Chosowa chimatchedwa khalidwe losagwirizana ndi malire a chikhalidwe chovomerezeka. Kufunika kolepheretsa khalidwe loipa la achinyamata ndiloti nthawi zambiri khalidweli likhoza kukhala loopsa osati kwa ena okha, komanso kwa achinyamata omwe. Khalidwe loipa ndi lowononga, limathandiza kuti achinyamata asaloŵe m'dzikolo, zomwe zimakhudza kwambiri achinyamata omwe ali achinyamata. kuyanjana ndi anthu ena ammudzi.
Mavuto oletsa kupewa khalidwe loipa
Kufunika kopeweratu khalidwe loipa kumagwirizanitsidwa, choyamba, ndi kugwirizana kwachinyengo kwa achinyamata ndi chiwawa pakati pa anthu: zomwe zimatchulidwa kuti khalidwe lowononga ana ndi achinyamata, limapangitsa kuti azichita zachiwawa.
Pulogalamu yopewa khalidwe loipa la achinyamata akuyenera kuthandizira ana kukhala ndi luso loyenera la chikhalidwe cha anthu. Achinyamata ayenera kumvetsa malire a zomwe zimaloledwa ndikuwonekeratu pakati pa njira zothetsera mavuto awo.
Njira zothandizira kupewa makhalidwe oipa ndi awa:
- chiphunzitso;
- zokambirana za maphunziro, maphunziro;
- mapulogalamu a maphunziro.
Pulogalamu iliyonse yothetsa maganizo a khalidwe losasintha imaphatikizapo zolemba zingapo, pakati pawo:
- Kupewa zokhudzana ndi maganizo.
- Kupanga malingaliro abwino payekha ndi zabwino "I-kuganiza".
- Kupewa zolakwika zogonana.
Kupewa chikhalidwe chachipembedzo cha khalidwe loipa kumathandiza achinyamata kuphunzira momwe angathetsere mavuto awo mwa kuvomerezedwa, njira ndi njira zolondola.
Malingana ndi msinkhu wa zovulazidwa zomwe zimakhudzidwa ndi anthu, magulu kapena anthu amasiyana kusiyanitsa mitundu yambiri ya makhalidwe oipa:
- kuwononga, kuvulaza mwana yekhayo - masochism, kudzikundikira, ndi zina;
- kusokoneza bongo, kuwononga chikhalidwe cha anthu (banja, abwenzi, oyandikana nawo) - kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa, uchidakwa, etc;
- zoletsedwa, zomwe ndi kuphwanya malamulo amakhalidwe abwino a anthu - chiwawa, kufunkha, kupha, etc.
Njira zothetsera khalidwe loipa
Pofuna kupewa makhalidwe oipa, njira zotsatirazi zimagwiritsidwa ntchito:
- Kusamalira chuma cha ana ndi mabanja awo;
- gulu la zosangalatsa kwa achinyamata. Pa nthawi yomweyi, kukonzekera zosangalatsa kwa ana ndi achinyamata ayenera kukhala pamlingo woyenerera - malinga ndi zofunikira za nthawiyi, kotero kuti ndi zosangalatsa kwa ana;
- kuphunzitsa maphunziro ndi mapulogalamu opititsa patsogolo maphunziro a achinyamata komanso kusokoneza achinyamata kuti asamakhale mowa mwauchidakwa, kusuta komanso kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala ena osokoneza bongo;
- kukwezedwa kwa moyo wathanzi, kuletsa kulengeza mowa, mankhwala osuta.
Mipingo yolepheretsa khalidwe losayenera iyenera kukhudza anthu onse ndi magulu onse a anthu. Popanda dongosolo, kutetezedwa kwakukulu, sikutheka kukwaniritsa zotsatira zabwino.
Njira ndi njira zodzitetezera ziyenera kulumikizana ndi mawonetseredwe a mawonedwe a kusowa.
Chofunika kwambiri kuti tipewe khalidwe losayenera ndilochibadwa, kudalira ubale ndi makolo. Zimakhala choncho kuti achinyamata amasonyeza khalidwe loipa pazinthu zina - pokhapokha kunyumba, kusukulu kapena ndi anzanu okha. Ndikofunika kuti makolo apeze ubale wabwino ndi mwana wawo - wachinyamatayo ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti ngakhale atalakwira, makolo ake sangamusiye, amatha kudalira thandizo ndi kuthandizidwa ndi banja lake. Mwa njira iyi mungathe kukhala otsimikiza kuti ngati vuto lachinyamata likuyamba kufuna thandizo kuchokera kwa makolo ake.