Kusamvana pakati pa abambo ndi ana

Mikangano ndi mbali yofunikira ya moyo wa munthu aliyense. Vuto la kuthetsa mavuto mopanda ululu si latsopano, pali sayansi yapadera yomwe ikukumana ndi mavuto a kuthetsa mikangano - conflictology. Ndipo vuto la mikangano pakati pa abambo ndi ana likuwoneka ngati lokalamba monga dziko. Zaka masauzande zapitazo mbadwo wokalamba unadandaula chifukwa chosasamala, kusowa maphunziro, kusowa chilango, kudandaula ndi ubwino wachinyamata. Motero, kulembedwa kwa chombo cha dothi lakale ku Babulo cha m'ma 3000 BC kumati: "Achinyamata amaipitsidwa mpaka kumtima. Achinyamata ndi owopsa komanso osasamala. Mbadwo watsopano wa lero sungathe kusunga chikhalidwe chathu. " Zolemba zofananazo zimapezeka pamanda a mmodzi wa mafarao a Aigupto. Akuti achinyamata osamvera ndi olakwitsa sangathe kupitiriza ntchito zazikuru za makolo awo, kupanga zipilala zazikulu za chikhalidwe ndi zamatsenga ndipo mosakayikitsa amakhala mbadwo wotsiriza wa anthu padziko lapansi.

Kuchokera nthawi imeneyo, pang'ono zasintha. Kuyambira kutalika kwa zomwe akumana nazo, akuluakulu amayang'ana "antics antics", akuiwala nthawi yomwe iwowo anali ana ndi achinyamata, pamene adayesa kukhala ndi kudziona okha okhoza kusintha mapiri. Ndipo kwa m'badwo uliwonse iwo amawoneka kuti "iwo anali osiyana, iwo sanadzilole okha chinthu choterocho" ndipo ngati mbadwo wachinyamatayo ukupitiriza kuchita mofanana ndi chonyansa chomwecho, dziko lidzasunthira kuphompho ndi kuwonongeka. Ndipo achinyamata adakhumudwa kwambiri, amaganiza kuti makolo awo ndi "ogwedeza" ndipo amaganiza (koma, mwachimwemwe, kawirikawiri amati): "Kodi mungakhale ndi ufulu wondiphunzitsa bwanji?" Ndipo mikangano ya banja imabwerezedwa mobwerezabwereza, ndi mibadwo yatsopano ya anthu. Koma nthawi zambiri makolofe timaganiza kuti tikhoza kuthetsa mavuto omwe tikukumana nawo ndikumenyana ndi ana athu molondola? Ndipotu, kuthetsa mikangano ya m'banja payekha ndizosakayikira - munthu amene amazoloŵera kugonjera mphamvu za makolowo amaopa kutsutsana ndikudziumirira okha, ndipo kuwonongedwa ndi chilolezo kumakula monga momwe anthu ena amachitira chidwi ndi zosowa za ena. Panthawiyi, njira zothetsera kusamvana ndi ana sizisiyana kwambiri ndi mfundo zothetsera mavuto. Ndi nthawi yoti mudziwe momwe mungathetsere mikangano molondola.

Mikangano yosatha ya mibadwo: abambo ndi ana

Palibe banja lingathe kuchita popanda mikangano pakati pa ana ndi makolo. Ndipo palibe chinthu chowopsya, chifukwa "mikangano yabwino" imathandizira kuthetsa mikangano pakati pa ophunzira ake, zimathetsa kupeza njira yothetsera mavuto popanda kuphwanya zofuna za mmodzi wa mamembala a banja, ndipo pamapeto pake zimangowonjezera mgwirizano. Koma zonsezi ndi zoona pokhapokha potsutsana ndi mikangano yosamvetsetseka. Kawirikawiri, mikangano ndi mikangano zimayambitsa zifukwa zobisika, zovuta zamaganizo, ndipo ngakhale zingayambitse kupatukana m'banja.

Kodi mungathetse bwanji kuthetsa mikangano pakati pa ana ndi makolo?

Kuti mgwirizano ukhale wopanda vuto, tsatirani malangizo awa:

1. Musayang'ane wolakwa pakati pa ena. Chiyeso choimba mlandu munthu wina ndi chovuta kwambiri kukana, koma yesetsani kudziletsa nokha ndikuyang'anirani maso ndi maso a wina.
2. Musati "muphwanye" mwanayo ndi udindo wanu. Mfundo yakuti ndinu wamkulu sikutanthauza kuti aliyense ayenera kupereka zofuna zawo kuti akusangalatse inu. Ana ndi ofanana ndi akulu, ndipo amafunikanso kulemekezedwa.
3. Khalani ndi chidwi pa moyo ndi malingaliro a mwanayo, muziyamikira kudalira kwake. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri m'banja ndi chiyanjano, chiyanjano ndi chikhulupiliro. Pankhaniyi, ngakhale mwanayo walakwitsa, akhoza kubwera ndikugawana mavuto ake ndi makolo ake, osati kuwabisa chifukwa cha mantha kapena manyazi. Ndipo pokhapokha, makolo amapeza mwayi wothandizira mwanayo pakapita nthawi, ndipo nthawi zina amamupulumutsa. Inde, ndikofunikira kumangika chikhulupiliro maubwenzi pasadakhale, osati pamene mkangano wotsutsana wayamba kale ndipo mwana aliyense amatenga mawu anu "ndi bayonets".
4. Musati mudandaule ("Ngati simukuchita monga ndimanenera, simungapeze ndalama."
5. Yesetsani kukhala ndi mtima wodekha kapena kupeweratu kusamvana kwa mkangano pa nthawi yomwe inu ndi mwanayo mudzakhala bata, "kuzizira".
6. Yesetsani kupeza njira yothetsera vuto. Momwe munthu amakwaniritsira zofuna zake ndi zosowa zake podziwa kuti wina ndi wolakwika. Kuti musankhe njira yoyenera yothetsera mkangano, funsani mwanayo njira yomwe akuwonera. Mutatha kulemba zonse zomwe mungasankhe, sankhani chimodzi kapena mupatseni mwana wanu yankho la yankho mavuto.

Mikangano ya makolo ndi ana akuluakulu ingakhale yaikulu kwambiri kuposa ana aang'ono kapena achinyamata. Ndipotu, pakadali pano, ana ali kale ndi umunthu weniweni ndi zikhulupiriro zawo. Koma ngakhale panopa, njira zonsezi zilibe zolondola komanso zothandiza.

Ndipo chofunikira kwambiri - kumbukirani kuti mbadwo wachinyamata si wabwino kapena woipitsitsa - ndi wosiyana. Ndipo ngati sichifukwa cha kusiyana kumeneku, ngati panalibe mikangano ndi mikangano pakati pa ana ndi makolo, sipadzakhalanso kupita patsogolo ndipo anthu adzasaka nyama zakutchire zomwe zimakhala kuphanga.