Ndibwino kuti mudziwe kuti wokondedwa ali ndi malingaliro enieni pa inu! Ndipo nkoyenera kukumbukira momwe akubweretsera chimwemwe chochuluka pa masiku awo oyambirira. Zoona, anthu onse amalankhula zinenero zosiyana za chikondi ndipo chifukwa cha ichi ambiri sangaone mwamuna wawo weniweni.
Kodi mungamvetse bwanji ngati mumamva chisoni?
Mkazi aliyense amafuna kuti azikondedwa. M'munsimu muli malangizo othandizira kumvetsetsa mmene munthu amamvera mumtima mwake.
- Amuna ndi anthu ochitapo kanthu, zochita, komanso osasintha. Kotero, zokhudzana ndi chikhulupiliro cha amuna ndizo zokhudzana ndi chikondi, zizindikiro zozizwitsa, zomwe zimati: "Ndikufuna kukusamalirani." Chitsanzo chabwino kwambiri cha izi ndi khalidwe lake nthawi ya wokondedwa wake. Kodi angamuchitire chifundo, mumvetsetse ngati poyamba? Kodi, ngati ndi chiyani, kugonjetsa mtunda ndi kumubweretsa mtsuko wa uchi wonunkhira, zipatso zowonjezera, ndi zina zotero?
- Umboni wopanda pake wa mawonetseredwe a maganizo odzipereka kwambiri ndi malingaliro a mnzanu pa kupsompsona. Sizingakhale zopanda kufufuza, ndi ndani yemwe ali woyambitsa wake? Kawirikawiri kodi mnzako amatha kupsompsonana kwa nthawi yayitali?
- Maganizo ndi galasi la moyo. Kawirikawiri, mwamuna wachikondi ali ndi ana omwe amatsuka pamene akuyang'ana chinthu chomwe amamupembedza. N'zoona kuti musachedwe kuyang'ana m'maso mwake. Sizingakhale zodabwitsa kugwiritsa ntchito intuition. Kodi pamakhala maso ake? Kapena mwinamwake ali wokonzeka "kudya" kwa maola ambiri zomwe zinakhazikika mu mtima mwake?
- Amuna, mosiyana ndi akazi, sazindikiridwa mosavuta mumtima mwawo, choncho, ngati mnyamata amachita zinthu mopanda nzeru (mmalo mwa munthu wolimba mtima akuwoneka mnyamata wamantha, ndi zina zotero), musasangalale nazo. Sikuti aliyense amadziwa mmene angalankhulire, ndipo izi ziyenera kukumbukiridwa.