Zimadziwika kuti abambo ndi amai samangokhala osiyana ndi thupi, komanso psychology. Ndipo izi zikutanthauza kuti zomwe akazi amakonda sizikondweretsa amuna. Tiyeni tiyesetse kuzindikira zomwe zimachititsa amuna kukhala ngati, zomwe zigawo zoyenera ziyenera kuika chidwi chawo kuti apereke okondedwa awo zosangalatsa zambiri.
Kodi mungamudyetse bwanji munthu?
Mukhoza kukondweretsa osati milomo yanu yokha, komanso ndikunong'oneza, pamanja. Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti kusankha malo owoneka bwino, sizodabwitsa kukumbukira kuti amuna ali ndi vuto lochepa poyerekeza ndi akazi.
Choncho, ganizirani mwatsatanetsatane malangizo omwe angakuthandizeni kumvetsa komwe mungakhumudwitse wokondedwa wanu.
- Nkhope. Amuna ambiri amawakonda pamene mkazi wokondedwa amakhudza nkhope zawo. Kulankhula chinachake m'makutu ake, kenako kuluma pang'ono. Malo ovuta kwambiri pa nkhope ndi milomo. Chodabwitsa, mwamuna aliyense amakonda kumpsompsona pamilomo. Gwirani milomo ya mnzanuyo ndi lilime lanu komanso lanu.
- Manja. Chiwerengero chachikulu cha mapeto a mitsempha chili m'manja. Ndikoyenera kukumbukira kuti muyenera kukakamiza wokondedwa wanu, kugwira manja. Gwirani dzanja lanu pamzere. Sizingakhale zopanda phindu kukometsera wokondedwa.
- Mabere. Pafupi ndi mtundu wanji wa chikondi mofanana ndi amuna, analemba mabuku ambiri ndi nkhani. Ambiri mwa iwo amadziwika kuti ziwalo zamwamuna za m'mawere ndi zofanana ndi zazimayi. Kugonana kwakukulu sikumveka bwino, koma kumatha kutenthetsa, mwachangu
kulimbikitsa izo. Tikukulimbikitsani, kuti tipeze minofu yosavuta, ndiyeno tifunikize kuti tizitha kupweteketsa minofu, ndi zina zotero. Poganiza kuti zakhala zowonjezereka, sungani kumapewa, kumbuyo kumbuyo, kumbali. Pambuyo pake, bwerera kuchifuwa kachiwiri. - Kutaya ndi kumbuyo. Mu zolakalaka zolakalaka, finyani mwamuna wammbuyo, ndikuwombera pang'ono. Pachifukwa ichi mumupatse mnzanuyo kuti akuchita zonse molondola.
- Amafunikanso pazondondomeko zamagonana pogonana. Kwa amuna, chisangalalo chimabweretsa msinkhu wa kayendetsedwe, koma osati kusiyana kwawo. Iyenera kukhazikika pang'onopang'ono. Musamvetsetse bwino chiwalo cha mnzanuyo. Koma musaiwale kuti kupanikizira kumunsi kwa chiwalo, mumachedwa kuchepetsa umuna, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti mumapitiriza kutalika kwa mapeto.
Amuna, ngati akazi, amafunika kuyang'ana patsogolo. Sizothandiza pakufulumira, fulumira kugonana. Yang'anirani zomwe mumakonda ndi zomwe siziri, mwamuna wanu.