Masiku ano sizili zovuta kudabwa chinthu china pa bedi - intaneti inapanga "kugonana kwakukulu" kuchokera kwa aliyense, palibe masewera, palibe toyilesi, zipangizo zopanda nzeru, palibe machitidwe a Kamasutra. Zoona, mutha kukhala osiyana kwambiri ndi moyo wanu wapamtima mukayesa njira yakale ya "Tao ya Chikondi". Ndizodabwitsa kuti ichi sichilendo konse, koma kubwereranso kuzing'ono zomwe zingathe kusangalatsa zambiri kuposa "zosiyana" zatsopano. Kugonana kwa Taoist kumapereka mpata wamavuto ambiri komanso chikondi chokhalitsa, ndipo kuti zonse zikhalepo, muyenera kudziwa malamulo ochepa.
Lamulo nambala 1. Kugwirizana pakati pa Yin ndi Yang
Munthu aliyense akuphatikiza mfundo ziwiri, koma amuna ambiri amalamulidwa ndi Yan mphamvu, ndi akazi - Yin. Taoists amayerekezera mphamvu yamwamuna ndi moto, yomwe imangoyamba kutuluka ndikumwalira mwamsanga. Chikhalidwe cha mphamvu yazimayi ndi chosiyana, zomwe zimapanga ndi madzi, osati mofulumira kwambiri, koma zamphamvu kwambiri komanso zowonongeka. Koma ndithudi, pali kusiyana, pali amuna a Yin ndi a Yan. Izi ziyenera kumvedwa kuti athe kukwaniritsa mgwirizano mu moyo wapamtima.
Kugonana kwachikazi kumabadwa pamutu, kumatsikira pamtima mpaka kumaliseche. Ndi amuna mosiyana - mphamvu zawo zimachokera kumaliseche kupita kumutu, kupyolera mu mtima. Choncho, mkazi ayamba kukhala wokondwa kuchokera pamwamba ndipo, mwachidule, munthu amangothandiza. Ndipo mkaziyo amapanga maganizo ofunikira kwambiri ndi zosangalatsa yekha, ndi malingaliro ake omwe. Choncho, kulingalira za ubale wapamtima ndi wokondedwa kumafuna zambiri kuposa momwe zimachitikira m'manja mwa munthu kale akunthunthumira ndi chilakolako. Chikondi cha Tao chimawona tanthauzo la chithunzithunzi chachisangalalo chachikazi chazimayi, zomwe zimabweretsa zovuta.
Lamulo nambala 2. Phunzirani kukhudza
Okonda zamakono, ngati akhudzidwa, mwina mwangozi kapena mwachangu mwachangu m'madera omwe amatentha. Koma amaiwala zonse za chikondi, zokhudza chikondi. Koma kupsompsonana kophweka, kumakumbatira pamsonkhano kapena kumangokhalira kugunda, mukamagona mukhoza kukufikitsani pafupi. Zokhudza zoterezi ndizofunikira kwambiri kwa munthu, nthawi yomwe oxytocin imapangidwa, yomwe imachotsa nkhawa, imalimbitsa malingaliro a okondedwa ndipo imayambitsa kupanga mahomoni ogonana. Koma popanda kuperewera kwadzidzidzi, akazi akhoza kupeza kupanikizika ndi kutaya chidwi pa kugonana, ndipo amuna amapangidwa mopanda ulemu komanso nkhanza. Kotero ngati tsopano muwiri mwanu chirichonse chiri mwanjira ina osati kwambiri, mwinamwake izi ndi zotsatira za njala yothandizira. Yesetsani kugwirana mobwerezabwereza - yendani ndi chogwirira, musambe pamodzi, penyani TV mukukumbatira. Zochita zosavuta izi zidzakuthandizani kudzutsa mphamvu zanu zogonana ndi kulimbitsa mphamvu zanu.
Lamulo nambala 3. Kupuma, kuukitsa kugonana
Kupuma kokwanira mu Tao wachikondi kumaphatikizapo kutulutsa mpweya ndi kutulutsa mpweya, pogwiritsa ntchito kupuma kwa m'mimba. Anthu ena amabadwa ngati awa, ndipo ena onse amafunika kuphunzira. Inde, pa nthawi ya kugonana, mpweya umatayika, koma kuphunzira kuugonjetsa, mukhoza kukulitsa ndi kuwonjezera zozizwitsa zanu, ndipo zimathandiza othandizira kuti athetse kuyendetsa. Iyi ndi njira yophweka yokonzekera zosangalatsa.
Lamulo nambala 4. Zosayera zachilengedwe
Poyesa dao kugonana, muyenera kuyamba ndi kumpsompsonana, chifukwa milomo ndi lilime ndizofunika kwambiri. Koperani mobwerezabwereza, gwiritsani mphamvu za mnzanuyo panthawi yopsompsona ndikumupatseni. Poyamba, perekani choyamba kwa mwamunayu, akulimbikitseni inu bwino. Kuyamba bwino ndi mapazi ndi manja, pang'onopang'ono kusunthira mmwamba, kupita pakati, kupita kumutu, kusiya mamimba pamapeto pake, kumene muyenera kupitako thupi. Koma kuti azikakamiza ziwalo zoberekera za amayi mu dao zimatheka kokha ngati malo onse oyandikana nawo akuwotha. Mayiyo, mosiyana ndi zimenezo, ayenera kuyambitsa kupweteka kwa mbolo, koma mopanda mphamvu
Lamulo nambala 5. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho maganizo abwino
Chikondi cha Tao chimapatsa mpata maulendo angapo, chifukwa chaichi, mukufunikira kupuma moyenera, kumakhudza mwachikondi ndi kulamulira mphamvu zogonana. Mwachidziwikire, kuti ziwonongeko zambiri zingayesedwe, koma a Taoist ali otsimikiza kuti zosangalatsazi zilipo kwa aliyense, chinthu chofunika kwambiri. Ngati mwakonzekera chiwonetsero chimodzi, ndiye kuti chidzachitika, ndipo mutayang'ana mu chiwerengero chachikulu, mudzakonza pulogalamu yomwe thupi lidzakondweretse. Choncho lolani maganizo anu azigwirizana ndi zikhumbo zanu zogonana kuti zikhale zenizeni.