Mlembi wa buku lakuti "Nzeru Mwankhope Yanu" Jean Haner akunena kuti milomo imatha kunena zambiri za umunthu wake ndi khalidwe lake mu ubale, mwachitsanzo. Malingaliro ake, ziwalo zonse za thupi laumunthu zidapatsidwa kwa iye mwangozi, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti iwo akhoza kufufuzidwa ndi kuwerengedwa.
1. Kutanthauza golidi.
Milomo si yopepuka ndipo si yaikulu. Chikhalidwe cha eni ake, monga lamulo, chilingaliro. Iwo sali okwiya ndipo sangapangitse amatsenga opanda pake kumalo awo. Koma iwo sadzasiya kudzipereka kwathunthu ku chiyanjano. Mu moyo wa anthu oterowo, zonse ziyenera kukhala zochepa.
2. Mlomo wamwamba wapamwamba.
Sayansi ya ku China ya anthu owerengera ikukhutira: ngati munthu amasintha nkhope yake mwachangu, amasintha zofuna zake. Ndiko kuti, ngati mwachita chinachake kumaso anu, ndiye kuti mwatsika njira yomwe mwakonzeratu.
Haner amakhulupirira kuti munthu yemwe wachita chinachake ndi milomo yake amakhala wovuta kwambiri, wodzikonda, amaletsa kuthetsa maganizo ake ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala mpainiya wodabwitsa.
Ngati mlomo wam'mwamba ndi wochepa kwambiri kuposa wachilengedwe, ndiye mwiniwakeyo ayenera kukhala munthu wotseguka ndi wachifundo, omwe mavuto ena a anthu ena amadandaula kwambiri kuposa awo.
3. Makhalidwe apamwamba.
Kawirikawiri, anthu omwe amafuna kudzipeputsa okha, komanso odziwa bwino ntchito komanso omwe akufuna kupeza zosangalatsa zambiri kuchokera ku moyo, kawirikawiri amapita opaleshoni kuti awonjezere mlomo wapansi.
4. Zonse ziwiri zochokera ku chilengedwe.
Ndi pafupifupi mawonekedwe abwino. Odzipereka ake kuposa china chirichonse m'dziko lapansi amakondweretsa ubale. Amasamala kwambiri za ena ndikupeza chisangalalo chenicheni. Amasankha bwino abwenzi ndipo amangosinthika ndi anthu atsopano. Ndipo anthu oterowo amayamikira kwambiri ubalewu.
5. Mzere wakumtunda ndi wamtsika.
Omwe ali ndi zitsamba zawo, omwe okha amamva bwino koposa. Ayi, izi sizikutanthauza kuti anthu oterewa ndi olakwika pachibwenzi. Ambiri mwa iwo amapanga mgwirizanowo wamphamvu kwambiri kuposa omwe "amodzi". Kwa nthawi yomwe iwo amakhala omasuka okha.
6. Mphepete pamlomo wapamwamba ikufanana ndi mapiko.
Omwe a mtundu uwu wa milomo ndi oyankhulana bwino. Iwo ndi savvy ndi kulenga. Chifukwa chochita chidwi, nthawi zambiri amangoti, asanaganize, motero amakhumudwitsa ena.
7. Zopangira zazikulu za pamlomo wapamwamba.
Amati munthu ndi wokoma mtima komanso wolemekezeka, wachifundo komanso wachifundo.
8. Pafupifupi mlomo wapamwamba.
Ichi ndi chizindikiro cha kusowa kwa malire. Anthu omwe ali ndi milomo yoterewa ndi odzikonda kwambiri. Vuto lawo lalikulu ndilokuti akuyesera kudzitengera okha kuthetsa mavuto osiyanasiyana, nthawi zina osati awo. Ndipo izi siziri nthawi zonse chisankho choyenera.
9. Milomo yachilengedwe ndi kutupa pamwamba ndi pansi.
Amene ali ndi milomo yoteroyo amavomereza kuti ndizofunika kwambiri ndipo samapirira kusungulumwa. Mu chiyanjano, amatha kuchita masewero komanso kudzikonda. Koma nthawi zambiri kukondwa ndi kukhudzidwa kumabweretsa zofookazi.
10. Pakamwa pang'onopang'ono ndi milomo yonyansa.
Mu ubale, eni ake poyamba amaganizira za iwo okha. Koma kwenikweni iwo sali odzikonda okha. Atalandira gawo lofunikira kuchokera ku theka lachiwiri, iwo mwamsanga akulipira kulipira kwawo. Paunyamata, anthu awa akhoza kuvutika chifukwa cha kufunikira kokhala nawo mbali. Koma ndi msinkhu iwo amakhala otetezedwa kwambiri.
11. Mwammutu wamtundu wapamwamba komanso wosavomerezeka.
Pakuti eni a milomo yotereyo amagwira ntchito. Chifukwa cha izi, nthawi zambiri mumakhala mavuto. Amakonda kufulumira kwinakwake ndipo samadziwa momwe angathere. Malingana ndi ziwerengero, Haner, milomo yoteroyo ili ndi 60% ya amuna.
12. Chimake chachikulu ndi milomo yonyansa.
Munthu wokhala ndi pakamwa chotero ndi wopatsa ndipo nthawi zonse amaganizira zomwe angakhale othandiza kwa ena. M'malo mwake, anthu okhala ndi milomo yayikulu ndi milomo yopepuka amakhala obisika komanso odzikonda.
Haner amakhulupirira kuti zomwe zimachitika ndi pakamwa pa tsiku zimakhudza ubale. Kotero, mwachitsanzo, ngati mukuyenera kuyambitsa milomo yanu kwambiri, ubale ukhoza kukhala ndi mavuto.