Unali tsiku lodziwika, losiyana ndi moyo wonse wa tsiku ndi tsiku. Kutuluka kwa anthu, phokoso la kukambirana, magalimoto ndi ... pakati pa mkangano uwu anabwera HE. Monga bolt wochokera ku buluu. Ndi kumwetulira, ulemu, khalidwe ... Kagawo kakang'ono kokha kamene kanali kokwanira kumvetsetsa - mtima uli nawo kale. Ndipo pakadali pano sizilibe kanthu kaya ndinu odziwa kapena ayi, ndi wamkulu bwanji komanso yemwe akulankhula naye. Chinthu chimodzi chikuwoneka - mumakonda munthu uyu. Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani? Inde, kuti timvetsetse vutoli ndikupeza njira zothetsera zomwe tikuchita tsopano.
Kodi mungakope bwanji mnyamata amene amakonda?
Kuvuta kwakukulu kwa msungwana aliyense wokondana ndiko kusonkhanitsa malingaliro anu, pamene moyo uli ndi nkhawa. Zoonadi, ndikufuna kuthamangira mwendo wanga wokondedwa mwamsanga ndikuwotcha ndi kuyang'ana kapena kulemba kalata yachikondi. Komabe, monga momwe amasonyezera, izi si njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera. Chinyengo, chimene pafupifupi akazi onse ali nacho, chingakhale chida chenichenicho m'njira yakugonjetsa chinthu chopembedzera.
Makhalidwe omwe amamukonda kwambiri mnyamatayu ndi osiyana. Angathe kukhala mnzanu kuntchito, kuphunzira ndi inu, ndipo nthawi zina simudziwa. Kuchita ndi kofunikira malinga ndi momwe mwalola kuti mtima wanu uyatsegulire munthuyu. Kotero, momwe mungapezere munthu amene mumakonda:
- Choyamba muyenera kudzikonda nokha. Pamene inu nokha simuzindikira zoyenera zawo ndipo musawagogomeze iwo, nkokayikitsa kuti wina woyandikana nawo adzatha kuwazindikira. Anthu ambiri olemekezeka amakhala ndi maonekedwe olakwika, koma nthawi yomweyo amakhala okondedwa. Phunzirani kudzilemekeza nokha ulemu wanu mulimonse;
- kukumana, monga momwe amazidziwira ndi kavalidwe. Maonekedwe anu akhoza kuwopseza anyamata omwe ali ndi vuto ngati muli otukuka ovala komanso osokonezeka, osatchula kununkhiza kuchokera pakamwa komanso kusowa kwa khungu. Sankhani zovala malinga ndi njira zawo. Mutha kukhala munthu wokonda, wotchedwa hooligan kapena mkazi wamalonda. Taganizirani kuti amuna osiyana monga maonekedwe ndi zosiyana;
- Khalani okondana ndi kumwetulira. Anthu otukuka ndi osalankhula, anthu ochepa samakonda. Kwenikweni musakhale achipongwe kwa munthu yemwe mumakonda kubisa maganizo anu enieni. Kumasuka kumwetulira ndi chikhumbo chothandizira kukambirana kulikonse kumakupangitsani mnzanu wokongola ndi wokongola.
Gawo ndi sitepe
Komabe, ntchito yotereyi si yokwanira. Atsikana ambiri amadandaula: "Ndimakonda mnyamata, koma ndikuwopa!". Kodi mukuwopa chiyani, makamaka? Simudzawomberedwa chifukwa chakumverera kwanu. Ndipo ngakhale ngati simukubwezeretsanso, pali kutaya pang'ono. Mulimonsemo, nkofunika kutenga sitepe yoyamba. Mulole izo ziganizidwe mobwereza nthawi chikwi ndipo zidzasowa kwa inu kulimba mtima. Koma izi ndi zabwino kusiyana ndi kumalimbikitsa munthu modzichepetsa ndikudzivulaza kwambiri ndi kudziletsa kwake. Kotero, ngati mutasankha kuchita, malangizo awa adzakuthandizani:
- Bwanji ngati ndimakonda mnyamata wosadziwika? Choyamba, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa ngati muli ndi chizoloŵezi chodziwana naye, komanso kuti muli ndi zibwenzi zotani ndi anzanu. Yesetsani kuphunzira zambiri momwe mungathere ndi munthu uyu: zomwe amachita, zomwe amakonda, komanso ndithu amakumana ndi munthu wina. Ngati mtima wake suli wotanganidwa komabe, mukhoza kuchita. Zopambana kwambiri kuti chibwenzi chikhale zotsalira ziwiri - kufunsa abwenzi omwe akudziwitsani kuti akutsogolereni. Zingakhale bwino kuti inu muphunzire zofuna zake, kuti mukhale ndi chinachake choti mumusangalatse ndi zomwe mungakambirane naye. Njira yachiwiri ndi kuthandiza anzanu ndi abwenzi anu. Muyenera kusintha mkhalidwe umene mwakhala "mwangozi" mumamukakamiza, kapena mumakhetsa juzi pa iye, ndipo mwinamwake munataya chinachake ndikupempha thandizo lake kuti mupeze. Pali njira zambiri. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kuganizira kudzera mu sitepe iliyonse ndipo osavomereza kuti idagwedezeka.
- Atsikana ena osokonezeka alembe: "Nanga bwanji ngati ndimakonda anyamata awiri?". Zoonadi, zinthu sizili zophweka. Ndipo apa ndikofunika kusankha kuti ndi zinthu ziti zomwe anyamata omwe mumagwiritsa ntchito. Makhalidwe a anthu amawululidwa bwino pokhapokha ngati kulankhulana kwapafupi. Muyenera kudziwa aliyense wa iwo bwino ndikusankhira munthu mmodzi. Ngati simungatsimikizidwe patapita nthawi yaitali, ndi bwino kusiya zonse ziwiri kusiyana ndi kuvutika ndi kusankha komwe kupambana kwanu simungathe kuziwoneratu pasadakhale.
- Pali zochitika pamene wokonda ayenera kupereka mphatso. Kodi mungapereke chiyani kwa mnyamata amene mumamukonda? Poganizira kuti munthuyu ndi wokondedwa kwa inu, mphatso, ndithudi, iyenera kumubweretsa chimwemwe ndi kukhala wokondweretsa. Koma musasankhe chinthu chamtengo wapatali. Lolani kuti pulogalamu yanu ikhale yabwenzi komanso zothandiza mnyamatayo. Cholinga chanu ndi kulandira chiyamiko ndi zabwino ndi mphatso yanu.
Zirizonse zomwe muli nazo, ingouzani mnyamata yemwe amakonda - osati lingaliro lopambana. Kuchenjera kwanu ndi savvy kudzakuthandizani kuti muwone kuti mnyamatayo mwiniyo akufuna kukufikirani inu. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kukhala okongola, okongola kunja, odzidalira nokha, okoma mtima komanso ogawira ena zofuna za osankhidwa anu. Ziribe kanthu ngati muli ndi zolakwa zakunja. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kudzikonda nokha, ndipo anthu adzakonda. Chinthu chachikulu sikuti tiziopa chirichonse. Ndipo zizindikiro zomwe mumakonda mnyamata,