Popanda kukhudzidwa, sikutheka kukhala ndi moyo, pambali pamakhala yosangalatsa komanso yosasangalatsa. Munthu - osati robot, ndife achilendo ndipo timafunikira ngakhale kukhudzidwa. Mantha, chikondi, chifundo, chisangalalo ndikumverera komwe kumatipangitsa ife kumva mitundu yonse. Kusonyeza mtima, timadzaza miyoyo yathu ndi mitundu yowala, ngakhale kuti nthawi zina mitunduyi imakhala yamdima. Chifukwa cha kusiyana kumeneku, tikhoza kuzindikira zomwe zimatipangitsa kukhala osangalala komanso zimatipangitsa kukhala ndi maganizo abwino.
Chilichonse ndi chabwino moyenera
Kusungulumwa monga chinthu cha munthu yemwe amamuphimba kumutu. Manja ake, mawonekedwe a nkhope, zolankhulana - zotengeka za munthu zimawonetseredwa m'zinthu zonse.
Kukhumudwa kwa malingaliro kumatithandiza kuphunzira za interlocutor mochuluka kuposa tanthauzo la mawu ake. Momwe amasonyezera malingaliro, munthu amatha kuzindikira nthawi yomweyo kuti munthu ali woyenera. Monga mukudziwira, zonse zili bwino moyenera. Kuwonjezeka m'malingaliro nthawi zambiri kumawononga (zowononga). Mwinamwake wina akudziŵa bwino vutoli, pamene simugonjetsa maganizo anu, mwalola kuti muzitsutsana ndi mabwana, anzako, achibale anu ndi anthu omwe ali pafupi ndi inu. Kumbukirani kutalika kwake komwe munakumana nazo panthawi yomweyi ndi zosautsa ndipo mudatengapo zipatso za khalidwe lanu lopanda nzeru.
Kukhwima maganizo kapena kupambanitsa ndi koopsa chifukwa kumatipangitsa kukhala osatetezeka. Munthu wosaganizira moyenera ali ngati buku lotseguka, limene wina akufuna kutuluka. Musamawulule mwamsanga moyo kwa anthu omwe sangakhale oyenerera. Sungani maganizo anu kwa omwe amawayamikira kwambiri.
Pali mfundo yokhudzidwa, yomwe ndi yofunika kwambiri poleredwa ndi mwanayo. Chowonadi ndi chakuti malingaliro abwino omwe timachita chifukwa cha mtundu wina wa zochitika kapena zochitika zimakhala ngati mtundu wotsitsimutsa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwanayo atangotenga bukuli, anayamba kuliwerenga ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo ankasangalala komanso chidwi (palibe amene adatenga bukulo, sanachichepetse kapena kuchiphwanya), ndiye kuti mwanayo ali ndi mavuto pang'ono, chifukwa zimakhala zosangalatsa kwa iye.
Pankhani ya munthu wamkulu, mfundoyi ingagwiritsidwe ntchito posinthidwa. Mwachitsanzo, ntchito yanu "siikwanira", simukukhutitsidwa kwathunthu. Yesetsani kupanga zinthu zoterozo, kuti ntchito ikhale kwa inu mokondwera ndipo munayamba kukhala ndi chiyembekezo. Mfundo yokhudzidwa ndi izi ndikuti timakonda kuchita zomwe zimatipangitsa kumva kuti ndi zabwino. Kodi mukuganiza tsopano chifukwa chake tonsefe timafuna kukonda ndi kukondedwa? ..
Kupititsa patsogolo ndi kutaya
Ngati mulibe malingaliro okwanira, simungathe kuwonekera mokwanira, yesetsani kukhala ndi maganizo. Muyenera kuyamba kugwira ntchito. Makhalidwe ndi chizoloŵezi cha zizoloŵezi kuti achitepo mwanjira inayake ku zochitika zinazake ndi zochitika. Mwachitsanzo, ngati ndinu amanyazi, mukuwopa kulankhula ndi anthu osadziwika - muyenera kukhala otseguka, kukhala olimba mtima, okoma mtima komanso osangalala. Ndiye kulankhula kwanu kudzakhala ndi mtundu wa maganizo komanso kukhala "wamoyo" komanso kosangalatsa, komabe, mofanana ndi inuyo.
Kodi mungathetse bwanji maganizo anu, ngati zikuvuta kwambiri moyo wanu? Vutoli lidzathetsedwanso, padzakhala chikhumbo. Pali chinthu choterocho monga kulingalira. Kulingalira kumatanthawuza njira yolingalira komanso yothandiza, pamene maganizo amachokera kumaganizo. Pofuna kuchotsa maganizo ambiri, munthu ayenera kukhala wosamvetsetsa. Yesetsani kutsogoleredwa ndi kulingalira ndi chidziwitso, musalole kuti maganizo anu asamvetse bwino. Kulingalira komanso kukhudzidwa, moyenerera, ayenera kuthandizana bwino. Onetsetsani kulamulira zochita zawo ndi malingaliro awo, amatha kulingalira mwanzeru ndi kuvomereza poyera maganizo awo - izi ndizojambula zenizeni.