Maloto ndi okoma ndi osasangalatsa, odabwitsa ndi owopsa. Nthawi zina mumadzuka ndikuyembekezera chinachake chokoma, ndipo nthawi zina mumadwala kwambiri. Palinso maloto odabwitsa kuti mukufuna kugwira buku la loto ndikuwona zomwe masomphenyawa akutanthauza.
Lota pa chikondi
Zina mwa maloto okhudzana ndi chikondi angakhalepo ndikugona pa dziwe . Inde, ndikudabwa kuti zimakhala bwanji kusambira padziwe, makamaka ngati ndilo lotola munthu yemwe sasangalala kusambira nkomwe.
Poyang'ana mabuku onse otota maloto, masomphenya amenewa amakhala okhudzana ndi kugonana komanso zosangalatsa. Izi, kawirikawiri, ndizowona bwino, nthawizonse zimalosera chinachake chabwino.
Mwachitsanzo, kugona m'chipinda chosambira ndi madzi oyera kumaonedwa kuti ndi bwino kwambiri. Amasonyeza kuti akudziwana ndi mwamuna yemwe ali ngati wolota, ndipo amakhala ndi ubale wapamtima.
Malingana ndi Freud, kwa mtsikana, kugona mu dziwe losambira kumatanthauza kutenga mimba, monga momwe amatanthauzira maloto m'nyanja, dziwe ndi madzi ena. Malingana ndi Mlengi wa chiphunzitso cha chisamaliro, amatanthauza mimba. Kugwera mu dziwe kumatanthauza kutenga modzidzimutsa.
Malinga ndi mabuku ena a maloto, kusambira mu dziwe, ngati kuwonetsedwa mu loto, sikukutanthauza chikondi chonse, koma chokhumba komanso chopanda nzeru. Wolota amalowerera mmenemo, monga ngati chimphepo champhepo, koma mapeto adzakhala osowa. Chikondi choterocho chidzatha panthawi yopuma.
Kutanthauzira kwina
Palinso kumasulira kosagwirizana ndi chikondi ndi chikondi. Mwachitsanzo, ena otanthauzira amakhulupirira kuti kukasambira kungatanthauze bizinesi, panthawi yoyamba ikuwoneka yopindulitsa komanso yosangalatsa. Komabe, zingakhalenso zachinyengo, choncho tiyenera kulingalira mosamala za ubwino ndi zowononga. Ndipo ngati wolota amasambira padziwe popanda chisangalalo,
Choncho, ngati munthu ali ndi chidwi ndi zomwe akulota kusambira padziwe loyera, ndiye kuti mayankho nthawi zonse ndi abwino, ndipo maulosiwo ndi abwino. Ndi nkhani ina ngati madzi anali odetsedwa. Ndiye wolotayo adzakhala ndi mavuto ndi kukwaniritsidwa kwa malingaliro ake.
Mofananamo, malotowo amatanthauziridwa, momwemo mudasambira mu dziwe ndi munthu m'maloto. Ngati madzi anali oyera, owonetsetsa, ndiye kuti ubale wabwino kapena nkhani zabwino. Koma ngati madziwo ndi onyansa, ndiye kuti zosiyana ndizoona: ubale udzakhala wopanda chimwemwe, ndipo nkumva chisoni. Koma musataye mtima, chifukwa sikuti nthaŵi zonse kugona kumatanthauza chinachake choipa.