Kulankhulana kwa tsiku ndi tsiku ndi mbali yofunikira pa miyoyo yathu. Luso lothandizira kukambirana ndi luso lofunikira kwa munthu aliyense. Anthu ena ndi owala komanso okondwa kwambiri moti amakhala ndi kukopa anthu ozungulira iwo ngati maginito. Komabe, sikuti tonsefe timadziwa momwe tingakhalire okondweretsa kukambirana. Koma ngati muli okondana polankhulana, mukhoza kukhala ndi chiyembekezo chabwino m'moyo mwanu, osati pazomwe mumadziwana ndi anzanu, komanso kukula kwa ntchito.
Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale munthu wokondweretsa komanso wogwirizana?
Kuti mumvetsetse momwe mungakhalire wabwino komanso wokondweretsa interlocutor, m'pofunikanso kulingalira mfundo zina pa nkhaniyi.
- Choyamba, phunzirani kumvetsera ndi kumva munthu amene mukumuyankhula naye. Anthu ambiri amakonda kukambirana za miyoyo yawo, zofuna zawo, malingaliro awo ndi zochitika zawo, koma kupeza munthu yemwe angathe kumvetsera si kophweka. Komanso, musasokoneze.
- Kumvetsera mosamalitsa wothandizana naye, mungaphunzire zambiri zokhudza iye komanso motero funsani mafunso pa mutuwo. Akaona kuti ali ndi chidwi chenicheni, ndiye kuti munthu wotereyo amakhala wokondweretsa komanso ovuta kulankhulana.
- Nthawi zina mumayenera kumvetsetsa zomwe wothandizira akufuna kuti amve kuchokera kwa inu. Mwinamwake amafunikira mawu achifundo kapena kuthandizira, kapena mwinamwake amafunikira zolimbikitsa m'madera ena.
- Mukazindikira kuti munthu amadziwa kuchita bwino kapena kumvetsa kanthu, onetsetsani kuti mukutsindika ulemu ndi chitamando ichi. Munthu aliyense amakonda kutamandidwa ndi kunena mawu okondweretsa. Komabe, nkofunikira kuchita izi moona mtima, chifukwa zonyenga zimangobwereza.
- Kuti zokambiranazo zikhale zothandiza komanso zothandiza, nkofunikanso kuti mutha kukonda chidwi chanu ndi zina zatsopano ndi zamaganizo. Choncho, kuti timvetsetse momwe tingakhalire ndi interlocutor yokondweretsa ndi yosangalatsa, munthu ayenera kuyesetsa nthawi zonse kuti adzipange yekha. Pezani nthawi yanu yokhazikika m'madera osiyanasiyana.
- Ndikofunika kwambiri kusintha diction lanu ndi luso lina loyankhulana. Zimakhala zosangalatsa kwambiri kulankhula ndi anthu omwe amalankhula momveka bwino komanso samayankhula mawu. Nthawi zonse muzichita zochitika zoyenera kunyumba. Lankhulani kutsogolo pagalasi, lembani mawu anu pa zojambulazo, werengani mokweza. Kuchokera kumbali nthawi zonse kumveka bwino kuti ndibwino kusintha.
- Yesetsani kuti mawu anu akhale oyera, kuchotsani mawu-zizindikiro.
- Onetsetsani kuti mugwiritse ntchito kumwetulira muzokambirana. Inde, ngati kuli koyenera. Kumwetulira ndi chimodzi mwa zida zazikulu pamalo a anthu. Zimakuthandizani kuti mukhale otetezeka komanso mutumiki wanu, ndipo motero, kulankhulana kumakhala kophweka komanso kumachepetsa.
- Yesetsani kumutsutsa munthu ngati adachita chinachake cholakwika, makamaka pamaso pa anthu ena. Komanso mudandaule pang'ono ndipo musalankhule za nkhani zolakwika. Ndipotu, munthu wokondwa komanso wokondwa amakhala wokondweretsa nthawi zonse.
Kodi mungawerenge chiyani kuti mukhale interlocutor yosangalatsa?
Mabuku owerengera ndi othandiza kwambiri pakudzikuza. Chifukwa chake, zolankhula zathu zimakhala zopindulitsa, ndipo kuyankhulana kumakhala kokondweretsa kwambiri. Yesetsani kuwerenga ma encyclopedia ndikumakumbukira mfundo zochititsa chidwi ndi zochititsa chidwi. Pokambirana, izi zingakhale zothandiza kwambiri, ndipo mukhoza kukhala ndi zokambirana pa mutu uliwonse.
Kumvetsetsa bwino zowzungulira kudzawathandiza kuwerenga mabuku pa psychology. Buku lakuti "Kodi Mungapambane Bwanji ndi Anzanu ndi Kukopa Anthu?" Dale Carnegie akukuphunzitsani kuti mugwiritse ntchito mosavuta ndi kugwiritsa ntchito mfundo za psychology mukulankhulana tsiku ndi tsiku ndi anthu osiyanasiyana.