Zomwe amavomerezedwa ndi oyankhulana ndizo zomwe zimakhala ndi khalidwe la mnzanuyo zomwe amamuganizira mosamala kapena mosamala. Amuna ndi akazi, akhoza kukhala osiyana. Akazi, kukonda anzawo, amasonyeza zizindikiro zosamveketsa: nthawi zambiri amawombera mphesi, amakhudza tsitsi lawo, amatha kunyoza milomo yawo, amawonetsa matupi awo. Komanso kawirikawiri, atsikana amaponya chinthu m'manja. Kuonjezera apo, mkaziyo akutembenukira kwa mwamuna ndi thupi lonse, ngati kuti akuwonetsa kuti ali wokonzeka kukwatirana ndipo ali wokonzeka.
Zizindikiro za kulankhulana bwino zingasonyezedwe mu kugwirizanitsa bizinesi pakati pa awiri awiri, osati amuna ndi akazi. Choyamba chidzakhala chithandizo ndi mayamiko, chidwi chenicheni pa kupambana kapena kulephera kwa interlocutor. Osati malo otsiriza omwe amatengedwa ndi kutamandidwa. Zizindikiro zoterezi zimasonyezana chifundo ndi kukonzeka kuthandizira.
Zizindikiro za chidwi cha anthu
Amuna amawasamala kwambiri ndi zizindikiro zomwe akazi amasonyeza. Tiyeni tiwone momwe mwamuna amapereka zizindikiro za chidwi. Choyamba, iye amayesera kusonyeza ndi mphamvu zake zonse kuti wolumikizana akugwira ntchito ndi mwamuna weniweni wamwamuna! Zizindikiro zosalankhula za anthu zikuphatikizapo mawonetseredwe otsatirawa:
- interlocutor amayang'ana mwachindunji, kuyesa "kusokoneza" interlocutor;
- amatsanzira interlocutor, kubwereza manja ake ndi nkhope yake (zotsatira za "galasilo");
- amayesa kukhudza interlocutor;
- Amawongolera moyenera zovala zake, amawongolera mawonekedwe ake.
Zizindikiro zowonetsera zikhoza kudziwonetsera zokhazokha kuti munthu amalankhula zambiri, nthawi zonse amam'tamanda, nthawi zambiri amabwereza dzina la interlocutor, amasangalala ndi kupambana ndi kupindula, kutamanda ndi kutchuka, amalankhula ndi zokambirana za amayi.
Nchifukwa chiyani amuna amasiya kusonyeza zizindikiro za chidwi?
Kotero, mwamunayo wapambana kukuthandizani, ndipo kwa kanthawi tsopano mukuwoneka ngati awiri. Kulankhulana kwanu ndi kosangalatsa komanso kosangalatsa, koma ... mwamuna wanu wasiya kupereka zizindikiro za chidwi. Izi ndi zophweka. Mwa chikhalidwe chawo, anthu onse akugonjetsa, kotero kuti chidwi cha anyamata ndichabe nthawi ya chibwenzi. Munthu akamakwaniritsa zomwe akufuna, amatsitsimutsa kwambiri. Mwa ichi palibe cholakwika, ichi ndi chozizwitsa chachilengedwe.
Ngati mukufuna kupitiriza kulandira zizindikiro zochokera kwa anthu, mukufuna kuti apereke maluwa, mayamiko, ndipo anangopereka chidwi chanu ndipo amasonyeza chidwi, ndi bwino kutsatira malamulo angapo olankhulana.
- Mutamandeni chifukwa cha chizindikiro chilichonse cha chidwi. Kodi adakupatsani maluwa? Sonyezani kuyamikira ndi kuyamikira kuchokera pansi pa mtima, muwonetseni kuti iye ndi wabwino kwambiri, ndipo musatchule chifukwa chake iye anawonongeka kapena chinachake chonga icho.
- Musanene. Amuna samvetsa mfundo, iwo
chitsogozo chapadera chochitapo kanthu chikufunika. Musanene kuti "Sindikukwanira", funsani chinthu china, mwachitsanzo, "tiyeni tipite ku cinema / malo odyera / kuyenda", "Ndipatseni ine tulips, chifukwa kasupe kali pamsewu", ndi zina zotero. ndi zina zotero. - Match! Kodi mukufuna zovomerezeka - kukwaniritsa izi, yang'anani kuti mukhale ndi chinachake choti muyamikire. Musati muwonekere pamaso pa mwamuna wanu mosasamala, osasamba kapena kusokonezeka. Ndikhulupirire, ngakhale kuti sakudziwa tsitsi lanu latsopano, ndithudi adzawona kusintha kwanu ndikuwonekera m'maso mwake.
Pambuyo powerenga zizindikiro za chidwi, ndikutsatira malamulo ena, mudzapindula mosavuta kuti mwamuna wanu apereke zizindikiro zakusamalidwa ndi zoyamikira kwa inu nthawi zonse!