Kugonana kunali nthawizonse. Ngakhale ku Soviet Union, pamene zonsezi zinali zobisika mosamalitsa ndipo anthu anali amanyazi a zilakolako zawo. Nthaŵi zina zafika: TV ndi mafilimu samabisa mbiri yapamwamba ya miyoyo ya anthu. Aliyense amadziwa za kugonana ndipo palibe wochita manyazi ndi ntchitoyi. M'malo mwake, pulogalamu zambiri za TV zinkawoneka, zofalitsa, zomwe zimakhudza nkhani za "luso la chikondi". Kugonana kuli kosiyana, ndipo nkomwe. Za izi ndikuyankhula lero.
Kodi ndi liti?
Kodi ndi chiyanjano chotani pakati pa ubale ndi kugonana? Nthawi zambiri, zochitika zoterezi zimachitika kumene kuli anthu ambiri omwe amaimira anyamata kapena akazi, "zotentha" zakumwa, zosangalatsa komanso zoyendetsa galimoto:
- chipinda cha usiku. Mlengalenga osasamala, omasuka komanso okondana, wokondana - zonsezi sizowonjezereka chifukwa cha chikondi cha usiku. Kawirikawiri, chidziwitso chikuchitika kumbuyo kwa kapepala ka bar, komwe mtsikana "wokongola" amadziwa munthu "wopatsa". Ngati onse awiri atayesetsa kugonana ndi munthu wamba, ndiye kuti ndi choncho. Tiyeni tiyesetse kunena, pali ena omwe samakonda kusokoneza chilakolako chawo chogonana ndi kugonana mu kampu, kupeza malo abwino malowa;
- mabafa ndi saunas. Zosankha kuti mupitirize kukhala pachibwenzi usiku. Zolumba zamasiku ano zimapereka zipinda zamakono, kumene mungatenge mtima wanu ndikusangalala ndi ubwenzi wanu ndi mnzanuyo. Zikuwoneka ngati izi: munapatsidwa kuti mupite kusambira mu dziwe, mwafika pamalo omwe "mwangozi" mukugonana;
- hotelo. Kubwera ndi kutenga chipinda sikuli vuto masiku ano. Padzakhala ndalama, monga akunenera. Kugonana kosasangalatsa - ndikwanira kwa maola angapo. Chinthu chachikulu sikuteteza pa ukhondo, chitonthozo ndi mbiri ya maofesi a hotelo.
Ndi ndani ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani?
Kugonana kwadzidzidzi, monga lamulo, zimachitika kwa mlendo. Ubale wosagwirizana ndi "usiku" - iyi ndi nkhani yachinsinsi kwa aliyense. Komabe, ngati muli okwatirana kapena muli pachibwenzi, ndiye kuti chibwenzi chanu chimaonedwa ngati chonyengerera. Kugonana mwangozi mwaledzera, pakadali pano, kungangokhala "kuchepetsa" mkhalidwe. Udindo wa khalidwe lanu lotayirira kuchokera kwa inu palibe amene amachotsa.
Nchifukwa chiyani munthu amapita ku zovuta zonse? Zifukwa zikhoza kukhala zosiyana kwambiri:
- chilakolako cha kugonana. Kwa wina, kugonana ndilo chofunikira choyamba. "Chilakolako" chopweteka chimakulepheretsani kuganiza za chinthu china;
- kukopa kwa munthu winawake. Kutengeka mwadzidzidzi ndi kukhudzika kwa munthu kungayambitse kugonana. Kodi mungatani mutatha mwambo umenewu, makamaka ngati kugonana kunalibe chitetezo? Choyamba, fufuzani za matenda opatsirana pogonana komanso mwinamwake mimba. Chachiwiri, musamadzimvere kuti ndi wolakwa, chifukwa palibe chimene chingakonze. Landirani zochitikazo ndikuyesa kupeza nthawi zabwino (makamaka pogonana);
- kupsinjika maganizo. Chotsani maganizo a maganizo, kutopa ndi nkhawa. Kukhala wokhumudwa, nthawi zambiri mumagonana ndi mnzanu kapena chibwenzi. Anzake adakumana, adagawana chisoni ndi mavuto awo, kumwa mowa, ndikugona;
- kubwezera. Kubwezera wokondedwa wanu motere - lingaliro ndilokhazikika. Kodi logic ndi kuti? Ngati mumakonda,
Kodi mudzamupwetekadi munthu uyu? Pano, yesetsani kuti mutonthoze nokha. - chidwi ndi chidwi. Ichi ndicho chifukwa chofala kwambiri cha kugonana kwa magulu osiyana. Mu chibonga chomwechi, atsikana awiri akhoza kupita ku "usiku wotembenuka" ndi amodzi kapena ambiri. Mowa pazochitika zoterezi amapanga "zozizwitsa". Kwenikweni, atsikanawo amayamba kukondana wina ndi mzake ndipo sakudziwa momwe mnyamata wina adzasangalale ndi zomwe adawona.
Kumbukirani kuti zonse ziri bwino moyenera ndipo zonse ziyenera kuyandikira moyenera. Fufuzani chisangalalo pamene palibe choopsa kwa thanzi lanu ndi moyo wanu.