Mu maloto, munthu amakhala ndi nthawi yambiri akukumana ndi malingaliro ndi malingaliro monga chowonadi. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti maloto ndi kugwirizana pakati pa chidziwitso ndi chidziwitso, ndipo ndi kutanthauzira kolondola amatha kuphunzira zinthu zambiri zosangalatsa. Azimayi nthawi zambiri amakhulupirira otanthauzira maloto, chifukwa amakhala okhumudwa kwambiri. Maloto omwe mwamuna wokondedwa ali m'manja mwa mkazi wina amachititsa kuti asagwedezeke ndipo amachititsa mantha. Musamawopsyezedwe pasadakhale, muyenera kudzikweza nokha ndikudziwe bwinobwino zomwe zinachitika. Chimene chinganenedwe ndikuti pambuyo pa maloto oterowo nkofunikira kuyambiranso mwatsatanetsatane ubale ndi wokondedwa wanu.
Nchifukwa chiyani ndikuganiza kuti ndikupandukira mwamuna wake?
Loto lopandukira lingathe kukuwonetsani zokhazokha ndi zochitika zanu, mwinamwake mukukayikira kuti mwamunayo akuyenda "kumanzere" kapena nsanje yambiri yakupangitsani inu ndi maloto. Kawirikawiri, kupandukira ndi chizindikiro cha nkhanza ndi mikangano, osati ndi wokondedwa, koma ndi achibale, anzanu komanso anzanu. Yesetsani nthawi ino kuti mukhazikitse pansi ndi kuthetsa mavuto onse popanda kuwatsogolera.
Ngakhale masomphenya a usiku ngati amenewa angakuuzeni kuti mu moyo weniweni pali kusintha, kotengedwa ndi mwamuna wanu. Mwinamwake, simukufuna kuvomereza ndikutsutsana ndi chifuniro chanu. Kutanthauzira kwina kwa chifukwa chake akulota kuti mwamuna wake akunyenga adzakuwuzani kuti panthawi yomwe mudayamba kugwiritsa ntchito ndondomekoyi, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo munadzidzimangiriza nokha, ndipo simunaganizire mfundo zofunika, ndipo izi zingakhudze zotsatira zake.
M'modzi mwa mabuku olota maloto muli zonena kuti malingaliro a chiwonongeko ndi chizindikiro chakuti posachedwapa mudzaimbidwa mlandu wotsutsana ndi lamulo, koma nkhaniyo idzakhala yopanda phindu, koma zosakhalitsa zosasangalatsa zidzatsalabe. Ngati muwona kuti munthu akunyenga ndi bwenzi ndi chizindikiro cha chiwonongeko cha ziyembekezo zanu. Wotsogolera maloto amalangiza kuti asinthe maganizo ake kwa wokondedwa wake pang'ono, akhale wokoma mtima ndi wokhululukira zolakwa zake zing'onozing'ono, izi zidzamuthandiza kuthana ndi mavuto ndi kusangalala. Ngati kwa inu, maloto, omwe mwamuna amasintha nthawi zonse, mwinamwake, inu mwachidwi mumafuna kupeza kapena kuyamba maganizo kapena phwando pa phwando kapena mbali ndi kuganizira nthawi zonse kapena izi.
Mukhozanso kupeza chidziwitso chakuti malingaliro a chigwirizano amayamba chifukwa cha nkhawa yanu, yomwe imakhumudwitsidwa ndi kudzidzimva chifukwa cha chilakolakocho. Izi sizingagwiritsidwe ntchito pa kusakhulupirika konse, koma mwamunayo akhoza kuchita zoipa pa zomwe zinachitika. Kulota chiwembu kungakhale ndi kutanthauzira mosiyana, mwinamwake posachedwa pakati pa inu ndi mnzanuyo ubale udzakhala wofunda ndi wowona mtima.
Ngati mutadzuka m'mawa, mukhoza kubwereza zomwe munaziona, mwachinthu chochepa kwambiri - ndi chenjezo kuti m'moyo weniweni muyenera kukhala osamala ndi anthu apamtima, chifukwa akhoza kukuchititsani manyazi. Pamene mwamuna wanga ankafuna kusintha, koma nthawi ina anasintha malingaliro ake, ndi chizindikiro kuti mavuto onse adutsa.
Nchifukwa chiyani akulota mbuye wa mwamuna wake?
Ngati wokondedwa wake anali bwenzi lapamtima, buku lotolo limalimbikitsa kuti usamamvere mwamuna wake, koma kwa iye.
N'chifukwa chiyani mumalota zomwe mwamuna wake adamusiya?
Ngati muloto mnzanuyo adavomereza kuti wasintha iwe ndipo akuchoka - chikumbumtima ichi chimakupatsani chitsimikizo kuti vuto lafika mu chiyanjano ndipo malotowo akhoza kukwaniritsidwa. Osadandaula, muli ndi mwayi wokonza chirichonse ndi kukhazikitsa ubale, chirichonse chili mmanja mwanu.