Mukhoza kusinthasintha moyo wanu ndikupeza zovuta zatsopano m'njira zosiyanasiyana - wina akudumpha ndi parachute, wina akuyesa nyama zakutchire, ndipo ambiri amayesa kugonana kosayenera. Ubale wapamtima ukhoza kusinthidwa mosalekeza - yesetsani kusintha kwatsopano, kusintha mkhalidwe kapena kusintha mnzanuyo.
Zachilendo ndi ubale wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. N'zoona kuti, malingaliro a anthu omwe ali ndi chikhalidwe chogonana ndiwowoneka bwino, koma pali anthu omwe amatha kukhala okhutira ndi kugonana ndi amuna okhaokha kapena akazi okhaokha. Koma pali iwo (molingana ndi chiwerengero, makamaka atsikana), omwe amayesetsa kukonda kugonana kwa amuna okhaokha pokhapokha pa zokhudzidwa zatsopano.
Pogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, pali mitundu yodabwitsa ya kugonana - pakamwa , m'kamwa , kugonana popanda kugonana, ndi zina zotero. Aliyense amapeza chisangalalo cha zosangalatsa zosiyanasiyana, zimadalira anthu omwe amagwirizana nawo komanso malingaliro awo. Banja lirilonse lingayesere mitundu yambiri ya zosangalatsa zakuthupi ndikuyerekezera malingaliro ndi zosiyana. Ngati banjali liri loyenerera kugonana m'kamwa, ndiye m'dera lino muyenera kudza ndi zithunzi zosiyana, kuwonetsa, kusintha chilengedwe ndi zina zotero.
Kodi mungagwiritse ntchito bwanji zachiwerewere zachilendo?
Kawirikawiri munthu amatha kunena kuti ena mwa anzake akukoka ndi mphamvu yosatsutsika, ngakhale kuti amakonda mkazi wosiyana kwambiri. Izi zimachitika chifukwa zovuta zogonana naye sizingatheke. Zolakwitsa zambiri zimabwera ndi malingaliro odabwitsa pa nkhani yogonana, kuti musalole kuti munthu wofuna azipita. Mwachitsanzo, amaoneka ngati chithunzi cha mfumuyo ndikupanga mpweya wabwino, ndiko kuti, nsaru yotchinga mawindo okhala ndi nsalu zolemera, kuyika makandulo, kudzaza chipinda ndi zonunkhira, ndikuphimba bedi ndi silika, ndi zina zotero. Mwamunayo amayamba chifukwa cha chilengedwe cha wogonjetsa chinthu china chachikulu ndi chobwezeretsa, mipando yamtengo wapatali imabweretsanso kuzindikira.
Zina, zimapanga mpweya wozembera minofu, zimapanga zowonongeka za njira zamisala zaku Thai ndikunyengerera munthu panthawi yabwino.
Masewera olimbitsa thupi nthawi zonse amasonyeza zachilendo ndi zachilendo mu ubale wachikondi. Zochita zawo ndizopanda malire - zonse zimadalira malingaliro anu. Inde, ndibwino kuti abambo azisewera masewera kumene ali khalidwe lalikulu - mbuye ndi kapolo (kapena governess), sultan ndi mdzakazi, ndi zina zotero.
Koma palinso masewera ofanana a moyo wamba, omwe maanja ambiri "amayamba". Mwachitsanzo, munthu amasanduka plumber, wapolisi, wozimitsa moto, ndi zina zotero, ndipo mkazi amachititsa udindo wa aphunzitsi, namwino, ndi zina zotero. Zikatero, zilakolako zachinsinsi zomwe poyamba zinkachitika mozama pansi pazimenezo zimatulutsidwa.
Kusintha miyezo yovuta kumapangitsanso zosangalatsa zosangalatsa kukhala ntchito yosazolowereka. Mwachitsanzo, kuti mukhale ndi maimidwe ochokera ku Kamasutra, mudzafunika kutambasula bwino, ndipo kawirikawiri pamlungu wa maphunziro.
Kodi ndi zachilendo bwanji kugonana?
Kusintha kwa nyengo ndi imodzi mwa nthawi zofunikira zogonana zosiyanasiyana. Ngati muyesa kupanga chikondi m'madzi, osati m'mabedi ozolowereka, ndiye kuti mukudziwitsanso kuti mukugonana. Kuti muchite izi, mukhoza kupuma panthaka kapena nyanja. Nthawi zosangalatsa kwambiri pa kugonana komwe mungathe
M'bwalo lake, mungapeze malo ena osadziwika kuti agone - kugwedeza kwakukulu. Kumalo komwe kuli madzulo pa bedi-kusambira, mungapeze chosaiwalika. Madzulo madzulo mukhoza kuwonjezera zolemba za chikondi - makandulo, vinyo, maluwa.
Mawiri oposa amatha kupanga chikondi pamwamba pa phiri kapena pansi pa madzi, koma izi zimafuna kukonzekera thupi ndi zaka zovuta.