Mmene mungayankhulire ndi mwana?

Mbali za kulumikizana pakati pa achinyamata ndi akulu

M'badwo waunyamata uli wodzala ndi zotsutsana ndi zotsutsana. Kusokonezeka maganizo, mantha, kudzidalira kwambiri, mawonekedwe awo ndi momwe amaonera ena, malingaliro, chikhumbo chokhala ngati "wina aliyense" ndipo mosadabwitsa kuti kuphatikizapo kudzikuza, nkhanza, chikhumbo chotsutsa malamulo osakhazikitsidwa ndi axioms, amachokera ku gulu. Panthawiyi, makhalidwe onse ndi malingaliro pa moyo amayanjanitsidwa, ndipo ngakhale ana omvera ndi omvera kwambiri ana angasandulike kukhala osakhululukidwa komanso osayera achinyamata. Makolo ambiri amakumana ndi mavuto popanda kudziwa momwe angayankhulire ndi mwana wovuta, ndipo pazochitika zina zovuta kwambiri, mikangano yomwe inayamba pa nthawiyo ikukula ndikupitirira kwa zaka zambiri, kugawanitsa banja ndi kuwononga anthu ake mwayi wokhala mwamtendere ndi mgwirizano. Achinyamata ali wamanyazi ndipo nthawi yomweyo amatha kusonyeza, ndipo panthaŵiyi, kulankhulana m'banja kumakhala kovuta kwambiri. Tiyeni tikambirane mmene tingaphunzitsire mwana kuyankhula.

Mmene mungayankhulire ndi mwana wachinyamata?

1. Muzilemekeza malingaliro ake ndi malingaliro ake.
2. Musayese kuziletsa pazinthu zonse.
3. Pitirizani kuyesetsa kuti muwoneke bwino. Mwana wanu akuphunzira kumanga ubale ndi atsikana ndi ntchito yanu ndikumuthandiza. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuyang'ana abwenzi ake kapena ndemanga pa maonekedwe ndi khalidwe la atsikana ake omwe amadziwika bwino. Ingomuthandiza kuti azikhala wolimba mtima kwambiri.
4. Aloleni asankhe anzanu. Ngati muwona kuti akugwera ndi kampani yosavomerezeka, musamuwuze kuti mukutsutsa mwatsatanetsatane, musakane kuti muwone anzanu - izi zidzangokhala zotsutsana ndi mwanayo. Zoletsera inu mudzakwaniritsa chinthu chimodzi chokha - mwanayo amabisa kwa inu "abwenzi" oipa ndi makalasi. Gwirizanani, nkokayikitsa kuti izi ndi zomwe mukuyesera.

Mmene mungayankhulire ndi mwana wamkazi wachinyamata?

1. Musamulepheretse kuvala ndi kujambula momwe akufunira. Thandizo lothandiza iye adziwe momwe angasankhire zovala ndi zodzoladzola. Achinyamata amavutika kuti aone maonekedwe awo ndi ntchito yanu ndi kuthandiza mwana wanu kuti avomereze ndi kudzikonda nokha.
2. Mvetserani maganizo ake, musakane maganizo ake kapena malingaliro popanda kulingalira kokwanira.
3. Pewani kulamulira mwamphamvu - chipatso choletsedwa ndi chokoma, ndipo achinyamata amayamba kuchita zonse mosasamala malamulo.
4. Pewani kuweruza kosayenera ("yang'anani koopsa", "mumatichitira chilichonse chotsutsana ndi ife", "mumachita zinthu zonyansa"). Fotokozani malingaliro anu "Ine-ziweruzo" ("Ndakhumudwa kwambiri ndi khalidwe lanu," "ndiroleni ine ndithandizeni," "Ine ndikuda nkhaŵa").

Kaya mwana wanu ali ndi chiwerewere chotani, kumbukirani, iye ndi wodziimira yekha ndipo ali ndi ufulu wokhala. Perekani mwanayo mwayi wokhala ndi moyo wake, kupanga zosankha ndi kudzimvera. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera "kulola zinthu kupita nokha" ndi kulola mwana wanu wamwamuna kapena wamkazi kuti achite chirichonse. Muwalemekeze okha ndi kuphunzitsa zabwino osati mwa ziphunzitso za makhalidwe, koma pa chitsanzo chanu. Ngati mwavomera pa chinachake, tsatirani mawu anu. Simungathe kuletsa zomwe munagwirizana pa dzulo, chifukwa chakuti mukutopa kapena mukusiyana.

Mulole mwanayo kuti adzikonzekerere moyo wake, musamupangitse kuti azichita zinthu zowonongeka, moyo wake wonse. Khalani ndi chidwi ndi mwana wanu, pitirizani kukhala naye nthawi, mupeze nthawi yodzifunira kapena zosangalatsa. Lolani mwana wanu kuti akuthandizeni kusankha njira, ndipo mulole mwana wanu kuti akuuzeni za achinyamata - achinyamata omwe amakonda "kuphunzitsa", amawathandiza kukhala otsimikiza kwambiri. Uzani ana za ubwana wanu ndi momwe munaliri achinyamata. Phunzirani kumvetsera ndi kumvetsera, chifukwa zomwe mukuganiza kuti ndizosavuta, pamaso pa mwana akhoza kukhala chinthu chofunika kwambiri kuti asapeputse. Yesetsani kuyankhulana ndi mwana osati mwana, koma monga wamkulu yemwe ali wofanana ndi iyemwini. Malangizo ophweka awa adzakuthandizani kukhala ndi ubale wabwinobwino m'banja lanu komanso kupewa mavuto ambiri.