Pamene tiyambitsa anzathu atsopano, ndikofunikira kuti tiwone bwino. Mukawerenga nkhaniyi, mudzaphunzira momwe mungapezere anthu.
Kuti mupeze munthu amene mukufuna kuti mutsegule. Nthawi zonse yesetsani kuyamba kukambirana. Ndipotu, aliyense amadziwa kuti mukamudziwa, zimakhala zovuta kukambirana, koma ngati mutayamba, simudzazindikira? Yamikani munthu chifukwa cha makhalidwe ena omwe mumawakonda. Chitani moona mtima, ndipo interlocutor adzakukumbukirani! Musaiwale kusekerera, chifukwa asayansi asonyeza kuti munthu wokondwa kuchokera kumbali akuwoneka bwino komanso wokongola. Manyala ndi njira yabwino yothetsera zinthu. Ndiponso, yesani kukumbukira mayina. Kwa munthu palibe phokoso losangalatsa kuposa liwu la dzina lako. Adzayamikira ngati mukulankhula naye dzina. Phunzirani kumvetsera. Nthawi zina anthu amafunika kulankhula, popanda kutsutsidwa komanso malangizo. Samalirani ndi chidwi ndi chidwi pa interlocutor.
Kodi mungakonzekere bwanji munthu?
Kwa ichi muyenera kudziwa zinsinsi pang'ono. Musakhale pansi motsutsana. Chifukwa zimawoneka ngati kukangana. Khalani mbali iliyonse kapena pafupi ndi mphepete mwa tebulo. Tenga mawonekedwe otseguka, ombuyo. Pambuyo pake, zinthu zina zomwe mungakhale nazo pamabondo anu, podziwa za anthu zimayambitsa mayanjano ndi cholepheretsa. Gwiritsani ntchito phwando "kuyang'ana pagalasi" pa interlocutor. Unobtrusively kusindikiza kayendedwe kake ndikukhulupirira ine, posachedwa adzamva mwa inu mtundu wachibale.
Kodi mungayendetse bwanji malonda?
Muli ndi ntchito yatsopano, mutakhala ndi nthawi yokhala ndi anzanu ndi timu ndipo mkulu adakhalabe pamzere.
- Onetsani kudziletsa. Yesetsani kukhala ndi maganizo, kuzizira pansi, kufufuza zonse, ndiyeno musankhe kuyankha kutsutsidwa kapena ayi. Mabwana adzayamikira zokambirana zanu.
- Musamayerekezere kuti ndinu wanzeru kuposa wina aliyense. Ngati simukukonda abwana a polojekitiyi, yankhani bwino ndikutsutsana chifukwa chake zili bwino.
- Perekani nthawi yanu. Ngati chinachake chiyenera kuchitika kanthawi kochepa, musaope kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu. Ngati mubwereza kubwereza, bwanayo adziwa kuti mukhoza kudalira.
Mutatha kuwerenga izi, mwinamwake mumamvetsetsa momwe mungakonzekerere bwana. Koma kukambirana komwe kumamangidwa molondola kungathandize osati okhawo amene ali ndi maudindo akuluakulu, komanso anthu wamba m'madera osiyanasiyana. Chinthu chachikulu mu izi si zomwe mumanena, koma momwe mumachitira.
Kodi mumakonza bwanji interlocutor yanu ngati simukudziwa kanthu za iye?
- Khalani oyenera nthawizonse, ndi zovuta kuti musazindikire anthu oterowo;
- onjezani mawu ofunda mu liwu lanu, chifukwa munthu m'masiku athu alibe chisamaliro chokwanira ndi kutentha;
- samalani ndi zizindikiro zosalankhula zomwe munthu akufuna kukufotokozerani ndi momwe amachitira pamene akuchita, kaya akudutsa;
- mvetserani mwatcheru ndi kusonyeza mwachidule, musagwiritse ntchito ziganizo zozengereza komanso zotalika, zimangosokoneza
kumvetsetsana.
Kukwanitsa kukhala ndi anthu ndikofunikira kwambiri masiku ano, chifukwa chirichonse chimamangidwa pa ubale pakati pa anthu. Kulankhulana kumatipanga ife umunthu ndi kutsegula mwayi watsopano kwa ife. Momwe timalankhulira ndi ena, zimadalira lingaliro la ife. Onetsani chidwi ndi anthu ena, khalani otseguka ndipo muli ndi inu ambiri omwe angasunge ubale. Chabwino, chomaliza, koma osati lamulo lofunika kwambiri loyankhulana ndi anthu. Perekani munthuyo mwayi wakuwona kuti ndi wofunikira kwa inu. Nthawi zonse muziyang'ana zofanana ndikukhala owona mtima nthawi zonse.