kuposa mlingo wa kumvera, chifukwa chomveka chodziganizira nokha "chabwino."
Kupanga malonjezo ndi kusunga iwo ndikutanthauza kukhala munthu wodalirika. Kudziyang'anira yekha. Kukhala ndi lingaliro la momwe tingakhalire ndi anthu komanso kuchita mogwirizana ndi malingalirowa ndikutanthauza kukhala munthu wolera. Tinaphunzitsidwa kumvetsetsa kwathu kwa nkhaniyi. Kudziwa "kuchita", ndi momwe mungachitire "osati" ndikuchita moyenera - ndicho chimene chimatanthauza kukhala munthu wabwino. Khalani oyenera pamaziko a ziweruzo zathu.
Munthu aliyense amadziona ngati wolemekezeka, wolemekezeka, wolemekezeka pamaziko a malingaliro ake pa zochitika izi. Kusiyanitsa ndikuti iwo ali ndi malingaliro awoawo. Pachifukwa ichi, pali kusiyana maganizo - kwa inu nokha, monga, ngati zabwino, ndipo wina akutseni inu, pepani, matope. Ndipo ndani amene angakhulupirire?
Maganizo a ena
Zomwe zimatanthauza kukhala munthu wabwino kwa ena ndi funso lochititsa chidwi, chifukwa ndi zopanda pake! Choyamba, komanso ngati zingakhale zabwino kwa ena, chifukwa lingaliro la "kuzungulira" limatanthauza anthu ambirimbiri. Ndipo ndi anthu angati - malingaliro ambiri, omwe tapeza kale. Zingatheke kuti zigwirizane ndi malingaliro a aliyense, motero, pa zonse zomwe simungakhale bwino. Ndiye kodi ndibwino kuti mupitirizebe? Ndipo pitirizani kuimirira, kokha khamulo kakutizungulira, ndikupempha kuti musiye kumbuyo. Tiyeni tiyankhule za anthu okondedwa athu ...
Banja lathu ndi abwenzi athu apamtima ndi anthu omwe tiyenera kuyesetsa kukhala anthu abwino. Cholinga chachikulu sichikhumudwitsa, osati kuwavulaza. Tiyenera kuyesetsa kukhala ndi ulemu ndi iwo amene amasamala za ife. Uwu ndiwonetsedwe kokhudzidwa kwathu. Izi sizili zophweka, chifukwa aliyense amafunikira njira zake komanso zolemba zina ndi malingaliro ake, koma izi zimatipanga ife pamaso pa ena, zomwe ndi zofunika kwa ife. Ndipo malingaliro a enawo, lingaliro la "khamu" silisangalatse ife motsimikiza.
Palibe chifukwa choti tiganizire za munthu wabwino. Palibe anthu abwino, ndizoona. Mukhoza kuyesetsa kuti mukhale abwino kwa inu eni, malingana ndi zomwe mukuyembekeza.
Ndipo potsirizira, ndizovuta kuti mukhale munthu yemwe simuli kwenikweni. Kuyesera kukwaniritsa zofuna za wina, kumangodzimenya yekha pamtima pake, kunama, kwa iye yekha ndi ena - awa ndi nthawi zomwe zimavuta kwambiri miyoyo yathu. Mukufuna kusewera nawo ntchito yachilendo - chonde, bwalo la masewero likuyang'anira. Koma osasewera ndi moyo, ndi waufupi kwambiri. Kukhala wekha, kukhala wokhutira ndi moyo wako - ndicho chimene chimatanthauza kukhala munthu weniweni.