Makhalidwe apadera amakhala ndi udindo wapadera, ndipo izi zimapanganso maudindo omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito panthawi zina.
Umoyo, monga wotsogolera maudindo
Mawu oti "gawo lachitukuko" ayenera kumveka ngati chitsanzo cha khalidwe lomwe limakwaniritsa zofunikira, zoyembekeza, zaka zambiri zomwe anthu amauzidwa. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, izi ndizo zofunikira kuti akwaniritse munthu amene ali ndi malo ena ake. Mwachitsanzo, tidzasanthula mbali ya chikhalidwe cha "dokotala". Ambiri akuyembekezera kuti atha kupereka chithandizo choyamba kapena kuchiza matenda omwe simudziwa. Ngati munthuyo sakulephera kukwaniritsa maudindo ake, komanso kutsimikizira ziyembekezo za ena, zifukwa zina zimagwiritsidwa ntchito (mutu umamulepheretsa kuntchito yake, kunyalanyaza makolo ndi ufulu wa makolo, ndi zina zotero)
Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti udindo wa munthu payekha ulibe malire. Mukangoyamba kumene mumagwira ntchito ya wogula, kwinakwake - mayi wachikondi. Koma nthawi zina kugwira ntchito zofanana panthawi yomweyo kungachititse kuti agwirizane, ndikuyamba kukangana . Chitsanzo chabwino cha izi ndi kulingalira za moyo wa mayi wamayi, wofunitsitsa kumanga ntchito yabwino. Choncho, sizingakhale zovuta kwa iye kuphatikizapo maudindo omwe ali nawo monga iye: mkazi wachikondi, wogwirira ntchito, mayi yemwe mtima wake uli wodzaza ndi chikondi kwa mwana wake, wosunga nyumba, ndi zina zotero. Pazochitika zotero, akatswiri a maganizo amavomereza kuti pofuna kupewa mliriwu, yikani zinthu zofunika kwambiri, ndikuika malo oyamba pachitetezo, chomwe chimakopeka kwambiri.
Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti chisankho chimenechi chimapangitsa kuti anthu azikhala ndi makhalidwe abwino , komanso kuti,
Sizingakhale zodabwitsa kunena kuti zonsezi (zomwe zimakhazikitsidwa ndi lamulo) ndi maudindo osagwirizana ndi anthu (makhalidwe abwino, malamulo omwe ali nawo m'magulu onse) amagawidwa.
Maganizo a anthu ndi maudindo a munthuyo
Mkhalidwe wa chikhalidwe uyenera kukhala wotchulidwa ndi udindo, ulemu wina, umene umatchulidwa ndi munthu payekha malingaliro a anthu. Ndilo khalidwe lalikulu la munthu mumtundu wa anthu (udindo wachuma, wa magulu ena a anthu, ntchito, maphunziro, ndi zina zotero)