Ndipotu, pali njira zambiri momwe mungayendetsere munthu wamisala. Zonsezi zingagawidwe m'magulu awiri: deta zakunja ndi zochita. Pansi pa deta zakunja, timatanthawuza momwe mungayendetse mnyamata wamisala ndi mawonekedwe, kumwetulira, miniskirt. Koma mungathe kugonjetsa mnyamata ndi kumpsompsonana, kumakhudza ndi kupha. Njira zonsezi, zimadalira mkhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe cha mnyamata amene mukumufuna, koma pali njira zowonjezera zomwe sizidzasiya aliyense.
Kodi mungayendetse bwanji munthu wamisala?
- Mwina chida chofunika kwambiri cha amayi ndi kumwetulira ndi maso. Tangoganizirani msungwana wina wokhumudwa yemwe ali ndi maso. Kodi angayendetse bwanji mnyamata wamisala? Mwinamwake, mwa njira iliyonse. Ngati mtsikana akufunadi kuonekera pakati pa anthu onse ogonana, ndiye kuti maso ake ayenera kuunika nthawi zonse! Mwinamwake, mnyamatayo sayenera kuwona mwachisoni ndi kusowa chidwi. Zomwezo zikugwirizana ndi kumwetulira. Ngati msungwanayo amamwetulira, ndiye kuti adzakondweretsedwa ndikukambirana momasuka ndi munthu, ndipo iyi ndi imodzi mwa njira zodalirika zomwe mungayendetsere wokondedwa wanu wopenga.
- Chotsatira chofunikira cha msungwana aliyense chiyenera kukhala chosangalatsa chapadera. Kusankha izo nkofunikira kuti tisachoke ku zizoloŵezi zapamwamba za fashoni (ngakhale kwa iwo nazonso n'kofunika kumvetsera), ndikupitilira payekha. Kutenga kununkhira, muyenera kupeza fungo lanu, kotero kuti amakukondani nokha, kotero kuti akuwonetseni nokha.
- Palinso njira zambiri momwe mungayendetsere mpsompsonone. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kudziwa magawo akuluakulu a munthu wanu, ndikupsompsona malo awo. Mutha kumufunsa mosapita m'mbali kuti kumpsompsona kwanu kumamupatsa chisangalalo chachikulu, ndipo mungathe kufotokozera mwachidziwitso, kumangompsompsonetsa paliponse ndikuyang'ana momwe akumvera.
- Sokonezani mbali yoyandikana nayo ya moyo wanu. Gwiritsani ntchito cholinga ichi njira zosiyanasiyana. Sewani maudindo osiyanasiyana, yesani zovala zamkati ndi zidole. Ngakhalenso kumayambiriro kwa pulayimale m'malo mwachizoloŵezi chokhazikika ndi malo angakhoze kale kuonedwa kukhala osiyanasiyana. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, mulole mnyamatayo adziwe kuti inunso mumakonda, kuti mumamufunadi, ndipo musamuchitire chifundo.
- Amakhulupirira kuti mnyamatayo akhoza kutengeka ndi mawu. Koma luso limeneli silipezeka kwa mtsikana aliyense. Pambuyo pa zonsezi, chifukwa cha ichi muyenera kukhala ndi timu ya mawu, kuthamanga kwakukulu, kusangalatsa. Ndipo zigawozi zonsezi siziphatikizapo munthu mmodzi. Komanso musataye mtima, mutha kuyendetsa misala yanu ndi kuyamikira kwanu. Amuna achikondi akamatamandidwa ndi kuyamikiridwa ndi iwo, ndipo ntchito ya mtsikanayo ndi kuigwiritsa ntchito mwaluso.
- Khalani akazi. Ndiko, yesetsani kutsindika kuti chilengedwe chakupatsani chiyani. Valani zidendene ndi zisoti zazifupi, onetsetsani kuti khosi ndi nsalu yayitali. Ndipo musakhale odzudzula, chinthu chachikulu si kukula kwa chifuwa chanu, koma momwe mungachitire. Pambuyo pake, mukhoza kubisa mabere akuluakulu komanso okongola pansi pa mpango wakale wa agogo aakazi, kapena mungapereke yaing'ono kuti anyamata ayambe kuthamanga.
- Ndipo kodi mukukumbukira momwe amayi anu adakuuzani kuti: "Njira ya kumtima ya munthu imakhala m'mimba mwake"? Choonadi ichi chidali chofunikira. Ndi zokhazokha zokha kuti munthu yekha angathe kuphika mokoma sikokwanira, koma monga Kuonjezera kuzinthu zina, ziyenera kukhala. Komanso, tsopano ndi zophweka kuphunzira momwe mungaphike bwino. Makampani akuluakulu ali ndi zinthu zamitundu yambiri, mapulogalamu ambiri opangira pa TV, ndipo pa intaneti pali masamba ndi sitepe ndi malangizo komanso zithunzi za zozizwitsa zamakono.
Gwiritsani ntchito mphamvu yanu mu mphamvu zonse, ndipo simusowa kuyendetsa galimoto wamisala. Ndiye anyamata enieniwo adzafunika kuyang'ana makiyi a mtima wanu.