Chikhalidwe cha achinyamata

Tonsefe tinadutsamo zovuta zaunyamata. Koma pokhapokha pokhala makolo, tikhoza kumvetsetsa zolemetsa zonse za moyo uno. Winawake akuwopa kuti mwana wake sangaloŵe m'banjamo, wina amanjenjemera ndi nkhanza kwambiri, kapenanso, khalidwe lachidwi la mwana. Ndizochitikira kwa ana zomwe zimatipangitsa ife kulowa mkati mwa psychology achinyamata, ndi kufunafuna njira zothetsera mavuto awo. Komabe, musadabwe ngati mwanayo akukana thandizo lanu: potha msinkhu, malangizo onse, makamaka kwa akuluakulu, amawoneka "mwaukali."

Pofuna kuthandiza mwana kuthana ndi mavuto, munthu ayenera kukumbukira zosiyana siyana za maganizo ake pa nthawi imeneyi. Tiyeni tipeze zomwe ziganizo zamaganizo ndi zokhuza za achinyamata zingakhale komanso chifukwa chake izi zimachitika.

Maganizo a achinyamata

Aliyense amadziwa kuti maganizo a ana a zaka zapakati pa khumi ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri (15-15) amatha kusintha nthawi zambiri. Izi zimachitika chifukwa cha kumangidwanso kwa thupi la mwana, lomwe likukonzekera kale kukhala wamkulu. Ndipo palibe chodabwitsa kuti kusintha kumeneku kumakhudza psyche - iyi ndiyo malo osatetezeka kwambiri, "Achilles" chidendene "cha munthu aliyense. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amasiyanitsa mitundu yotsatilayi ya achinyamata:

• ntchito - chisokonezo;
• kudzikonda - kusayanjanitsika;
• chisangalalo - kulepheretsa;
• mavuto - kumasulidwa;
• mantha ndiwo chimwemwe;
• kudzipereka - chisokonezo;
• chiyembekezo chiri chiwonongeko;
• nkhawa - kukhala chete;
• kudalira ndiko kukayikira.

Ngakhale kuti malingaliro awa ali osiyana, ali achinyamata akhoza kusintha ndikusintha kwa nthawi yochepa. Monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, zimayambitsidwa ndi mphepo yamkuntho ndipo ikhoza kukhala chikhalidwe cha mwana wathanzi wathanzi. Tsopano akhoza kukambirana nanu mwaubwenzi, ndipo maminiti awiri - mukhale pafupi nokha kapena mukonzekeretseni ndikuchoka, mutseke chitseko. Ndipo ngakhale izi siziri chifukwa chodandaula, koma zokhazokha zokhazokha.

Komabe, zikhalidwe zomwe zimakhala ndi khalidwe la mwana wa msinkhu uno, zimapanganso kupanga mapangidwe ofanana a khalidweli (kutsika kwambiri kapena kudzichepetsa, nkhawa kapena kukondwa, chiyembekezo kapena kudandaula, etc.), ndipo izi zidzakhudza moyo wake wonse wamtsogolo.

Njira zogwiritsira ntchito malamulo komanso kudziletsa pazinthu zaunyamata

Malangizo omwe makolo ambiri ali nawo ndi achinyamata okha, "kupulumuka", kupirira nthawi ino. Ndithudi, mwana wathanzi wathanzi amatha kuthana ndi mavuto omwe amachokera kwa iye. Makolo ayenera kumvetsetsa khalidwe lake ndikukhala ndi iye molimbika kuposa nthawi zonse. Mosiyana ndi zimenezo, kuti mukhale ovuta kumuthandiza mwana wanu wokhwima, zidzakhala zosavuta kumanga ubale ndi inu. Gwiritsani ntchito mfundo zanu mu "kholo-mwana", kuyankhulana naye ngati simukufanana, ndiye kuti ndinu ofanana ndi inu nokha. Kumbukirani kuti pa msinkhu uwu mwanayo ali pachiopsezo, ngakhale atasonyeza. Ndipo ayenera kudziwa kuti makolo nthawi zonse amakhala kumbali yake, kuti siye yekha ndipo ngati mutakumana ndi mavuto, thandizo. Koma panthawi yomweyi munthu sayenera kupempha thandizoli - zikhala zoyenera kokha ngati mwanayo satha kupirira ndikupempha thandizo, kapena mukuona kuti akufunikira kwambiri.

Ngati kuli kotheka, musazengereze kufufuza malangizo kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo omwe amadziwa mavuto a achinyamata , ndipo ngati pali mavuto akuluakulu, kwa wodwala matenda opatsirana maganizo.

Okondedwa makolo! Musaiwale kuti muyenera kukhazikitsa chiyanjano ndi mwana wanu, kuyambira ali wamng'ono. Izi zidzapewa mavuto ambiri nthawi yachinyamata.