Mukudabwa kuti mungakonzekere bwanji ndikukonzekera msonkhano wamtengo wapatali, mwinamwake mwakonzeratu mawu anu ochepa omwe mumagwira ntchito ndipo yesetsani kuganiza mozama kuti mukhale ndi chikhulupiliro cholimba. Koma popanda nzeru zamaganizo inu simungathe kusamalira. Choncho, musadutse pakhomo la nyumba yanu, mvetserani zothandiza zingapo.
Onetsani bwino abwana anu
Wogwiritsira ntchito angakuwoneni inu koyamba mu zokambirana. Kwa iye, dziko lanu la mkati (lomwe, ndithudi, liri lolemera ndi loyenera kulemekezedwa) ndilobisika, kudziwa kuti, mu nthawi yomwe ilipo, palibe nthawi. Choncho, ndikofunikira kuti "muwonetse" maonekedwe anu mu chithunzi choyenera. Inu mukufuna kuti mukhale ndi chidwi cha munthu wamalonda ndi munthu wamkulu, sichoncho inu? Choncho, sungani malamulo awa:
- palibe mini, khosi lakuya ndi pantyhose mumtambo. Kutaya pantyhose ndi mawonekedwe oipa;
- samayiwala za kumveka kokongola komanso kosavuta. Maso ndi manja ayenera kukhala okonzeka bwino. Tsindikani zabwino ndikubisa zofooka. Khalani achibadwa;
- mpweya watsopano umathandiza kumvetsa. Ngati mumasuta, sizabwino kuti mukhale ndi timbewu ta timbewu tambiri. Palibe ching'onoting'ono, ndipo ndi bwino kusiya ndudu zonse mpaka kumapeto kwa kuyankhulana;
- sangalalani. Kumwetulira ndi maganizo abwino ntchito ntchito zodabwitsa. Musagwedezeke ndipo musapange kayendedwe ka mantha. Khalani ndi chidaliro mwa inueni. Ngakhale ngati simukuvomerezedwa, ndiye kuti mudzapeza njira yabwino kwambiri;
- fotokozani momveka bwino ndi malingaliro anu. Musati "mumve", ndinu wamkulu, pambuyo pa zonse;
- ngati chikalata chanu pa maphunziro sichikhala changwiro, kambiranani ndi munthu amene mukumuyankhula. Mulole kuti asakhale ndi nthawi ndikufuna kuyang'ana "zizindikiro" zanu. Wokondwa ndi kukambirana nanu, iye adzaiwala za machitidwe awa;
- Khalani ndi makhalidwe kotero kuti si inu omwe mumafunikira (abwana ndi ntchito), koma ali mwa inu. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti mukuyenera "kuzunza mphuno" ndikuziyika. Onetsani makhalidwe anu apamwamba ndikuwonetsa zofuna zawo. Kunama, ndithudi, sizabwino, koma mumatha kupaka.
Kodi mungasangalatse bwanji interlocutor?
Ndikofunikira osati zomwe mumanena, komanso momwe mumachitira. Kulankhulana kosafunika n'kofunika kwambiri kuposa mawu. Chowonadi mu malo omwe
- peĊµani kusungidwa kotsekedwa;
- lankhulani mwanjira yomweyo monga interlocutor wanu;
- yesani kutsanzira zochita zake. Koma musakhale ovuta kwambiri;
- Musayang'ane kutali ndi kumwetulira.
Kondweretsani nokha, ndiye ena adzasangalala kulankhula nanu.