Ndilo loto laling'ono lachikazi la chikondi chosatha, chomwe iwo amachiwona ngati munthu. Wina aliyense amadziwa kuti banja likhoza kukhala mosangalala nthawi zonse, ngati likugwira ntchito pa ubale tsiku ndi tsiku. Apo ayi, iwo adzatha pambuyo pa kutha kwa chikondi mokondwera. Kotero, ndi nthawi yanji ya mgwirizano umene umayenera kuchitidwa mosamalitsa?
Zinsinsi za Moyo wa Banja Wachimwemwe
Banja lirilonse liri ndi njira zowonjezeretsa kusungirana kwa ubale kwa zaka zambiri, koma pali zinthu zingapo zomwe ndi zachilendo kwa aliyense.
- Kusamalirana . Musaganize kuti mwamuna ndi mkazi okwatirana angathe kudzitamandira. Maganizo a anthu osiyanasiyana pavuto lililonse sangagwirizane. Choncho musaganizire malingaliro anu okha, yesetsani kumvetsera zomwe mnzanu akunena. Mwachibadwa, ayenera kuchita chimodzimodzi. Onse awiri muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti aliyense ali ndi mphamvu zomwe angathe kulekerera zolephera.
- Sungani choyambirira . Kusagwirizana kumachitika m'banja lililonse, nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa mikangano ndi phokoso lopweteka. Sitinganene kuti izi ndi zabwino, koma palibe kugonana popanda nthawi zoterozo. Ndiyenera kuti ndiphunzire kumvetsa zomwe ziri zofunika, ndipo ndi chiani changwiro. Mwachitsanzo, mumakangana pa chikho chophwanyika mwangozi, ngakhale mutapatsidwa ndi wachibale wanu ndipo ndinu wokondedwa kwa inu. Kodi sikofunika kwambiri panopo chifukwa cha chinthu chimene chingagulidwe mokweza mwa kufuula kwa wokondedwa wanu amene mumakonzekera kutenga gawo lalikulu la moyo wanu?
- Phunzirani kusokoneza . Kodi mumakonda kukhala wopanikizika, ndikulimbikira pazinthu zonse? Ndiye sizingatheke kuti mutenge kuti mukhale ndi ubale weniweni. Perekani kwa mwamuna wanu, ndipo adzakupatsani nthawi yina. Musaganizire kuti mukugonjetsa kusagonjetsedwa kapena kuwonetseredwa kwanu kofooka, chifukwa ndiye mudzapulumutsa dziko lonse.
- Pamene akuyankhula, mvetserani . Kawirikawiri ife, pakupempha munthu wina, samva zonena zake nkomwe. Phunzirani kumvetsera ndi kumvetsera wanu wothandizana nawo ndipo onetsetsani kuti mukambirane za mavuto. Mwa kukhala chete, simungapindule kanthu, kungothamanga mpaka nthawi yomwe zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri kuthetsa. Ngati mumakondana, mudzapeza mitu yoyankhulirana ndi njira yofotokozera zinthu zofunika.
- Khalani nokha . Moyo wa banja umasintha, koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti mukufunikira kusintha kwambiri. Sungani zosangalatsa zanu, yesetsani kupambana mu ntchito yanu, musataye moyo wanu pa guwa la banja, chifukwa mwamuna wanu amakondana ndi inu mwakhama ndi chidwi, choncho khalani naye.
- Chiwerengero cha bajeti . Ndalama zimakhala zokangana, ngakhale m'banja losangalatsa kwambiri. Yesetsani kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino a ndalama, simukufunikira iwo okha, koma kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino kwa banja lanu. Ndipo iwo ayenera kupatsidwa ndi winawake yemwe ali abwino kwambiri pa izo. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti bajeti yanu iyenera kugawidwa ndipo muyenera kugawana nawo. Musaiwale za kufunika kokhala ndi nthawi yambiri zosangalatsa nokha ndi mwamuna wanu, ngati mulibe mwayi wotsitsimula ndi kuupereka kwa wina, lingaliro la bajeti yeniyeni silidzakhalanso lopambana.
- Kupumula . Mabanja ena amakonda kupita kutchuthi pamodzi, amakonda kuwona mizinda yatsopano ndi mayiko, kukumana ndi anthu atsopano. Koma izi sizimamangirirana wina ndi mzake tsiku ndi tsiku. Inu nonse muli ndi abwenzi, mumusiyeni apite nokha, ndipo mupite ku msonkhano ndi anzanu. Osamukoka iye kulikonse kumbuyo kwake, ndikuletsa mwamuna wake kuti asakhale pansi, iwe ndi wina ndi mnzake muyenera kupuma.
- Gulani mapiritsi kuchokera kumutu! Kugonana ndi wokondedwa - nchiyani chingakhale chosangalatsa? Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani nthawi zambiri amasiya? Zifukwa zambiri sizingabweretse chabwino chilichonse, munthu wachikondi angakuyembekezere kwa nthawi yaitali, koma posachedwa adzatopa. Ndipo kuthamanga kuchokera ku chizoloŵezi pabedi, usawope kuyesera.
- Amzanga apamtima . Ubale wa banja uyenera kukhala nawo
osati kugonana kokha, komanso ubwenzi . Phunzirani kugawana zomwe mwakumana nazo ndikumvetsera mzanu. Ndipo ngati mutasankha kupereka ndemanga kwa mwamuna wanu, ndiye lankhulani mofatsa, popanda kunyozedwa ndi kunyozedwa. - Pangani ndondomeko ya moyo pamodzi . Kuti moyo wanu ukule, ndibwino kuganizira chifukwa chake mukuchita zonsezi. Muyenera kudziwa komwe mukufuna kukhala, ana angati omwe mumawafuna komanso pamene mukuwakonzekera.
Kawirikawiri, chimwemwe cha banja chimakhala ndi kuthekera kukambirana ndi mwamuna wake, kuleza mtima kwakukulu chifukwa cha zofooka zake ndi chikhumbo chokonza yekha.