Mu moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, nthawi zambiri timanyengedwa. Timayesetsa kukwaniritsa chilungamo, kukhumudwa, kukhumudwa, zochitika ... Koma koposa zonse zimapweteka kuperekedwa kwa anthu apamtima, abwenzi, okondedwa - omwe timawadalira, omwe sitiyembekezera kuti "mpeni kumbuyo." Chonyansa chonyansa kwambiri ndi pamene iwe umaganiza kuti munthu akhale bwenzi labwino, ndipo akukhala Yudasi weniweni. Ife tikukamba za zowonjezereka.
Tanthauzo la chinyengo likutanthauza "kusweka chikhulupiriro." Makhalidwe abwino awa, omwe amadziwika ndi zochita zonyenga mwadala, kuphwanya zifukwa zomwe zimaganizidwa komanso kunyenga mwachinyengo za wina. Chitsanzo ndi:
- kusokonezeka kwa munthu kuti azigwiritsa ntchito pambuyo pake (chinyengo mu chikondi, mwachitsanzo);
- komanso kulakwitsa mwadala lonjezo kapena ngakhale chete, kukhulupirika komwe kunachokera ku mgwirizano pakati pa anthu;
- chidzudzulo, kunyozedwa chifukwa cha kaduka kapena chidani;
- mu maubwenzi pakati pa amai, nthawi zambiri pamakhala zowonjezereka, mwachitsanzo, zovuta zamitundu yonse, miseche, ndi zina zotero.
Liwu lakuti "wosakhulupilira" limakhala ndi tanthauzo lakuya kwambiri, komanso zokhudzana ndi zowawa. Koma kodi timamutcha kuti wotsutsa ndani? Ndipo momwe tingayanjanitsire ndi munthu amene adatiperekeza? Kodi n'zotheka, kumvetsetsa ndikukhululukira?
Zolakwitsa zazithunzi
Mwachidule, munayanjana ndi munthu uyu ndi dziko lanu, mumagwiritsa ntchito ziyembekezo komanso malingaliro. Koma adawononga zonsezi mwa kuchita kwake. Zoonadi, izi si zolakwika, zomwe nthawi zonse zingakhululukidwe osati "kunamizidwa chifukwa cha zabwino" ... Munthuyo adagwiritsa ntchito ubwino wake kwa iye, mopanda manyazi.
Kuchita bwino nthawi zonse kumakhala kochititsa mantha kwambiri kwa munthu aliyense, kumayambitsa zowawa zambiri, chifukwa, ngati choncho, anthu apamtima amapereka. Ndipo nthawi zambiri zimawoneka zopanda pake kuti ngati wotsutsayo akukumana ndi zowawa zofanana, zidzakuphweka kwa iwe. Chifukwa cha ichi, malingaliro osiyanasiyana a kubwezera (kuchokera ku zinthu mpaka kuthupi) si osowa. Komabe, izi zingangowonjezera mkhalidwewo. Munthu amene ali pambaliyi amadzipangitsanso kuti ali ndi mlandu chifukwa cha kuthamanga kwake. Ndicho chifukwa chake yesetsani kukhululuka. Inde, izi zidzatenga nthawi yambiri ndikulimbikira. Ndizosatheka kukhululukira nthawi yomweyo monga momwe n'zosatheka kuchiza bala mwamsanga. Pokhapokha ngati nthawi ikupita, imayamba kukoka, monga momwe kupwetekedwa mtima sikungokhala kovuta ndi nthawi. Ndiyeno ingoyesani kukhululukira.
Ndipo nkofunika kukumbukira kuti simungakhoze kuika anthu oyandikana nawo pamkhalidwe wotero, pamene amasankha pakati pa kukhulupirika kwa inu ndi kusakhulupirika. Timaganiza molakwika tikamaganiza kuti iwo omwe ali pafupi ndi ife ali oyenera ndipo nthawi zonse amafunikira kupereka chinachake kwa ife ... Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa lamulo limodzi losavuta kuti munthu asamuikire munthu mokhazikika ndipo malamulo a kusankha amasankha kukhala ndi anzanu.
Kodi n'zotheka kudziwa pasadakhale ngati munthu wina angathe kugulitsa? Kodi n'zotheka kuzindikira chizoloŵezi cha perfidy mu munthu wapafupi? Palibe zizindikiro zapadera, mwatsoka, wopanduko alibe. Kukongola kwapadera, luso lokumva ndikuwona chinthu chachikulu, chidziwitso chingakuthandizeni. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mupeza kuti mnzanu wapusitsa wina, sizomwe simungakhalepo. Ngati wokondedwa wanu "aika nyanga" kwa mkazi wake, kukumana nanu, sizowona kuti sangakupusitseni m'tsogolomu. Ndikofunika kuti mumvetsere nokha, mwa njira iyi mungathe kuzindikira kukhulupilira kwa anthu omwe akuzungulirani. Mverani mawu anu amkati ndipo nthawi zina mumakhululukire anthu opanda ungwiro.