Kodi munayenera kutero, mutatha kugwedezeka mutatha munthu wopanikizidwa popanda mzere, kuwonjezera pamalingaliro pa chidziwitso cha "kudzikuza-chachiwiri" chokhutira? Kapena timakhulupirira mosaganizira kuti ziri choncho, koma, pazifukwa zina, izi ndi "chimwemwe chachiwiri" - chinthu chosayenera ndi chosatheka kwa ife.
Tiyeni tiganizire pamodzi, kodi ndizodzikuza kwambiri, monga momwe amakhulupirira kale. Ndipo kodi nkhope iyi ili kuti, pamene ikukhudza kulimba mtima kuti tichite chinachake chomwe timanena kuti kulimbika ndi kudzikweza.
Choyamba, taganizirani za momwe mumaonera kudzikuza: kodi mumaganiza kuti ndi chachiwiri chimwemwe, choyipa kapena chinthu chomwe chingakhale chothandizira kwa inu. Ambiri amatsutsa khalidweli, koma pali ena amene amafunsa momwe kudzikuza kumakhalira.
Kudzudzula si vuto?
Kapena choyipa? Ganizilani: ambiri a ife tinkachita zinthu mopanda mantha muubwana, kufikira makolo atapanga kulakwa. Kulimba mtima kochepa kwambiri kumatuluka, ndipo kumapezeka kuti ndiwe mwana wamba. Koma nthawi yomweyo zimakhala zosadziwika, zopanda nzeru komanso ngakhale vuto lachinyengo, ndi zosiyana ndi zomwe zimaonedwa kuti ndi zabwino kwambiri. Mkulu, moyo wodziimira, munthu aliyense amakhazikitsa malire, koma kuchuluka kwake kumadalira makamaka kubereka.
Kodi mawu akuti kudzikuza amatanthauzanji? Izi ndizopanda ulemu, komanso chikhulupiliro cha munthu kuti akuyenerera zabwino. M'nkhaniyi, sizikumveka zoipa kwambiri, mumavomereza, chifukwa palibe chochititsa manyazi pofuna kupeza zambiri pa moyo. Ndizosadabwitsa kuti akunena kuti chipongwe cha mzindawo chimatengera, chifukwa chikanati chiyambire mbiri yathu, musakhale pansi pa anthu oopa.
Chinthu china ndi pamene munthu sakudziwa kuti ndiyeso, ndipo kusaganizira kwake kulibe malire. Ponena za kuwonongeka kwa ulemu kwa ena, kudzikuza kwabwino kumapangitsa kuti munthu asakhale wosadziletsa. Ndiyeno funso likubwera, momwe mungamenyane ndi kudzikuza kotero.
Kodi mungapewe bwanji kunyada?
Nthawi zambiri, yemwe khalidwe lathu timamuona ngati wopanda manyazi, sakhulupirira kuti akuchita chinachake chimene sungathe kuchipeza. Izi ndizo, sizinzake zomwe zimadzikweza pamwamba, koma inu nokha mumadzichepetsa. Pamwamba pa kusasamala - lingaliro lodziwika bwino. Komabe, zimachitika kuti timayang'anitsitsa momveka bwino, ndipo sitikudziwa momwe tingayankhire ndi kudzikweza.
- Choyamba, yesani kumvetsetsa ngati pali kulemekeza ena mwa khalidwe la munthu wonyada. Ngati kudzikweza ndiko chifukwa cha kusamvera, musakhale wamanyazi kuti mumugwire munthu yemwe akukuchititsani. Makamaka, ngati mutapatukana mumakwiya ndipo mumayankha mayankho omwe angathe kukhala osayimilira. Pambuyo pake, zimangotanthauza kuti sikuti munthu wansanje yekha amakuona kuti ndiwe wosayenera, koma iwe mwini.
- Kawirikawiri chiwombankhanga chimakhala chowopsya, ndipo chimapezeka chifukwa cha kusatsimikizika. Ngati mutenga cholemba ichi mu khalidwe la wina
mwamuna, zidzakhala zosavuta kuti muzindikire zoyesayesa zowona malo osatetezeka ndi chipolowe chosachita chidwi ndi kukhwima. - Ngati n'kotheka, yesetsani anthu achibwibwi kupewa kapena kuchepetsa kulankhulana.
Ndipo, potsiriza, ngati mutakumana ndi kunyada nthawi iliyonse, ganizirani zomwe ziri zolakwika ndi kudzidalira kwanu ndi dziko lonse. Mwinamwake munasankha udindo wa wovutitsidwayo, ndipo anthu omwe akuzungulirani amakhala pansi pa khosi lanu. Othaŵa, cads, onyenga ndi onyoza - anthu onsewa amamva anthu omwe amavutika mosavuta ndi khalidwe lawo. Choncho, njira yabwino yothetsera kudzikuza ndiyo kukonda ndi kudzilemekeza nokha!