Njira zopanda kukambirana

Thupi lathu lingathe kudziwa zambiri zokhudza zinthu, chifukwa zimaperekanso zizindikiro, komanso ndi chithandizo cha mau olankhulidwa (mawu). Malingana ndi kafukufuku, chilankhulo cha thupi lathu chimanyamula pafupifupi 70% za zonse zomwe zimafalitsidwa kwa interlocutor. Njira zosalankhulirana zitha kuthandizira, kapena ngakhale zosiyana, zimatilepheretsa kuyankhulana, ngakhale kuti timalankhula mwatsatanetsatane. Pambuyo pake, anthu osagwirizana nawo angasonyeze kuti interlocutor ali ndi chikhalidwe chathu, maganizo ake

Njira zosankhulirana zoyankhulirana zimapeza maonekedwe awo pamaso, maonekedwe a munthu, maonekedwe ake. Ngati mutha kuzindikira komanso kumvetsa khalidwe losadziwika la interlocutor yanu, mukhoza kunena kuti mutha kumvetsetsa bwino kwambiri pochita zinthu ndi anthu. Ndipotu, mfundo zina zowonjezera zimanena za ziyembekezo, zolinga, makhalidwe abwino ndi umunthu, maganizo a anthu mu mgonero.

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Mitundu ya osalankhulana

1. Makhalidwe abwino. Pa nthawi ya kulankhulana, munthu aliyense amagwiritsa ntchito mitundu yosiyanasiyana, yogwiritsira ntchito othandizira ena. Kukhudza kulikonse kuli ndi khalidwe losiyana ndipo limasiyana ndi ena, ndilofunika komanso luso. Kulankhulana kotereku kumagawidwa mwazinthu: mwambo, katswiri, wachikondi ndi wokoma mtima. Mtundu uliwonse wa kugwira kwagwiritsiridwa ntchito ndi munthu kuti apititse patsogolo kuyankhulana kapena kufooketsa. Ndikofunikira kuganizira, kusanthula manja a mitundu iyi, kuti mu chikhalidwe chilichonse mawu osalankhula amakhala ofunika kwambiri. Kulankhulana kotereku kumaphatikizapo: kumpsompsona, kumangirira pamapewa kapena kumbuyo, kugwirana chanza.
2. Kinesika. Zomwe zimachitika mwa kulankhulana mosagwiritsidwa ntchito ndizoti dera la manja, kayendetsedwe ka thupi ndi nkhope ya nkhope ndi njira yolankhulirana. Zinthu zazikuluzikulu za mtundu uwu: mawonedwe, mawonekedwe a nkhope, manja, kukhala ndi chikhalidwe cha chikhalidwe, chikhalidwe cha thupi. Ndikoyenera kuzindikira kuti ndikofunikira kuyang'anira kinesic yanu, mwachitsanzo, kwa amalonda. Kotero kulankhulana kosalankhulidwa, komwe nkhope ya nkhope ikuyenera kukhala yodalirika, ingakhudzidwe kwambiri ngati wanu kasitomala angavomereze malingaliro anu kapena ayi. Zamankhwala zimaphatikizapo: nthawi ya kuyang'ana, malangizo ake, kulankhulana kwafupipafupi.
3. Sensorics. Chibale cha munthu aliyense kwa interlocutor chimachokera ku zowawa, zofalitsidwa ndi mphamvu: kumva kwa kukoma, thupi la wokondedwa, kutentha kwake, kununkhira, mtundu, kuphatikiza. Ichi ndicho maziko a mawu osalankhulirana oyankhulana ndi interlocutor.
4. Kulankhulana kwapakati. Chiyero, mawu a mawu ndi mawu omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi interlocutor kapena kufotokozera mawuwo, amakhudza kumanga kusankhulana mawu.

Psychologiya ya kulankhulana mosalankhula imathandiza kwambiri popanga mgwirizano wolumikizana ndi munthu wamakono. Chilankhulo cha thupi ndi chovuta kwambiri kulamulira. Katswiri wamaganizo wodziwika bwino dzina lake Allan Pease akuonedwa kuti ndi mbuye wa chilankhulo cha thupi. Anapereka zaka zambiri pakuphunzira za mtundu umenewu wa kuyankhulana. Zimadziwika kuti munthu amatha kufotokoza zambiri za mawu ake osalankhula mpaka kufika pakukula. Zomwe sitingathe kuzibisa kusiyana pakati pa zizindikiro za mawu ndi mawu osayankhula ndi makamaka ana.

Kulankhulana kopanda mawu kumapindulitsa kwakukulu pakukula kwa munthu ngati interlocutor yokondweretsa, chifukwa izi ndizofunika kufufuza zochitika zawo, interlocutor yawo.

Mwachitsanzo, kuteteza pakamwa panu ndi dzanja lanu kumasonyeza kuti munthu akunama. Ndili ndi msinkhu, anthu amadziwa mopanda kuzindikira chizindikiritso chimenechi kuti athetse chivundikiro cha pakamwa m'malo mwabwino, ndi zala zochepa. Kukukuta kwa khosi kungasonyeze kusatetezeka kwa munthu.

Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti kufunika kwa kulankhulana kwapadera kumafunikanso kuyesedwa popanda kupatulira chizindikiritso chilichonse, ndibwino kuunika khalidwe la munthu, kudalira, mwa zina, pamlengalenga.